How to Get Over an Abrupt Relationship Breakup!

How to Get Over an Abrupt Relationship Breakup!

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How to Get Over an Abrupt Breakup? Blow them a kiss goodbye and thank them!

This topic came to me in an e-mail from a young guy who watches my show on YouTube.  He recently got the Dear John Text from his girlfriend of 6 months with no warning, but his positive attitude surprised me!!

He said;  “Yes I am sad that it is over as I really enjoyed my time with her but what choice do I have but to just move on? No means NEXT!”  While this is much easier said than done for most people, it is always better to be realistic about why a relationship ended abruptly.

Most breakups can be very painful especially if you were blindsided by your partner.  The faster you understand that some endings just aren’t worthy of a long drawn out sadness and really only warrant a small acknowledgment of hurt, resentment, rejection or hibernation, the better!

In other words, why spend too much time pining over someone who is disrespectful enough to send you a breakup text and simply doesn’t want to be with you?

Most of the hurt that occurs from a breakup is due to our own egos, and not always our actual love for the person that left us. Especially if it was a short-lived relationship.

Why harbor sadness or anger with someone who didn’t have the decency to say goodbye to you in person? Be thankful they have moved on so that you can meet someone who will treat you better.  (Of course if you were in a long term relationship with them, your heart is more invested and it is not as easy to let go.)

I have one male friend who went into a depression with every break-up, even if it was only a very short time spent with them. It has caused a lot of heartache over the years for him. He was in a dating pattern of constantly choosing the wrong women because he was blinded by one thing; their beauty!

He was looking for a commitment or so he said, but all his actions spoke the opposite! He had so much emotional baggage due to the fact that he was not dealing with why the breakups were happening or the repetitive choices he was making.

With each new woman he dated, it  became harder to clean up the demons he was accumulating.  

He finally discovered that he had a problem with rejection stemming from his childhood, he had a very unemotional mother who never showed him love of any kind. After much heartbreak and finally receiving some counselling, he came to understand why he made the shallow choices that he did; but it took him 20 years to get it!

Learning how to respect yourself first will make you move on faster or not allow you to be there in the first place.

Feeling like “the victim” in a breakup will only prolong your pain and make you angry. You can’t make someone love you! The hardest thing to grasp is that they are over you . You were dismissed, so to speak. We all think that we will never have another perfect relationship like the one that has just ended, but if it were so wonderful you would still be together. Know that you will have another relationship and it will be a better one down the road. You just can’t see it now because your ego is hurt.

Things don’t just fall apart for no reason.

It wasn’t meant to be and The Universe is trying to help you, probably because you weren’t taking the subtle hints it was throwing at you for the last 3-6 months. (Like when she/he took that 2nd vacation without you or they still haven’t given you a set of house keys after 2 years together.)

Moving on in other areas of your life will help with your relationships too. Remember that job that was so difficult to go to everyday and then all of sudden they gave your pink slip, due to so-called downsizing (or some other term companies use today to protect themselves from a wrongful-dismissal suit) but in the end they actually did you a favor because you are now in a job that you really love.

How many times has it NOT worked out for the better?

Change is always fearful, even if it is something we are ready for.  Many people become creatures of habit as they get older. Let’s not become this routine-obvious boring person. Life needs some stability and normalcy but it doesn’t have to be a bad movie.  Keep your mind fresh and free. People will always gravitate towards that positive energy.

The word “NEXT” should have excitement written all over it and should be embraced into your everyday life with optimism.  

It is meant to make you grow and become more of who you are. You should never stop being diverse with each approaching birthday. Complacency and boredom are the real killers, not old age.

Sometimes life becomes more of a struggle when we don’t register that something is too much work and all-consuming. The reason being; it is not meant to be!

Your intuition will always lead you in the right direction in a relationship. When you are sad, depressed or insecure in a partnership these are red flags that should not be ignored.  When you have a reciprocated love it isn’t a lot of work, it just feels right. There is no drama or questions!

So the next time someone says an abrupt goodbye to you, use this experience to move on out of that negative roadway and onto the next amazing path, that life has in store for you. Breakups can be a good thing and cause you to look deeper into who you are and what is really important to you long term.

Cry a little, wave them goodbye and get ready for a better place without them in it.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

5 Attributes that Men Really Want in Their Partner

5 Attributes that Men Really Want in Their Partner

Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord (aka Dear Sybersue) gets many questions from her male viewers on her advice column and this topic “5 attributes that men want in their partner” is one of the biggest conversations of all.

Women think all men care about is sex but that isn’t true for most guys. They want a loving relationship just like women do.

They are tired of being categorized and want women to know what is really important to them. Dear Sybersue promised to do this video (above) on behalf of the numerous emails she received on the subject.

Many women have lost hope when it comes to finding a partnership and are incredibly frustrated with the whole dating scenario. Men feel the same way and this is now becoming a big negative environment with both sexes.

As Dr. Phil says “How’s that working for you?”

It’s not right? So what are you going to do; complain about what’s not working or change things up so that they do work?

How Do We Do That Ladies & Gentlemen?

  1. We stop repeating patterns that are causing us drama. Stop going for the unavailable hot bad boys or bad girls would be a great start. This situation is usually very short lived and while you may have one or two nights of wild sizzling sex, it can leave you feeling lonelier that before you dated them.
  2. Don’t give out TMI! Stop telling people every little thing about what makes you tick. Take your time divulging private things about yourself.
  3. Leave a little mystery so they want to find out more about you. I certainly don’t condone playing games with them but hold back some things until you know them better. You don’t even know if you like them yet so don’t give away all your fabulous secrets.
  4. Be authentic to who you are. No one likes to find out 3 months later that what they thought they had in common with you, was just a lie to keep them interested.
  5. No one is better than anyone else so if someone comes up to talk to you when you are out for the evening, acknowledge them. You may be shocked at how much you enjoy talking with them.
  6. Be aware of your body language and how you come across. I can’t believe how many men and women portray “resting bitch face” out there. Smile! 🙂
  7. If you have a bad date don’t become disillusioned with the whole process. Get back out there on a different horse.
  8. Stay positive! No one wants to hang out with Dick or Debbie Downer.
  9. Everyone has insecurities but don’t let them define you so that you sabotage a potential partnership.
  10. Be kind to everyone all the time. There is no room for arrogance, self entitlement, being high maintenance or too picky!
  11. Real love doesn’t come easy and is worth the wait. Be a little more patient and embrace all new opportunities that come your way. If it were too easy to find it wouldn’t be special would it?
  12. Lose the 12 page checklist. That person doesn’t exist!
  13. You have your own life so don’t lose sight of that by making someone your whole world. Don’t lose your identity to be with someone else.
  14. Be careful not to become a texting stalker. Too much too soon is a big turnoff.
  15. Learn from you dating mistakes, don’t repeat them, own your part in what didn’t work and always listen to your instincts.

While there are definitely some hurdles with dating in the millennium, they are things that are pretty cool as well. Social media tools can bring us together in a much bigger way if we use them correctly.

Life is not meant to be easy but it is how you handle “those annoying curveballs” that will bring you closer to being centered and present so that you can be the best YOU!

The quicker you move on from those obvious red flags will be when your new journey begins. When you meet that loving person to share your life with there are no deep dark questions. It just fits and flows beautifully. There is no drama and there are no BS games to deal with.

We all want love in our life and there is someone for everyone once we change our attitude and believe we deserve it.

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Sybersue

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Mom Knows Best: What I know now in my 50’s that I didn’t know in my 20’s/30’s!

Mom Knows Best: What I know now in my 50’s that I didn’t know in my 20’s/30’s!

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Many people ask me why I published a book & why I chose to be a YouTube Talk Show Host and Blogger in my 50’s!  My answer is “why not?”

Why wouldn’t you want to listen to a woman who has been there done that and has so many friggen T-shirts she could open her own store?  Isn’t it easier to learn from someone else’s mistakes and that by doing so, it might be able to prevent drama filled scenarios from happening to you?

Hello!  I wish someone had helped pave the way for me in my 20’s!  Some of my life lessons give a whole new meaning to “banging your head against a brick wall” and I can tell you that I pretty much caved that sucker in!

I never understand why so many businesses get rid of their mature employees because they think that only young new blood in the room will bring a fresh outlook to the company???  That may work for gaming markets or teen clothing lines but why wouldn’t you also want people on your team that have “walked the walk of life?”

Age experience is invaluable and should never be underestimated in any place of business.  Successful companies get what I am talking about!! There should always be a mix of men and women of all ages to give a well rounded and balanced outlook to anything in life.

OK enough of that crap; let’s talk about how you can save yourself a lot of unnecessary drama or life lessons that really could be avoided.

Whoever made up the cliché “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” should be smacked upside the head because that isn’t exactly a heartwarming statement and doesn’t come without a whole pile of steaming BS to deal with! Listen to someone older and wiser to make changes in your life because it saves you one Hell of a lot of time and many embarrassing moments!

 What I did or didn’t do in my youth that I would do differently today:

  • Put money away to buy a house rather than buying shoes or spending money partying every weekend. $$$$
  • Not use baby oil and spend hours in the sun at the beach! (Stay away from tanning beds!!)
  • I would have started yoga in my teens (not at 48) to keep up the muscle tone and flexibility into my later years.  Have you seen their bodies in the yoga studios?! Damn! Susan Yoga
  • Learned about nutrition and stayed away from the high-carb diet of the 80’s and then having to deal with those 25 extra lbs for the next 10 years!
  • I would have had stronger boundaries and knew when to let go of something or someone that wasn’t healthy a lot faster!
  • I would have been happy with my AA breasts that I was regularly made fun of in my teens. I have the last laugh now that mine are still perky and above my belt line. That’s right bitches!
  • Understood my self-worth was more important than being with some guy who was only there for sex.
  • I would have had more expectations from the people who I was close to in my life so I wasn’t just the constant care giver and nurturer.  Relationships and friendships need to have a reciprocated respect towards each other. Even strong people need support!
  • Removed myself from people who squashed others accomplishments and only surround myself with positive like minded men and women.
  • I wish that I had someone to lean on and confide in through my teen years. A go-to person.
  • Trusted my instincts and listened to those spidey senses telling me NO because they were always right!
  • I would have understood that bullies are assh*les and nothing they had to say had any value; because they were more insecure than I ever was.

What choices did I make back then that have worked out well in my life today?

  1. I started weight training at 19 years old. This keeps the body parts uplifted for a lot longer and helps defy gravity! I actually have cleavage now and my butt hasn’t blended in with the back of my thighs! (yet) I kept up my Kegel exercises especially after childbirth! (I strongly recommend Googling this ladies!)
  2. I understood by age 17 how “Bad Boys” were a pain in the ass and not worth the one night stand of hot sex!  It was sure fun watching them try though!
  3. I worked 4 part time jobs starting at an early age which gave me the financial freedom to move out of an unhealthy environment at 17 and buy my first cheap car.  Saying that; I learned a lot about cars due to the lemons I owned over the years! Need an oil change? Tires changed? Battery jumpstart? I’m your girl!
  4. I started writing in a diary when I was 10 years old which I have now made into a career later in my life. Whatever passions or talents you have in your younger years is what your career should consist of.  Get paid to do what you love!
  5. I chose to be “a doer” and not allow some of the hardships I endured throughout my years to control my life direction in a negative way.  I learned how to pick myself up and keep going forward.  Playing the victim keeps a person stuck for a very long time.
  6. I knew how important it was to tell my son how proud I was and how much I loved him regularly and not repeating a pattern from my own childhood.
  7. Being the oldest girl of 5 kids I learned how to be a mother at an early age which gave me the tools to be a devoted and independent single mom for 18 years. Flight Attendant Shot
  8. I visualized the job I wanted as a flight attendant from the age of 13 and made it happen. I flew the friendly skies for 20 years. (Until they became not so friendly.)
  9. I constantly took courses in anything that interested me; which kept me continually growing in new directions. You will always hear me say that “diversity is the key to staying young!” You will always have something to talk about and you will never be boring to be around.
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Teachers come in all age groups and when you are open to receiving their knowledge, life will become easier and make so much more sense!  Don’t make excuses as to why things haven’t worked out or play the victim and prolong the bad choices you may have made.

Don’t turn your nose up at someone sitting beside you who may be a lot older than you; embrace the moment and ask them questions.  Get inside their brain and learn all that you can, because I can tell you from the bottom of my 50+ year old heart, there is one Hell of a lot of valuable knowledge and life experience in that mature head of theirs.

Go ahead and try it and you’ll see what mama’s talking about! ❤

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

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My Pregnancy Memories Many Years Later: The Whole Truth & Nothing but the Truth.

My Pregnancy Memories Many Years Later: The Whole Truth & Nothing but the Truth.

 

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Me in My 20’s 2 days after I Delivered My Baby

My Pregnancy Memories Many Years Later: The Whole Truth & Nothing but the Truth.

When I talk to other women about their pregnancy days I often hear how precious and wonderful they were.  Seriously??? I wish I knew how to glamorize those barf filled days of morning sickness, the painful nipples, emotional mood swings and the hours of labor pains!  I have to say that my memories are as vivid today as they were many years ago.  OK; not everyone experienced my special moments of early motherhood but I am here to tell you the real truth about what actually happens in those 9 months for some of us.

I got pregnant when most women cannot conceive but I will spare you the details. I knew instantly when my size 36 A (if I pulled the straps really tight) boobs turned into 38 C’s in a short amount of time! I could actually crack walnuts and open a beer with my cleavage! This was incredible and I made damn good use of my new talent. (My husband had fun playing motor boat with them too!) Tight t-shirts were my wardrobe staple until my tummy started to take over in the latest body bump department. This is when I had to wear the large sweatshirts that said “No I have not eaten my way through the Oreo cookie factory, there is a baby on board!”

At the 4 month mark of my pregnancy I ended up moving to Texas from Vancouver, Canada for my husband’s job. I was on a leave from my flight attendant career so we decided to venture out on this new path for 1 year. We knew no one in Dallas and I spent most days alone in our apartment trying to keep my food down, watching The Price is Right and fighting off the crickets that seemed to come in through the chimney! There are some big ass bugs down in Texas!

As a very social woman it was such a big transition for me that I tried to have conversations with anyone who called the wrong number, the produce guy at Safeway and our poor mailman that obviously felt sorry for me. I even befriended a guy at our communal pool area that had just got out of jail for armed robbery! Sadly I’m not kidding but I can tell you I wasn’t bored on those afternoons!

After the barfing ceased, I got back into my gym routine. Most people had no idea I was pregnant but one guy did mention that I seemed to work out so hard but kept getting bigger and maybe I should change my diet. Yup, that’s what he actually said. It was really funny when I came back to the gym after I gave birth and he said “Wow that diet really worked, you’ve lost a lot of weight!” I just smiled.

I went to Lamaze class every Thursday and learned all sorts of things to be aware of during delivery. It’s not scary at all to learn that I could have my “Who Ha” sliced and stitched, a forceps delivery, an upside down baby (instead of sunny side up), a very long labor, a transitional phase that turns women into Linda Blair from the Exorcist movie, an epidural with a foot long needle, an emergency C section and a poop accident on the delivery table in front of the entire hospital staff.  Dr. Pickle, yes that was my doctor’s name, said not to worry and that everything looked fine. (Looking back now I know why I really did crave dill pickles for those 9 months that I saw him!) I swear if they showed those Lamaze videos before women got pregnant the population wouldn’t be anywhere near as high in the world today. Just saying!!

So guess what?

All those things I mentioned above pretty much happened to me on delivery day with the exception of the C-section. Oh and the poop part didn’t happen either because when the doctor asked me if I had eaten anything before I got to the hospital I had to own up that I had eaten an entire loaf of bread to try to calm down my stomach labor pains. (You know; the whole comfort food kind of thing.) Nothing like doing an enema with 10 interns looking on! I did end up doing the Linda Blair thing on my husband when he decided to put his feet up and take an hour nap while I was doing that breathing thing that didn’t work.

28 hours later after I got to the hospital I had the pain epidural and let me tell you they were not kidding in Lamaze class when they said it was a foot long needle! 9 hours later, yes count em 9 more hours, I delivered an upside down baby boy with the help of forceps after my “Who Ha” was cut and my not so funny husband telling the doctor to put a few extra stitches in there. (Which I am pretty sure he had never heard before!) Our baby was healthy and we were all amazed he didn’t have a cone head trying to get out of my love canal for 37 hours.  He was pretty cute actually!

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Children are Happy When Their Parents are Happy too.

We moved back home a few months later and I resumed by job at the airline. My husband & I divorced when my son was 18 months old and I became a single mom until he moved out at 19. There are many stories in those years that I could tell you about; like the one about my son growing marijuana in his toy box for 2 years and how I met the neighbors due to a party he had and all the barf (I do seem to love this word but my life was full of it all those years ago) dripping down their windows!  Yes, it will become my next book one day and I will probably title it something like “Teenagers are shitheads!”

Today my son is a head chef and doing very well. We are super close and always have been with the exception of ages 15-19 Lol. He is my sun, moon and universe and I am very proud of him and who he has become as a young man today. He came into my life for a reason and it was a powerful one.  He has taught me a lot about who I am. ❤

I remarried 8 years ago to an amazing man; I quit my job as a flight attendant, started a Lifestyle talk show, published a book, became a certified dating coach  and an advice columnist/blogger! I love my new life in my 50’s! Ohhhh and to top it all off, my boobs are back to an almost perky 36A and my “Who Ha” is just fine thanks to Dr. Pickle and keeping up my Kegel exercises!  (Sorry that’s probably too much information just as this whole article probably is too!)

All this bitching aside would I do it all over again?

Of  friggen course I would! Pregnancy and motherhood is not easy but it is the best gift life has to offer.  Although I now understand why God gave women the Uterus, because I don’t know any man that could get through one menstrual cycle let alone 9 months of pregnancy. We really are one strong group of amazing women and our children better kiss our slowly drooping ass for the rest of our lives. They owe us big time!

Moms rule and always will!

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

Terror in Paris November 2015

Terror in Paris November 2015

There are so many opinions out there right now stating that most people only really care, when horrible things happen to 1st world Countries such as what happened with the Paris Attacks yesterday. Mass murder is devastating in every part of the world in which it occurs and people do care!

It is a senseless and cowardly act when innocent people are gunned down for no reason at all! People all around the world come together in crisis and natural disasters all the time and I am tired of hearing that no one gives a crap! I for one passionately care about all wars in the world and the people who are affected by them on a daily basis!! Just because I live in Canada doesn’t mean I turn a blind eye to world problems! I am devastated when I hear any heart breaking news events!

We need to stop pointing fingers at each other and use our voices and social media resources to be there for one another with love and compassion not to add more fuel to this power hungry group of individuals who are trying to destroy human comradery!

Each person can make a difference by caring for others and not allowing negative comments to cause further fighting.  How we all deal with the aftermath of a tragedy such as this horrendous situation in France, will be the answer to us staying together as a united front and find some sort of peace in the world.

Dear Sybersue: My Boyfriend is a Nice Guy but I Like Bad Boys!!

Dear Sybersue: My Boyfriend is a Nice Guy but I Like Bad Boys!!

Why do I Always go for the Bad Boys?

Why do I Always go for the Bad Boys?

Dear Sybersue:

I have been dating my boyfriend Andrew exclusively for 1 year now and I really do love him. He is ready to take the next step and move in together but I am questioning whether we are a good match for a long term commitment. He is the ultimate nice guy and is everything a girl would want! He really is a perfect boyfriend. I never have to question things or try to figure him out because he is always so even keeled and non confrontational. Our sex life is good; a little on the vanilla side but I am very attracted to him physically!

The problem is:

I am used to bad boys and really miss the excitement of it all! I am 31 years old and should be ready for a real relationship by now, but there is something that keeps pulling me back from wanting a normal conventional existence with one guy. I miss the intensity of bad boy sex and spontaneous get-togethers from my past a year ago. I know I should be thankful that I have someone in my life who loves me unconditionally without all the B.S. of a guy who is only there for a “good time not a long time,” but I admit I am a little bored with Andrew.

What do you suggest I do?

Thanks Sybersue, April84

Dear April,

Have you ever thought about what it would be like for you not to have Andrew in your life? Are you possibly taking him for granted because he is always available and there for you? Maybe you are used to the up and down drama from your past “bad boy relationships” and miss that intensity of the constant mystery. Are you really OK with your past booty call lifestyle and can you see that continuing on for the rest of your life? If your sex-life is too vanilla with Andrew then you need to discuss ways to spice it up. Tell him what you like and take the initiative to change it. Most guys are pretty open to new things in the bedroom!

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette~“Be Kind to One Another!”

The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette~“Be Kind to One Another!”

"What The World Needs Now is Love"

“What The World Needs Now is Love”

The Do’s and Don’ts of Daily Human Etiquette ~ “Be Kind to One Another!”

Talk Show Host Ellen DeGeneres has a tag line she repeats at the end of every show; “Be Kind to one Another.” It is a simple yet important statement from this popular celebrity because we ALL need to think about our actions toward others who we come in contact with on a daily basis. Ellen has the incredible power to reach millions of people and to share important messages for them to think about. She also shows an incredible compassion for many people and organizations who are less fortunate and often helps them out on her show.  Is Ellen making a difference in her quest for kindness in the world and can one person really make an impact on people’s attitude?

Absolutely they can!

Ellen uses comedy and compassion in much of her show content which allows people to be comforted and relaxed for that one hour a day. Can you imagine how much better the world would be if we all thought and acted just a little bit more like her?

The simple human behaviors are dwindling away and we are becoming a much more self absorbed society with less regard for others around us. This has to change and we can start to do this by changing the little things we have all forgotten about. The computer age has made us retreat from “face to face” connections and we all need to remember how to interact to each other with kindness.

I want to end this post on a positive note so I will start with The Etiquette Don’ts first:

  1. Be aware of who is around you and respect their space! This should be a given but it is amazing how many people do not look behind them when they attend an event or any outing at all.  They stand in front of someone who was there before them or barge into lineups. Wait your turn!
  2. Driving your car: Do not turn left at the last minute; do not drive in the fast lane at a slow pace; don’t pick your nose while driving ~ sorry I had to say this; don’t tail gate other drivers due to road rage and do not pull past the stop sign so your car is hanging out in oncoming traffic! Let people merge in once in awhile, don’t speed up so they can’t get in.
  3. Dog Owners: Do not tie your dog up outside ANY establishment and let them bark. There is no need for a dog to bark continuously if they are trained properly. That said, get them trained. Pick up your dog’s poop! If your dog is unpredictable put a muzzle on them in public as a protection for other dogs they come in contact with. Do not leave them shut in condos or houses barking all day. Get a dog walker or bark collar. Your neighbours shouldn’t have to listen to it. Your dog is in distress so do something about it as a good owner should.
  4. Help someone who is trying to get through a door with their hands full. Who ever gets to the door first; hold it for the person behind you! I cannot tell you how many young kids today don’t even look behind them.
  5. Manners need to be addressed: Reply to any invite you receive! Don’t be late for anything without proper notice to who you are meeting; Do not bail on people at the last minute leaving them hanging; it’s not all about you. Never go to someone’s house for dinner or party empty handed. Follow up every invite with a thank you email or phone call. Don’t say you will attend something and then not show up ~ this includes a wedding! It is shocking how many people do this!
  6. Pedestrians: Cars are bigger than you! They have the right away. Follow the walk signs and do not start walking when it says not to. This blocks traffic and causes jams because the cars can’t get through.
  7. Don’t take up space for 2 or more people when in a confined area like a sauna, yoga studio, movie theater or a crowded coffee shop. Sitting at a table for 6 when you are alone is selfish. Invite others to sit with you if that is the only spot left.
  8. Don’t be one of those neighbors! Be friendly and careful about noise levels of stereos, kids or pets on balconies/backyards too early in the morning or loudly talking late night in the hallways of condos or hotels. If you’re planning a party let them know ahead of time and maybe invite them to attend it.
  9. Don’t expect your colleagues to work harder than you for the same salary. Calling in sick or being late on a regular basis puts more stress on everyone at the office.
  10. Don’t take your friends, family or loved ones for granted! Nurture these special relationships on a daily basis.

The Do’s of Daily Human Etiquette:

  1. Smile and say hi to people you pass on the street, that you sit near at a restaurant or at any event you attend.
  2. Be happy for people who achieve their goals or milestones and acknowledge them. Being around others who are ambitious and positive is contagious!
  3. Do or say something nice to someone everyday! It not only makes them feel good it makes you feel good to see them smile and appreciate your gesture.
  4. Help people feel comfortable when they are new to a situation.
  5. Be aware of people with special needs. Smile, make eye contact with them and help them if you can see they need assistance.
  6. Don’t be afraid to speak up and protect someone who is being treated badly by another person. The same thing applies if you feel you are being disrespected. We can all be teachers in the simplest ways. Use a diplomatic approach and make them think about what they did.
  7. Spare some time to be of service to a charity or group environment that needs help. Paying it forward is a wonderful thing. Get others involved by making them aware of how rewarding it is.
  8. Always remember where you came from regardless of how successful you are. Treat people well and never forget that life throws curveballs to everyone. We all need a mentor or someone who believes in us and gives us a chance.
  9. Literally respect your elders! They are not invisible and should never be treated as so. Older generations paved the way for our freedom so always be thankful for their sacrifices. Take the time to talk to seniors whenever possible. Some of them do not have family and many of their friends have passed on. They can be very lonely.
  10. Everyone has insecurities so rather than be jealous of someone who you think who has everything, be aware that they also have “stuff’ that isn’t perfect. Assumptions are dangerous and keep a person in a narrow minded place. Being positive and taking yourself out of negative scenarios will keep you focused on the good things life has to offer.

“Treat each other how you want to be treated” is an old and very wise cliché that needs to be practised on a regular basis. We are forgetting how to be supportive to others and spending too much time worrying about our own survival. The world is changing and the need for power in certain Countries is very overwhelming. We all need to fight back even in the smallest ways, to keep humanity in a respectable place. If everyone puts in a little effort every day we can change the attitude of people around the world but we need everyone to do their part. Don’t ignore it; be proactive and make a difference.

As the song says: What the World Needs Now is Love

1965 popular song with lyrics by Hal David and music composed by Burt Bacharach

“What the world needs now is love, sweet love. It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of. What the world needs now is love, sweet love…No not just for some but for everyone!”

Susan McCord @ Dear Sybersue Talk Show