Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord (aka Dear Sybersue) gets many questions from her male viewers on her advice column and this topic “5 attributes that men want in their partner” is one of the biggest conversations of all.
Women think all men care about is sex but that isn’t true for most guys. They want a loving relationship just like women do.
They are tired of being categorized and want women to know what is really important to them. Dear Sybersue promised to do this video (above) on behalf of the numerous emails she received on the subject.
Many women have lost hope when it comes to finding a partnership and are incredibly frustrated with the whole dating scenario. Men feel the same way and this is now becoming a big negative environment with both sexes.
As Dr. Phil says “How’s that working for you?”
It’s not right? So what are you going to do; complain about what’s not working or change things up so that they do work?
How Do We Do That Ladies & Gentlemen?
- We stop repeating patterns that are causing us drama. Stop going for the unavailable hot bad boys or bad girls would be a great start. This situation is usually very short lived and while you may have one or two nights of wild sizzling sex, it can leave you feeling lonelier that before you dated them.
- Don’t give out TMI! Stop telling people every little thing about what makes you tick. Take your time divulging private things about yourself.
- Leave a little mystery so they want to find out more about you. I certainly don’t condone playing games with them but hold back some things until you know them better. You don’t even know if you like them yet so don’t give away all your fabulous secrets.
- Be authentic to who you are. No one likes to find out 3 months later that what they thought they had in common with you, was just a lie to keep them interested.
- No one is better than anyone else so if someone comes up to talk to you when you are out for the evening, acknowledge them. You may be shocked at how much you enjoy talking with them.
- Be aware of your body language and how you come across. I can’t believe how many men and women portray “resting bitch face” out there. Smile! 🙂
- If you have a bad date don’t become disillusioned with the whole process. Get back out there on a different horse.
- Stay positive! No one wants to hang out with Dick or Debbie Downer.
- Everyone has insecurities but don’t let them define you so that you sabotage a potential partnership.
- Be kind to everyone all the time. There is no room for arrogance, self entitlement, being high maintenance or too picky!
- Real love doesn’t come easy and is worth the wait. Be a little more patient and embrace all new opportunities that come your way. If it were too easy to find it wouldn’t be special would it?
- Lose the 12 page checklist. That person doesn’t exist!
- You have your own life so don’t lose sight of that by making someone your whole world. Don’t lose your identity to be with someone else.
- Be careful not to become a texting stalker. Too much too soon is a big turnoff.
- Learn from you dating mistakes, don’t repeat them, own your part in what didn’t work and always listen to your instincts.
While there are definitely some hurdles with dating in the millennium, they are things that are pretty cool as well. Social media tools can bring us together in a much bigger way if we use them correctly.
Life is not meant to be easy but it is how you handle “those annoying curveballs” that will bring you closer to being centered and present so that you can be the best YOU!
The quicker you move on from those obvious red flags will be when your new journey begins. When you meet that loving person to share your life with there are no deep dark questions. It just fits and flows beautifully. There is no drama and there are no BS games to deal with.
We all want love in our life and there is someone for everyone once we change our attitude and believe we deserve it.
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In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses one of the popular questions she gets on her advice column from women.
“Things have changed within my relationship, how do I know if my boyfriend is really in love with me?”
If you are asking this question you have probably not been paying attention to what is really going on in your partnership. When it gets to this stage it can often be the “beginning of the end” of your relationship. I am not trying to scare you but it is important for me to point this out and it may not be too late to salvage your love. ❤
Nurturing any relationship in your life is an ongoing necessary practice.
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend Daniel for 3 1/2 years and we have been engaged for 2 years. He proposed to me with a very simple gold band but he has promised me there will be a bigger and better wedding ring the day we walk down the aisle together.
I am 33 years old and Daniel is 36. We have very few discussions regarding any marriage plans and no actual date has been set on the calendar for the wedding ceremony. We have talked about having children but everything seems to be in a holding pattern since we got engaged. I am ready to be a mom but it is important for me to be married first!
Do you think I am fooling myself waiting around for him to go through with us ever getting married? Is this band on my finger basically a promise ring and nothing else? He is continually saying how stressed he is with work and finances etc. but I personally think it is an excuse so I won’t bring up any wedding talk! Continue reading
Do you really want to be in a relationship but you don’t feel positive about yourself or worthy of having love in your life? How do you remove this negativity and start to feel good about yourself?
We are ALL attractive and have something to offer, but if we don’t believe that about ourselves how will someone else believe we are a wonderful person?
Your self esteem is the foundation of your life. If you feel good about yourself and talk in a positive light people will want to be around you. If you keep pointing out negative things about who you are people may start to believe you!
How do you stop sabotaging love from happening for you?
- People gravitate toward others who are happy and positive about life; not someone who sees doom & gloom on a regular basis.
- By diversifying your life and continually trying new things, it will keep you from becoming stuck in a dull or pessimistic routine and more interesting to be around.
- Understanding you may need some professional help to work on your optimism and remove the negative comments about yourself and others.
- Put yourself in the company of happy people and happy scenarios.
- Don’t allow yourself to be a part of negative gossip, especially if it involves your friends, family or colleagues.
- Write down the things you like about yourself and read them out loud everyday!
Please watch the video above for more tips on how to change this up and believe you deserve love in your life! ❤
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In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses traveling with your partner before you make any big relationship commitments!
It’s really important to compromise on any travel arrangements and have the talk before you pack those suitcases! You don’t want to blindside your partner with numerous quirks, expectations, anxieties or fears without discussing them before the trip.
We all change a little when we travel because it puts us in a different element than what we are used to with our daily routines. We don’t have the same control as we do at home which can feel unsettling.
Little things can become big things when plans are altered due to weather, flight or hotel cancellations, lost or stolen items, a sudden illness or just plain jet lag! Sleep deprivation can affect the moods of even the gentlest of souls.
How do you deal with traveling with your partner? Any tips?
Please share your stories in the comment section under this post to help others get through those tough first vacations together!
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I am so happy to have found you on YouTube and your videos answer many of my questions about dating & relationships! Although, I haven’t seen one that can help me with my question. That is the reason I am here on your advice column/blog asking for advice. (I hope you will film one regarding this issue for other people as well.)
Here is my question:
I am a 38 year old woman who wants to meet someone special to have a committed partnership with but I have no single friends to go out with.
All of my friends are in relationships and I am tired of being the 3rd wheel! It makes me feel like I am a burden to them and that they feel obligated to let me tag along. (Or they feel sorry for me which is even worse!) I appreciate their support but I think it is wearing thin on them. I try not to complain but sometimes I just can’t help it.
How do I get up the courage to go out alone? How can I meet new people?
Dear Sybersue answers Scott’s question about his girlfriend Sandra being seen on a dating site by one of his best friends! They have been living together for 2 years! He is in love with her and is very hurt about hearing this upsetting news today.
Scott thought everything was going great! WTF?
They do not have an open relationship and he is exclusively committed to Sandra. He hasn’t confronted her yet because he is trying to make sense of how this could happen.
Did he do something wrong? Is their sex life an issue? Were there some red flags that he ignored? She has shown no indication of being unhappy or discussed any problems with Scott.
Could the information be wrong?
What are your thoughts? How should he confront her? I think most of us would say he should he dump her sorry ass, but he at least needs to hear her side of the story beforehand.
Please leave your comments below & if this has happened to you or know someone this has happened to how did they handle the situation?
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