Mom Knows Best: What I know now in my 50’s that I didn’t know in my 20’s/30’s!

Mom Knows Best: What I know now in my 50’s that I didn’t know in my 20’s/30’s!

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Many people ask me why I published a book & why I chose to be a YouTube Talk Show Host and Blogger in my 50’s!  My answer is “why not?”

Why wouldn’t you want to listen to a woman who has been there done that and has so many friggen T-shirts she could open her own store?  Isn’t it easier to learn from someone else’s mistakes and that by doing so, it might be able to prevent drama filled scenarios from happening to you?

Hello!  I wish someone had helped pave the way for me in my 20’s!  Some of my life lessons give a whole new meaning to “banging your head against a brick wall” and I can tell you that I pretty much caved that sucker in!

I never understand why so many businesses get rid of their mature employees because they think that only young new blood in the room will bring a fresh outlook to the company???  That may work for gaming markets or teen clothing lines but why wouldn’t you also want people on your team that have “walked the walk of life?”

Age experience is invaluable and should never be underestimated in any place of business.  Successful companies get what I am talking about!! There should always be a mix of men and women of all ages to give a well rounded and balanced outlook to anything in life.

OK enough of that crap; let’s talk about how you can save yourself a lot of unnecessary drama or life lessons that really could be avoided.

Whoever made up the cliché “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” should be smacked upside the head because that isn’t exactly a heartwarming statement and doesn’t come without a whole pile of steaming BS to deal with! Listen to someone older and wiser to make changes in your life because it saves you one Hell of a lot of time and many embarrassing moments!

 What I did or didn’t do in my youth that I would do differently today:

  • Put money away to buy a house rather than buying shoes or spending money partying every weekend. $$$$
  • Not use baby oil and spend hours in the sun at the beach! (Stay away from tanning beds!!)
  • I would have started yoga in my teens (not at 48) to keep up the muscle tone and flexibility into my later years.  Have you seen their bodies in the yoga studios?! Damn! Susan Yoga
  • Learned about nutrition and stayed away from the high-carb diet of the 80’s and then having to deal with those 25 extra lbs for the next 10 years!
  • I would have had stronger boundaries and knew when to let go of something or someone that wasn’t healthy a lot faster!
  • I would have been happy with my AA breasts that I was regularly made fun of in my teens. I have the last laugh now that mine are still perky and above my belt line. That’s right bitches!
  • Understood my self-worth was more important than being with some guy who was only there for sex.
  • I would have had more expectations from the people who I was close to in my life so I wasn’t just the constant care giver and nurturer.  Relationships and friendships need to have a reciprocated respect towards each other. Even strong people need support!
  • Removed myself from people who squashed others accomplishments and only surround myself with positive like minded men and women.
  • I wish that I had someone to lean on and confide in through my teen years. A go-to person.
  • Trusted my instincts and listened to those spidey senses telling me NO because they were always right!
  • I would have understood that bullies are assh*les and nothing they had to say had any value; because they were more insecure than I ever was.

What choices did I make back then that have worked out well in my life today?

  1. I started weight training at 19 years old. This keeps the body parts uplifted for a lot longer and helps defy gravity! I actually have cleavage now and my butt hasn’t blended in with the back of my thighs! (yet) I kept up my Kegel exercises especially after childbirth! (I strongly recommend Googling this ladies!)
  2. I understood by age 17 how “Bad Boys” were a pain in the ass and not worth the one night stand of hot sex!  It was sure fun watching them try though!
  3. I worked 4 part time jobs starting at an early age which gave me the financial freedom to move out of an unhealthy environment at 17 and buy my first cheap car.  Saying that; I learned a lot about cars due to the lemons I owned over the years! Need an oil change? Tires changed? Battery jumpstart? I’m your girl!
  4. I started writing in a diary when I was 10 years old which I have now made into a career later in my life. Whatever passions or talents you have in your younger years is what your career should consist of.  Get paid to do what you love!
  5. I chose to be “a doer” and not allow some of the hardships I endured throughout my years to control my life direction in a negative way.  I learned how to pick myself up and keep going forward.  Playing the victim keeps a person stuck for a very long time.
  6. I knew how important it was to tell my son how proud I was and how much I loved him regularly and not repeating a pattern from my own childhood.
  7. Being the oldest girl of 5 kids I learned how to be a mother at an early age which gave me the tools to be a devoted and independent single mom for 18 years. Flight Attendant Shot
  8. I visualized the job I wanted as a flight attendant from the age of 13 and made it happen. I flew the friendly skies for 20 years. (Until they became not so friendly.)
  9. I constantly took courses in anything that interested me; which kept me continually growing in new directions. You will always hear me say that “diversity is the key to staying young!” You will always have something to talk about and you will never be boring to be around.
  10. I learned that humor will get you through anything and being a little crazy is a good thing. ❤ FullSizeRender (18)

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Teachers come in all age groups and when you are open to receiving their knowledge, life will become easier and make so much more sense!  Don’t make excuses as to why things haven’t worked out or play the victim and prolong the bad choices you may have made.

Don’t turn your nose up at someone sitting beside you who may be a lot older than you; embrace the moment and ask them questions.  Get inside their brain and learn all that you can, because I can tell you from the bottom of my 50+ year old heart, there is one Hell of a lot of valuable knowledge and life experience in that mature head of theirs.

Go ahead and try it and you’ll see what mama’s talking about! ❤

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

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My Pregnancy Memories Many Years Later: The Whole Truth & Nothing but the Truth.

My Pregnancy Memories Many Years Later: The Whole Truth & Nothing but the Truth.

 

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Me in My 20’s 2 days after I Delivered My Baby

My Pregnancy Memories Many Years Later: The Whole Truth & Nothing but the Truth.

When I talk to other women about their pregnancy days I often hear how precious and wonderful they were.  Seriously??? I wish I knew how to glamorize those barf filled days of morning sickness, the painful nipples, emotional mood swings and the hours of labor pains!  I have to say that my memories are as vivid today as they were many years ago.  OK; not everyone experienced my special moments of early motherhood but I am here to tell you the real truth about what actually happens in those 9 months for some of us.

I got pregnant when most women cannot conceive but I will spare you the details. I knew instantly when my size 36 A (if I pulled the straps really tight) boobs turned into 38 C’s in a short amount of time! I could actually crack walnuts and open a beer with my cleavage! This was incredible and I made damn good use of my new talent. (My husband had fun playing motor boat with them too!) Tight t-shirts were my wardrobe staple until my tummy started to take over in the latest body bump department. This is when I had to wear the large sweatshirts that said “No I have not eaten my way through the Oreo cookie factory, there is a baby on board!”

At the 4 month mark of my pregnancy I ended up moving to Texas from Vancouver, Canada for my husband’s job. I was on a leave from my flight attendant career so we decided to venture out on this new path for 1 year. We knew no one in Dallas and I spent most days alone in our apartment trying to keep my food down, watching The Price is Right and fighting off the crickets that seemed to come in through the chimney! There are some big ass bugs down in Texas!

As a very social woman it was such a big transition for me that I tried to have conversations with anyone who called the wrong number, the produce guy at Safeway and our poor mailman that obviously felt sorry for me. I even befriended a guy at our communal pool area that had just got out of jail for armed robbery! Sadly I’m not kidding but I can tell you I wasn’t bored on those afternoons!

After the barfing ceased, I got back into my gym routine. Most people had no idea I was pregnant but one guy did mention that I seemed to work out so hard but kept getting bigger and maybe I should change my diet. Yup, that’s what he actually said. It was really funny when I came back to the gym after I gave birth and he said “Wow that diet really worked, you’ve lost a lot of weight!” I just smiled.

I went to Lamaze class every Thursday and learned all sorts of things to be aware of during delivery. It’s not scary at all to learn that I could have my “Who Ha” sliced and stitched, a forceps delivery, an upside down baby (instead of sunny side up), a very long labor, a transitional phase that turns women into Linda Blair from the Exorcist movie, an epidural with a foot long needle, an emergency C section and a poop accident on the delivery table in front of the entire hospital staff.  Dr. Pickle, yes that was my doctor’s name, said not to worry and that everything looked fine. (Looking back now I know why I really did crave dill pickles for those 9 months that I saw him!) I swear if they showed those Lamaze videos before women got pregnant the population wouldn’t be anywhere near as high in the world today. Just saying!!

So guess what?

All those things I mentioned above pretty much happened to me on delivery day with the exception of the C-section. Oh and the poop part didn’t happen either because when the doctor asked me if I had eaten anything before I got to the hospital I had to own up that I had eaten an entire loaf of bread to try to calm down my stomach labor pains. (You know; the whole comfort food kind of thing.) Nothing like doing an enema with 10 interns looking on! I did end up doing the Linda Blair thing on my husband when he decided to put his feet up and take an hour nap while I was doing that breathing thing that didn’t work.

28 hours later after I got to the hospital I had the pain epidural and let me tell you they were not kidding in Lamaze class when they said it was a foot long needle! 9 hours later, yes count em 9 more hours, I delivered an upside down baby boy with the help of forceps after my “Who Ha” was cut and my not so funny husband telling the doctor to put a few extra stitches in there. (Which I am pretty sure he had never heard before!) Our baby was healthy and we were all amazed he didn’t have a cone head trying to get out of my love canal for 37 hours.  He was pretty cute actually!

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Children are Happy When Their Parents are Happy too.

We moved back home a few months later and I resumed by job at the airline. My husband & I divorced when my son was 18 months old and I became a single mom until he moved out at 19. There are many stories in those years that I could tell you about; like the one about my son growing marijuana in his toy box for 2 years and how I met the neighbors due to a party he had and all the barf (I do seem to love this word but my life was full of it all those years ago) dripping down their windows!  Yes, it will become my next book one day and I will probably title it something like “Teenagers are shitheads!”

Today my son is a head chef and doing very well. We are super close and always have been with the exception of ages 15-19 Lol. He is my sun, moon and universe and I am very proud of him and who he has become as a young man today. He came into my life for a reason and it was a powerful one.  He has taught me a lot about who I am. ❤

I remarried 8 years ago to an amazing man; I quit my job as a flight attendant, started a Lifestyle talk show, published a book, became a certified dating coach  and an advice columnist/blogger! I love my new life in my 50’s! Ohhhh and to top it all off, my boobs are back to an almost perky 36A and my “Who Ha” is just fine thanks to Dr. Pickle and keeping up my Kegel exercises!  (Sorry that’s probably too much information just as this whole article probably is too!)

All this bitching aside would I do it all over again?

Of  friggen course I would! Pregnancy and motherhood is not easy but it is the best gift life has to offer.  Although I now understand why God gave women the Uterus, because I don’t know any man that could get through one menstrual cycle let alone 9 months of pregnancy. We really are one strong group of amazing women and our children better kiss our slowly drooping ass for the rest of our lives. They owe us big time!

Moms rule and always will!

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

Terror in Paris November 2015

Terror in Paris November 2015

There are so many opinions out there right now stating that most people only really care, when horrible things happen to 1st world Countries such as what happened with the Paris Attacks yesterday. Mass murder is devastating in every part of the world in which it occurs and people do care!

It is a senseless and cowardly act when innocent people are gunned down for no reason at all! People all around the world come together in crisis and natural disasters all the time and I am tired of hearing that no one gives a crap! I for one passionately care about all wars in the world and the people who are affected by them on a daily basis!! Just because I live in Canada doesn’t mean I turn a blind eye to world problems! I am devastated when I hear any heart breaking news events!

We need to stop pointing fingers at each other and use our voices and social media resources to be there for one another with love and compassion not to add more fuel to this power hungry group of individuals who are trying to destroy human comradery!

Each person can make a difference by caring for others and not allowing negative comments to cause further fighting.  How we all deal with the aftermath of a tragedy such as this horrendous situation in France, will be the answer to us staying together as a united front and find some sort of peace in the world.

Dear Sybersue: My Boyfriend is a Nice Guy but I Like Bad Boys!!

Dear Sybersue: My Boyfriend is a Nice Guy but I Like Bad Boys!!

Why do I Always go for the Bad Boys?

Why do I Always go for the Bad Boys?

Dear Sybersue:

I have been dating my boyfriend Andrew exclusively for 1 year now and I really do love him. He is ready to take the next step and move in together but I am questioning whether we are a good match for a long term commitment. He is the ultimate nice guy and is everything a girl would want! He really is a perfect boyfriend. I never have to question things or try to figure him out because he is always so even keeled and non confrontational. Our sex life is good; a little on the vanilla side but I am very attracted to him physically!

The problem is:

I am used to bad boys and really miss the excitement of it all! I am 31 years old and should be ready for a real relationship by now, but there is something that keeps pulling me back from wanting a normal conventional existence with one guy. I miss the intensity of bad boy sex and spontaneous get-togethers from my past a year ago. I know I should be thankful that I have someone in my life who loves me unconditionally without all the B.S. of a guy who is only there for a “good time not a long time,” but I admit I am a little bored with Andrew.

What do you suggest I do?

Thanks Sybersue, April84

Dear April,

Have you ever thought about what it would be like for you not to have Andrew in your life? Are you possibly taking him for granted because he is always available and there for you? Maybe you are used to the up and down drama from your past “bad boy relationships” and miss that intensity of the constant mystery. Are you really OK with your past booty call lifestyle and can you see that continuing on for the rest of your life? If your sex-life is too vanilla with Andrew then you need to discuss ways to spice it up. Tell him what you like and take the initiative to change it. Most guys are pretty open to new things in the bedroom!

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dear-sybersue-my-bf-is-a-nice-guy-but-i-like-bad-boys SWSusan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette~“Be Kind to One Another!”

The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette~“Be Kind to One Another!”

"What The World Needs Now is Love"

“What The World Needs Now is Love”

The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette ~ “Be Kind to One Another!”

Talk Show Host Ellen DeGeneres has a tag line she repeats at the end of every show; “Be Kind to one Another.” It is a simple yet important statement from this popular celebrity because we ALL need to think about our actions toward others who we come in contact with on a daily basis. Ellen has the incredible power to reach millions of people and to share important messages for them to think about. She also shows an incredible compassion for many people and organizations who are less fortunate and often helps them out on her show.  Is Ellen making a difference in her quest for kindness in the world and can one person really make an impact on people’s attitude?

Absolutely they can!

Ellen uses comedy and compassion in much of her show content which allows people to be comforted and relaxed for that one hour a day. Can you imagine how much better the world would be if we all thought and acted just a little bit more like her?

The simple human behaviors are dwindling away and we are becoming a much more self absorbed society with less regard for others around us. This has to change and we can start to do this by changing the little things we have all forgotten about. The computer age has made us retreat from “face to face” connections and we all need to remember how to interact to each other with kindness.

I want to end this post on a positive note so I will start with The Etiquette Don’ts first:

  1. Be aware of who is around you and respect their space! This should be a given but it is amazing how many people do not look behind them when they attend an event or any outing at all.  They stand in front of someone who was there before them or barge into lineups. Wait your turn!
  2. Driving your car: Do not turn left at the last minute; do not drive in the fast lane at a slow pace; don’t pick your nose while driving ~ sorry I had to say this; don’t tail gate other drivers due to road rage and do not pull past the stop sign so your car is hanging out in oncoming traffic! Let people merge in once in awhile, don’t speed up so they can’t get in.
  3. Dog Owners: Do not tie your dog up outside ANY establishment and let them bark. There is no need for a dog to bark continuously if they are trained properly. That said, get them trained. Pick up your dog’s poop! If your dog is unpredictable put a muzzle on them in public as a protection for other dogs they come in contact with. Do not leave them shut in condos or houses barking all day. Get a dog walker or bark collar. Your neighbours shouldn’t have to listen to it. Your dog is in distress so do something about it as a good owner should.
  4. Help someone who is trying to get through a door with their hands full. Who ever gets to the door first; hold it for the person behind you! I cannot tell you how many young kids today don’t even look behind them.
  5. Manners need to be addressed: Reply to any invite you receive! Don’t be late for anything without proper notice to who you are meeting; Do not bail on people at the last minute leaving them hanging; it’s not all about you. Never go to someone’s house for dinner or party empty handed. Follow up every invite with a thank you email or phone call. Don’t say you will attend something and then not show up ~ this includes a wedding! It is shocking how many people do this!
  6. Pedestrians: Cars are bigger than you! They have the right away. Follow the walk signs and do not start walking when it says not to. This blocks traffic and causes jams because the cars can’t get through.
  7. Don’t take up space for 2 or more people when in a confined area like a sauna, yoga studio, movie theater or a crowded coffee shop. Sitting at a table for 6 when you are alone is selfish. Invite others to sit with you if that is the only spot left.
  8. Don’t be one of those neighbors! Be friendly and careful about noise levels of stereos, kids or pets on balconies/backyards too early in the morning or loudly talking late night in the hallways of condos or hotels. If you’re planning a party let them know ahead of time and maybe invite them to attend it.
  9. Don’t expect your colleagues to work harder than you for the same salary. Calling in sick or being late on a regular basis puts more stress on everyone at the office.
  10. Don’t take your friends, family or loved ones for granted! Nurture these special relationships on a daily basis.

The Do’s of Daily Human Etiquette:

  1. Smile and say hi to people you pass on the street, that you sit near at a restaurant or at any event you attend.
  2. Be happy for people who achieve their goals or milestones and acknowledge them. Being around others who are ambitious and positive is contagious!
  3. Do or say something nice to someone everyday! It not only makes them feel good it makes you feel good to see them smile and appreciate your gesture.
  4. Help people feel comfortable when they are new to a situation.
  5. Be aware of people with special needs. Smile, make eye contact with them and help them if you can see they need assistance.
  6. Don’t be afraid to speak up and protect someone who is being treated badly by another person. The same thing applies if you feel you are being disrespected. We can all be teachers in the simplest ways. Use a diplomatic approach and make them think about what they did.
  7. Spare some time to be of service to a charity or group environment that needs help. Paying it forward is a wonderful thing. Get others involved by making them aware of how rewarding it is.
  8. Always remember where you came from regardless of how successful you are. Treat people well and never forget that life throws curveballs to everyone. We all need a mentor or someone who believes in us and gives us a chance.
  9. Literally respect your elders! They are not invisible and should never be treated as so. Older generations paved the way for our freedom so always be thankful for their sacrifices. Take the time to talk to seniors whenever possible. Some of them do not have family and many of their friends have passed on. They can be very lonely.
  10. Everyone has insecurities so rather than be jealous of someone who you think who has everything, be aware that they also have “stuff’ that isn’t perfect. Assumptions are dangerous and keep a person in a narrow minded place. Being positive and taking yourself out of negative scenarios will keep you focused on the good things life has to offer.

“Treat each other how you want to be treated” is an old and very wise cliché that needs to be practised on a regular basis. We are forgetting how to be supportive to others and spending too much time worrying about our own survival. The world is changing and the need for power in certain Countries is very overwhelming. We all need to fight back even in the smallest ways, to keep humanity in a respectable place. If everyone puts in a little effort every day we can change the attitude of people around the world but we need everyone to do their part. Don’t ignore it; be proactive and make a difference.

As the song says: What the World Needs Now is Love

1965 popular song with lyrics by Hal David and music composed by Burt Bacharach

“What the world needs now is love, sweet love. It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of. What the world needs now is love, sweet love…No not just for some but for everyone!”

Susan McCord @ Dear Sybersue Talk Show

How to Deal with Dating Insecurities & Inhibitions!

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Get Out & Mingle to Remove Insecurities and Inhibitions

Dating Insecurities & Inhibitions!

Dating Insecurities is not the same thing as dating inhibitions but both scenarios will cause havoc in your love life if practiced on a regular basis.  Inhibitions can just be lack of experimentation or fear of the unknown.  Insecurities can be a lot stronger where help may be needed from a therapist to change a deep rooted problem.

What are some of the more common insecurities within our relationships?

  • Body Image is #1!
  • Intellect ~ are we smart enough for them and afraid of saying the wrong things?
  • Their career is intimidating ~they are more successful.
  • Asking yourself or them why they are with you ~ you don’t feel worthy.
  • They more outgoing than you. You feel overlooked and invisible in a group.
  • They are very attractive to the opposite sex!
  • They have a very strong sex drive & you worry they will wander.

On a sexual level if you have had only a few partners in your lifetime, you may feel intimidated with how to make yourself sexier due to your inexperience. There may be a fear of how to initiate something or communicate with your partner between the sheets. This is very common & can be addressed easily if you are with the right partner who cares about you. There will be an openness that encourages you as a couple to experiment comfortably because you are not judging each other.

On the flip side; if the only people you have slept with constantly tell you that you need to lose weight or criticize you in the bedroom, this will not only make you feel insecure, it will inhibit you from wanting to be a better lover.  A little encouragement goes a long way and if you are continually brow beaten into submission, you are not going to feel confident enough to bring out the tiger that lurks beneath.

There is making love and then there is sex; and with the right partner it can be mind blowing & life altering! How many times have you talked to your friends about what a good lover someone was, when really it was mostly about how they made you “feel” during that time? It wasn’t all about the happy ending but what happened in between that made you feel special. There was romance and a gentleness that allowed you to reciprocate the same back to your partner because they made you feel safe which allows the walls to come down.

Humans excel when they are complimented or rewarded with simple acknowledgement. Being a controlling person may get you want you want initially but after awhile it will be the demise of your relationship. Many of our choices are a reflection of how our life started in the early stages of our youth. Some of us chose a parent figure as a guideline or role model to mold ourselves after which can either be a good thing or bad thing. It is a visual behavior or pattern that many people fall into. If you spent much of your younger years being berated by your family or by bullies at school, your self esteem will play a huge part in who you become as an adult. The sooner we understand this the faster we will be able to change our beliefs and confidence levels.

What do we need to do to gain more confidence & lose our inhibitions that have plagued our growth & desires for too long?

Most of us are more comfortable with the “devil we know” as opposed to the one we don’t, so we continue to live in our childhood sandbox rather than venture outside to a new dimension. We are creatures of habit and are not overly comfortable in a completely new environment; so we repeatedly choose relationships that keep us from growing.  Therefore our inhibitions continue to “own” us.

Inhibitions are one of the reasons online dating has become so popular. It is easy to hide behind a computer & try to get to know someone through E-mails and text messages. It is not as intimidating as the initial face to face contact & there is much less personal rejection because they haven’t actually met them yet.  The problem with this type of dating is that you can take your time on the compute, unlike the bar situation where you only have a short time to take action before they leave. Unfortunately though the biggest complaint about dating sites/apps is that many people never actually end up meeting in person and spend way too much time texting without ever making a date.

Alcohol “liquid courage”is probably the most popular inhibition release there is. (I swear liquor stores would go out of business if people were as confident without it! How many people do you know that have got up to sing karaoke sober?) Social environments are popular when the booze is flowing generously, but at the end of the evening it may just be another story for the dating diary when you either add another booty call to the list, or hand out your number to someone who never ends up calling. It is always best to connect with people on a sober level regardless of how shy or insecure you may feel.  Practice makes perfect! The more you put yourself out there the more comfortable you will become with face to face connections.

If you feel overwhelmed by your inhibitions & insecurities observe the people you have allowed in your life.

  • Are your friendships healthy and reciprocated?
  • Are your family and friends genuinely interested in your happiness?
  • Is your job rewarding or deflating?
  • Are they encouraging or do they try to squash you and your achievements?
  • Do they offer assistance and support when things aren’t going well in your life?

Remember, inhibitions have to start somewhere. The more we alleviate negative behavior from our lives the more we will become comfortable to let down our guard to be more of who we actually are before the walls went up! We don’t start out frightened or afraid to try things, which is why many toddlers need to be watched carefully at early stages of their lives. They will try anything!  We become more inhibited and insecure as our lives unfold; especially if we have constant aversion.

The more you do something a little out of character, the more you get over your inhibitions.  Get out of your comfort zone as often as you can.  Do something daily that you would not normally do.  Experiment with strangers by talking with them, saying hello, or smiling.  Talk with “trusted” friends or family about your insecurities or inhibitions. It is also good to talk to a professional counselor as they will be nonjudgmental and it might make you open up even more.  By discussing these private subjects, it will enable you to learn how to actually deal with them because you are now aware of them.  They will be supportive & offer suggestions to help you get past it & make your life more rewarding.  Do the same for them as well.

Remember; we “all” have something we are insecure about & could use guidance on.  No one is immune to that.

Susan McCord ❤ Please Follow & Subscribe @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show  http://www.youtube.com/c/susanmccord

Relationship Advice: Why do People Jump in so Fast to a New Relationship and Run Away Just as Fast?

Dear Sybersue is a Funny & Informative Dating/Relationship/Lifestyle Advice Talk Show for Men & Women of all Ages!

Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord Discusses: Why do People Jump in Fast to a New Relationship and then Jump out of it Just as Fast!

This type of dating scenario is happening a lot these days and many men and women are getting very hurt & frustrated about it. How are you supposed to trust someone when everything is going so well between the two of you and then all of a sudden it just ends after 3-6 months? They just move on and you are left scratching your head and wondering what the Hell you did wrong?? The sad part is that they don’t even give a valid reason for their abrupt departure so it makes it very difficult to close the door on the relationship. People need closure! It is very demoralizing and damaging to one’s self esteem when a partnership ends so harshly.

When you first enter into a potential relationship be very careful to pull back on the reins no matter how perfect a fit it is in the early stages!  When things are so damn good we all have the tendency to jump in on all fours but don’t realize we are setting ourselves up for that “freak out” moment that will come soon enough! We all give the best part of ourselves when we are with a new partner but unfortunately that doesn’t hold up forever. Everyone has mood swings and quirky moments but when everything has been perfect up until this happens, it makes some people run in the opposite direction! “See I knew it was too good to be true!”

Both men and women are guilty of this and only want to be in a relationship that is exceptional and completely drama free. It is now becoming a big problem. We all need to slow down and not expect perfection, not be a coward and run away & we need to take our time exploring a new love interest. If we put each other on a pedestal too soon, the only place for them to go is down. Take your time and enjoy them at a nice pace and leave the unrealistic expectations out of the equation.

Has this happened to you? Please leave your comments below. 🙂

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