Should You Give Back the Ring After a Broken Engagement?

Should You Give Back the Ring After a Broken Engagement?

In The Video Above Dear Sybersue discusses how to deal with “the ring” situation after an engagement ends!

Do you keep the engagement ring out of spite because your fiance blindsided you with this breakup out of nowhere? Do you sell it? Do you tearfully give it back to your Ex-fiance? Angrily throw it in his face?

Is it a really good thing to hold onto it? Why would you want to look at it and keep reminding yourself of the marriage that never took place? 

If you believe in karma it may not be the best idea to keep the ring just to get back at your Ex for bailing on your partnership.  Maybe the universe was looking out for you and you dodged 10-20 years of an unhappy relationship?

It is never easy when someone walks away from the future you had planned together and the heartbreak can last a long time. This is why it is important to remove the memories that cause the pain. This includes, photos, social media ties, (yes, that means not creeping him out on facebook) and the engagement ring.

When Would It Be OK to Keep the Ring?

  1. If you have been engaged for more than a few years. If you have been wearing this ring for a long time then it is really yours to keep or sell, depending on how the breakup takes place. If it is a mutual decision then you may be OK with wearing the ring on your other hand. You can always make a nice necklace or earrings out of it too! 😉 wink wink.
  2. Your Ex-fiance strongly expresses he doesn’t want the ring back!
  3. Your Ex cowardly disappears after breaking off the engagement and you are not in contact with him.

Has this happened to you and how did you handle it? Sybersue Loves to hear from her viewers & always responds back!

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Keeping Things Equal In A Relationship

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Plenty of people have trouble keeping things equal in their relationship from level of control to decision-making. Often, the partner that is naturally more powerful begins to take over all the decisions and consciously or subconsciously starts to exert control.

This is never going to be a healthy situation and it can lead to one person in the relationship feeling completely helpless and pushed down. That doesn’t always mean that there are issues like abuse or manipulation but even the scales shifting slightly in one direction can lead to trouble. So, how do you keep things equal?

Encourage Give And Take

People in relationships should take turns from choosing where to go on holiday to choosing what to watch on TV.  This is a healthy reciprocation, where each partner is happy to give and take so that both can get what they need.

Making these decisions together isn’t always possible if you are opposites. This means that what you want to do one evening might be nothing like what your partner wants to do. The best way to fix this is with a schedule of some sort.

Relationships tend to break down when one partner begins to make all the decisions. Suddenly one of the partners will feel as though they are not living their own life but rather a role in someone else’s story.

Sharing Choices

Of course in most cases, it will be possible to make decisions together as a couple and this can begin the start of a healthy relationship. For instance, you might decide what restaurant to eat at on your first date together or discuss what activity to do on your second date, rather than one person setting up the night for the other.

Later on as the relationship progresses, it could be present in the choice of an engagement ring. You might decide to choose it together, despite traditionally this being a gift from the person proposing.

According to http://yourdiamondguru.com/reviews/ritani-review/, there are great options if you do decide you want to choose the engagement ring together. This sharing of power keeps things equal even in a situation where it is predominantly one person’s decision.

If you find that you aren’t naturally finding yourself in scenarios where you can share choices, it suggests one person has more control over the other. This will lead to animosity and the person being controlled will begin to pull away eventually  exploring and alternate partnership.

Discussions Are a Big Positive

You might think that if you find yourself constantly disagreeing with your partner, it’s a sign that your relationship is unhealthy. But that’s not true because as we’ve already mentioned, opposites tend to go together. You can read more about choosing a partner on http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lena-aburdene-derhally/.

The true defining point of the relationship is seeing how productive these discussions are. If they often evolve into fully heated screaming matches, obviously there’s an issue. By debating points of view and then accepting differences in opinion is a sign that things are in a healthy place.

Don’t avoid talking about sensitive topics. This is just going to cover up a potential or ongoing issue. Eventually you’ll find that by avoiding these topics you will reach a boiling point and a serious argument will erupt seemingly from nowhere. Naturally this is due to the fact that all the little issues that aren’t being discussed are bubbling underneath the service.

Small Gestures Matter

As people say, “the devil is in the little details” and it’s the small gestures that matter most when it comes down to having a great partnership. This could be anything from helping bring in the shopping to doing the washing up together, rather than leaving it to one person. Little gestures like this are the foundation of a strong relationship where each partner feels equal to the other.

If one partner is constantly putting in all the effort, the relationship isn’t healthy. They might feel lonely and begin to look to other people to provide the level of comfort and support that their partner should provide.

We hope this helps shed some light on how to keep things equal in a relationship and why not doing so could ultimately lead to your partnership breaking apart.

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Don’t Give up on Love & Relationships!

Don’t Give up on Love & Relationships!

Dear Sybersue discusses how many men and women are sad, lonely or angry about the difficulties in finding a solid partnership today.

Many people are giving up on ever having a loving relationship due to all the high maintenance attitudes and lengthy checklists they come across in the dating world of the Millennium.

With all the world problems that effect us every day shouldn’t we try to at least have love in our personal lives? Isolating ourselves in a negative and angry environment is not the answer to attracting the love we all deserve to have.

I don’t believe for a moment that people really don’t want a relationship.  I think this attitude is due to past rejections, crushed egos, fear on what hasn’t worked and how difficult it is to find authentic love today.

People are becoming more shallow and have higher expectations than ever before. Why has this happened and how do we change things up so that we can have love in our lives?

Please watch the video above and leave your comments below this post. What do you think is going on?

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HELP! My Life is Crazy & My Sex Life Is Non-Existent In My Marriage!

HELP! My Life is Crazy & My Sex Life Is Non-Existent In My Marriage!

Dear Sybersue:

I live a very full & pretty decent life for the most part. I have two children, a dog and a great partner whom I still love after 10 years. His job is demanding & I work 5 days a week myself. I am also putting in time to develop my own business on the side to help with our heavy mortgage.

Needless to say juggling it all and still having a busy social schedule is a challenge as I am sure it is for many people out there. My sex-life is non-existent at the moment & my passion for it is a little depleted due to the lack of physical connection my husband and I share.

Even though I seem to be managing my crazy life, I have to admit I feel tired & stressed out all the time these days!

I do not take care of myself in the way I should due to time restrictions with work, & the children’s activities. I do not feel nearly as sexy or attractive as I used to in my single days. I don’t have time to be the feminine hot woman of my past existence anymore.

I don’t even know what a girl’s night out is these days! My friends seem to have given up on me because I have so little time for them. I don’t blame them.

Every so often I get very depressed and do not want to see or talk to anyone which makes it even worse. I feel overwhelmed ~ Any ideas to help??

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Traveling With Your Partner Can Make or Break Your Relationship!

Traveling With Your Partner Can Make or Break Your Relationship!

In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses traveling with your partner before you make any big relationship commitments!

It’s really important to compromise on any travel arrangements and have the talk before you pack those suitcases! You don’t want to blindside your partner with numerous quirks, expectations, anxieties or fears without discussing them before the trip.

We all change a little when we travel because it puts us in a different element than what we are used to with our daily routines. We don’t have the same control as we do at home which can feel unsettling.

Little things can become big things when plans are altered due to weather, flight or hotel cancellations, lost or stolen items, a sudden illness or just plain jet lag! Sleep deprivation can affect the moods of even the gentlest of souls.

How do you deal with traveling with your partner? Any tips?

Please share your stories in the comment section under this post to help others get through those tough first vacations together!

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Does Your Partner Keep Threatening to Leave Your Relationship?

Does Your Partner Keep Threatening to Leave Your Relationship?

Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL Dating and Relationship Advice Talk Show for Men & Women of all Ages!

Today Sybersue discusses a relationship problem that affects more couples than you may think! If you end up with a partner who is confrontational and threatens to leave you on a consistent basis, it is time to take action on your end!

You don’t have to live with someone who uses intimidation tactics to get what they want or because they aren’t happy with who they are! You deserve someone who respects you. If you have to walk on eggshells to appease them all the time, how is that a relationship?

A partnership should consist of a reciprocated love and wanting the best for each other. If your partner is constantly throwing out ultimatum threats towards you, then it time to stand up for yourself or get some outside counselling that can help you deal with why you are allowing it.

If they really aren’t happy, let them go. Why should you be their dumping ground for whatever they are not dealing with in their own head?

People who truly love each other do not treat each other this way. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship; do not settle for this type of scenario.

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Relationship: My Buddy Saw My Girlfriend on a Dating Site!

Relationship: My Buddy Saw My Girlfriend on a Dating Site!

Dear Sybersue answers Scott’s question about his girlfriend Sandra being seen on a dating site by one of his best friends! They have been living together for 2 years! He is in love with her and is very hurt about hearing this upsetting news today.

Scott thought everything was going great! WTF?

They do not have an open relationship and he is exclusively committed to Sandra. He hasn’t confronted her yet because he is trying to make sense of how this could happen.

Did he do something wrong? Is their sex life an issue? Were there some red flags that he ignored? She has shown no indication of being unhappy or discussed any problems with Scott.

Could the information be wrong?

What are your thoughts? How should he confront her? I think most of us would say he should he dump her sorry ass, but he at least needs to hear her side of the story beforehand.

Please leave your comments below & if this has happened to you or know someone this has happened to how did they handle the situation?

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