Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating and relationship advice columnist for men & women of all Ages!
In today’s video Sybersue talks about people who are afraid to be themselves with their partners and who may be sabotaging their relationships without even being aware of the damage that is taking place on a daily basis.
When you hide your feelings and don’t divulge much of what you are thinking or feeling to your partner it can cause all sorts of problems that may never be resolved. Lack of communication between a couple is one of the biggest reasons for breakups today!
If you don’t talk openly with each other, what type of relationship do you have?
Pushing your partner away because of insecurities will not keep your relationship in a healthy place. How do you honestly think it will improve if you become more and more introverted about your true feelings?
They deserve more respect and your full attention. You are not in a part time situation that allows you to close down and shut your partner out. They have emotional and physical needs that shouldn’t be put on the back burner.
How long do you think they will want to stay in a one sided romance?
You fell in love for a reason; don’t let your relationship die due to fear, sabotage or laziness. Talk to your partner and tell them what’s going on inside your head. They will probably be more supportive than you think!
When you open up and share your feelings with them they know you trust them, which is a big part of a great relationship. Clamming up and pretending all is good, is not being true to yourself or to them. You both deserve more.
Go on, you can fix this! ❤
The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses; “Are you Constantly being pressured by your friends to be in a relationship?”
Do people think they know what is best for you? Are they always trying to set you up with someone but you just want to be left alone?
Does your family also put in their opinions about your relationship status?
It might to be time to tell everyone to butt out if you enjoy being single right now! It’s not their business to be telling you what they think you should or shouldn’t be doing in your life even if they they think they have your best interest at heart. ❤
We all need time to get over a relationship breakup and allow love back into our lives. Sometimes the scars of heartbreak run deep and we need more time to rediscover ourselves without any pressure from others.
It also could be the scenario of putting your career first and you don’t want to complicate your life having to deal with both. Sometimes you just can’t do it all and you know that about yourself. It’s better than juggling too much and giving your partner the dregs of what you have left! No one wants to be that low on the priority list.
This is a good thing because you are respecting and honoring your boundaries at this particular time in your life.
But on the opposite side of the fence; make sure you aren’t sending out mixed signals to your friends about not wanting to get back out in the dating market again. You might not be aware that you are confiding to them that you are actually missing being in a relationship, how difficult it is being the 3rd wheel or that you feel so alone going solo to a wedding or other events.
It is a great thing that your friends and family care about you so don’t be mad at them for wanting you to find happiness. It is OK to gently communicate that you are very appreciative of their support but you would rather meet someone on your own when the time is right.
Have you had to deal with this scenario? How did you handle it?
Please leave your comments below. ♥
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
Dear Sybersue discusses how many men and women are sad, lonely or angry about the difficulties in finding a solid partnership today.
Many people are giving up on ever having a loving relationship due to all the high maintenance attitudes and lengthy checklists they come across in the dating world of the Millennium.
With all the world problems that effect us every day shouldn’t we try to at least have love in our personal lives? Isolating ourselves in a negative and angry environment is not the answer to attracting the love we all deserve to have.
I don’t believe for a moment that people really don’t want a relationship. I think this attitude is due to past rejections, crushed egos, fear on what hasn’t worked and how difficult it is to find authentic love today.
People are becoming more shallow and have higher expectations than ever before. Why has this happened and how do we change things up so that we can have love in our lives?
Please watch the video above and leave your comments below this post. What do you think is going on?
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
I live a very full & pretty decent life for the most part. I have two children, a dog and a great partner whom I still love after 10 years. His job is demanding & I work 5 days a week myself. I am also putting in time to develop my own business on the side to help with our heavy mortgage.
Needless to say juggling it all and still having a busy social schedule is a challenge as I am sure it is for many people out there. My sex-life is non-existent at the moment & my passion for it is a little depleted due to the lack of physical connection my husband and I share.
Even though I seem to be managing my crazy life, I have to admit I feel tired & stressed out all the time these days!
I do not take care of myself in the way I should due to time restrictions with work, & the children’s activities. I do not feel nearly as sexy or attractive as I used to in my single days. I don’t have time to be the feminine hot woman of my past existence anymore.
I don’t even know what a girl’s night out is these days! My friends seem to have given up on me because I have so little time for them. I don’t blame them.
Every so often I get very depressed and do not want to see or talk to anyone which makes it even worse. I feel overwhelmed ~ Any ideas to help??
From The Suburban Housewife
I have had many men and women write my advice column regarding painful memories from their loveless childhood that still haunt them into their adult life. This can make having a relationship problematic due to ongoing insecurities or not understanding what love truly is.