How Does Your Body Language Affect Your Dating Life?

How Does Your Body Language Affect Your Dating Life?

 

In Dear Sybersue’s weekly Thursday Video Upload she discusses how body language can make or break your dating chances.

Some people are quick to judge so you don’t have much time to make a great first impression. You may not be aware of how you come across to others and it’s a lot better to find out sooner, then to be always wondering why people aren’t gravitating towards  you and why you are not meeting a potential partner.

My own husband sometimes has “resting bitch face” and he tries hard not to look unapproachable when he is thinking about something and lost in his own thoughts. We laugh about it as I know how amazing he really is and it is only certain times that his body language comes across as; “a little removed.”

While this may work in our home, it doesn’t work for people who are just getting to know each other because most people don’t wait around trying to figure out who “you really are.” 

Polite human etiquette is very important in today’s tough world, so if you want to stand out, you might need to be aware of how people initially perceive you and change up some behavioral patterns that aren’t working and why you are still in the “not in a relationship” status.

It’s always a good thing to do a makeover on your attitude. We can all use a little tweeking in that department!

Of course we can become complacent in life sometimes, but people who take time to keep working on themselves will always be in a place of betterment because they get it! They understand that for them to stay interesting and fun to be around, they need to keep making an effort as the years go on.

Being kind and respectful to people you come across on a daily basis is really important on how you conduct yourself with everything you do in life.

Always having an aggressive approach is a turn off and a lasting impression for how people will judge you. Loosen up a little, put others first once in awhile and remember it’s not always just about your feelings and what’s happening your life.

Allow others into your world with encouraging body language and a happy smile on your face. You don’t have to be a part of the anger that is happening in our world today. There is always more room for happiness and you can make a difference to someone else’s life just by being “you.”

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Abraham Hicks: Don’t put up with anything  that doesn’t make you feel good

Abraham Hicks: Don’t put up with anything that doesn’t make you feel good

This video is a great reminder for all of us who are having trouble achieving our goals, finding love in our lives or just feeling happy in general. Life is stressful and very hard to deal with sometimes. Positive thinking and “believing” you deserve great things are very powerful thoughts that will bring you more of what you desire.

You are thinking; “Ya right!” “What a bunch of you know what!”

How are these thoughts working for you?

They’re not right? That’s kind of my point with this post. In order to manifest what you want, you have to reduce the negative noise in your head.

The more you think about what you don’t have or about the people who make your life difficult, you are giving power to that vibration. The less you think about those hurtful things in your life, the more time you can give to scenarios that better your existence.

Of course it isn’t easy to bury hurtful comments or bad times in your life but you can replace them with new thoughts that are happier.

If you wake up sad, depressed or maybe even angry, spend the first 15 minutes of your day watching something happy on TV, your smart phone, YouTube or any other social media site you may be apart of.

How can you not smile when you see a few funny animal videos, a laughing baby or by watching a comedy show?

At least it takes you away mentally for a few minutes first thing in the morning. Do this a few times a day when you feel down and eventually your thoughts will be less tormented by what isn’t working for you.

You may be skeptical about Abraham Hicks or Esther’s ability to relay these messages to us all, but they do make one Hell of a lot of sense regardless. I am open to many things in life and the more I can learn, the more I grow.

I also agree very strongly with the title of this video and post: Don’t put up with anything that doesn’t make you feel good!

I will graciously take all the teaching tools offered to me and make them work to the best of my ability. I hope you liked this message today. Sending happy thoughts to you all. ❤

abraham

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Advice Talk Show

How Do I Avoid Dating Commitment Phobic People?

How Do I Avoid Dating Commitment Phobic People?

Dear Sybersue discusses dating issues when it comes to constantly meeting men and women who are commitment phobic!

Dear Sybersue,

Hi Sybersue, I am writing out of pure frustration today to discuss the ever dreaded dating BS of the millennium! I know you have addressed many topics on your YouTube channel but I really want to know how to deal with men who ALL seem to be commitment phobic!

Why are guys even dating if they are not interested in a relationship? Why are they wasting my time? They know I am interested in a partnership and not just a one night stand so why don’t they just go find someone who is into being “their booty call” instead??

I am 23 years old and I have tried dating men of all ages to try to get around this situation. I thought maybe it was just my age group that was the problem, but nope, that’s not the case. It’s an epidemic!

My girlfriends complain about it too, but some of them have been lucky and have found great relationships. What am I missing in the early stages of dating these men and why am I attracting these types who aren’t looking for a committed partnership?

I don’t just give up after the 1st date and try not to be too judgmental too quickly,but the results are the same with all of them so far!

What can I do to meet someone who is sincerely into a commitment without having to go through all the same drama every time I meet a new guy?

Help!

Going Crazy Kristen

Hi Kristen,

This is a popular question that both men and women want answers to. There are plenty of ladies playing the field out there and driving the guys crazy as well. I hear from them all the time here on my advice column.

The trick is to be smart about your dating choices and not spend too much time with men who are not into having a relationship. There are big signs very early on but as you said “you don’t want to be too judgmental too quickly,” so you may be ignoring them.

There is a huge difference between being judgmental and ignoring those big red flags!

You have dated enough to know when a guy is into wanting a relationship or whether he is just there to put another notch on his bed post. Guys aren’t that good at hiding their sexual desires and if you are paying attention, you will see it early so that you can move on a lot faster!

The sooner you remove yourself from this type of men, the sooner you will stop attracting them towards you.

When a new relationship is going in the right direction you don’t have to ask the questions, “Is he interested in me?” “Where is this going?” or “Are we exclusive with each other?” If you have to ask, you need to move on from them.

You should both be in a place where you are on the same page with how you are feeling about each other. Yes, even in the early stages!

You asked why guys are dating if they aren’t into having a relationship and the answer is because there are always women who will give them what they want. (These women are also hoping they will end up in a partnership with them by doing so.)

How often have you thought that maybe you could be the woman who makes them settle down? I think there are many ladies out there that can relate to this statement! There can also be a very powerful chemistry that happens quickly and lures women into a false sense of partnership security.

Kristen, before you jump into bed with anyone you are dating, listen to what he says he wants in his life, watch his body language and keep the chemistry pheromones in check! Many women become very emotionally attached after they are intimate with someone and they get themselves stuck in a dead end scenario that they aren’t happy in.

Also, make sure that you are ready for a relationship. Subconsciously you may not be, and are choosing unavailable men without totally being aware that you are doing this. Make sure you have dealt with the demons of your past partnerships and that there isn’t any unresolved issues that are clouding your dating scenarios.

It’s never too late to do a little emotional housekeeping!

Please watch the video above to see how you can change things up with your dating life and deal with any initial red flags so that you can meet that special person who is also looking for partnership!

Keep me posted Kristen!

Sybersue
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Relationship Question: Would You Choose Your Partner All Over Again?

Relationship Question: Would You Choose Your Partner All Over Again?

Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating and relationship advice columnist for men and women. In today’s video above, Sybersue discusses the question; “Would you choose your partner all over again?”

You will be surprised by the answers many couples give! What would you say when asked this question? What do you do if the answer is no? Can you fix things in your relationship? Do you want to?

Over the years many couples become complacent and just give up trying to keep the romance alive in their relationship because too many things get in the way!

Time with the kids, careers and financial stress take a toll on partnerships and if you don’t know how to balance this, your bedroom will end up being a boring platonic place just for you to sleep!

When the sex fizzles so do many relationships!

Why do people think it is easier to give up on their relationship than to try to keep it in the intimate place it was years ago when they first met? Yes it’s a lot of work but so is everything in life!

Is it really a better idea to just live in a loveless partnership or to have to start over again and go back out to the online dating scenario of the millennium?

Are either of those great options?

If there is anything salvageable within your long term commitment, it is worth making things right. If you have grown in different directions and really feel that things are over, it is time to move on so that you both can be happy.

Staying together out of fear or laziness is not being fair to anyone and you are shortchanging yourself and your partner.

With a little effort on both parts, a couple can stay in a healthy and loving partnership. There are many people who make it work! Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to answer “yes” to the question; “Would you choose your partner all over again?”

Wouldn’t it feel great to know that you didn’t ignore your relationship and made it a priority over the years and that you taught your kids what love really is?

Consistency, communication, romance, respect and putting each other first are relationship enhancers. If you keep all of those important factors of your partnership alive and it is also reciprocated by them, you will see how smoothly the years flow lovingly by.

Why wouldn’t you give it your all?

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Happy Halloween! Trick or Treating isn’t Just for Kids!

Happy Halloween! Trick or Treating isn’t Just for Kids!

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They say that people dress up on Halloween to be able to escape into a character they have fantasized about or always wanted to be in real life! Well I guess I am a very mixed up woman with numerous personalities because I have worn so many different costumes over the years.

Well maybe that does say something about my character after all! 😉

I have been Pebbles from the Flintstones, a naughty school girl, a ballerina, a hula girl, Katy Perry, a pilot, a gangster, a rapper, a rocker chick, a Spanish dancer, a Blues Brother, an FBI agent, a french maid and of course a witch as you see here.  Seeing this in print as I write it, I think maybe I am acting out the many different sides of my crazy personality!

The interesting thing here is that I get crazier as the years go by!

Shouldn’t I be mellowing out after 50? Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha well that’s not going to happen! I get bored easily so sitting around reading a book in my rocking chair, watching jeopardy or signing up for lawn bowling isn’t going to happen anytime soon.

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They say age is just a number but actually you are as old as your birthday states you are! That doesn’t mean you have to act it or stop doing the fun things you used to do! You can sleep when you’re six feet under so until that time you should be living your best diverse  YOU!

Live out your fantasies, embrace any occasion or event and live your life! The more we play dress up, the younger we feel.

So as the kids say “Trick or Treat?”

I’ll take both!

Susan McCord  @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

Taylor-Rae – “Incredibly Single” Music Video

Taylor-Rae – “Incredibly Single” Music Video

I met this incredible singer Taylor -Rae recently at The Roxy in Vancouver, Canada.  Not only is a very talented solo vocalist,  she sings in a band called Taylor-Rae & The Back Seat Drivers.

They are such a fantastic group and each one of them sings beautifully! They are a versatile band specializing in performing a variety of different genres from Top 40 to Country and even classic Rock.

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Taylor-Rae and The Back Seat Drivers Band

The Backseat Drivers are a group comprised of Cody Fox, Ryan Brown, Blue Morris and Alex Caron. These talented musicians are extremely versatile performers who always amaze the audience with their vocal and instrumental prowess.

I am a huge music fan and adamantly watch The Voice and American Idol each season because I love to see new talent discovered! I would like to see Taylor_Rae try out for the Voice!! I also like to share other people’s content and give them a shout out. (Which I will be doing a lot more often on Sybersue!)

We need to be there for each other and appreciate the hard work so many men and women put in every day towards their passion! Tayor-Rae isn’t just all about country music either, listen to her sing Hello by Adele in the video below! ❤

Hello – Adele (Cover by Taylor-Rae)

Taylor-Rae Bio:

Taylor-Rae is a modern country artist from Edmonton, AB that has the ability to draw you into the story behind her music whether it is a lighthearted story of adventure, or a heartfelt ballad.

In Edmonton she performed at Canadian Finals Rodeo to over 1000 people, Big Valley Jamboree with 25, 000 people in attendance everyday, and was invited to sing a song of remembrance for an audience of 5000 for the Jace Harty Memorial Pro Bull Riding Event.

Since moving to Vancouver in 2012 for university, Taylor-Rae has only progressed musically learning guitar and piano to write her own songs and grow as an artist. Her dominant vocals has also landed her a notable position at Vancouver’s Talent Development Studio, Studio Cloud 30 teaching vocal lessons.

In addition to her solo music she is also apart of a unique choral group, The Top Line Vocal Collective. Top Line is an exclusive one of a kind choral group built on the foundation of harmony, rhythm and fun. This non-denominational, community-based vocal ensemble showcases 40 of the best voices in Vancouver through the sounds of traditional and contemporary R&B, Soul and Classic Gospel.

Through solo performances and performances with The Top Line Vocal Collective Taylor-Rae has played at a wide variety of venues and events including:

Honda Celebration of Lights, Pacific National Exhibition, Vancouver Celebrates Pride, Voices of Hope, Vancouver Christmas Market, Studio Cloud 30 Red Carpet Series, Kay Meek Mingle of the Jingles, Light the Night Vancouver, SFU Woodwards, The Roxy, Million Dollar  Round Table, Brilliant! 2016 and more.

This is just the beginning of a long road for Taylor-Rae, but she couldn’t be more excited for the ride and the people she will connect with along the way. 

I’m excited for you too Taylor-Rae!  You rock! Literally!

❤ hugs xo Sybersue

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Are You too Shy to Date? Learn How to Change This!

Are You too Shy to Date? Learn How to Change This!

Is shyness sabotaging your dating life? Does it keep you from going out and being sociable? There are ways to overcome this that can help you to meet a potential partner.

Despite what many people think, shyness isn’t about how you  look, it is all about confidence!  Self-esteem affects many men and women regardless of their physical appearance.

Beautiful people can be lonely too. I have coached numerous people of all ages who are very attractive but can’t get a date! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I truly think everyone is beautiful in their own way. We all have something to offer and we all deserve to be loved. The biggest fear for many shy people is not believing they deserve it!

Of course you do!

Shyness stems from something you learned early on in life which has programmed your thinking to become stuck in a cocoon of sorts. You don’t know how to break out of this introverted place and so you retreat even further into yourself as the years go by.

It’s time to break the pattern and get out of this lonely place of shyness!

We all have nagging demons that we internalize but that doesn’t mean we have to live with them. The options we have today are endless but the biggest part of this battle is making the effort to fix them.

You have to want to fix them!

It is a lot of work to delve into the core of who you are and you may not want to re-live how you got here in the first place!

Life is all about continual lessons and the sooner we learn how to move on from them the sooner our world becomes an easier and happier place to be.

When you really think about it, wouldn’t it be easier to take some time to deal with your issues than to hold onto them for an eternity? How will that enhance your life by burying your problems?

Do you think that being shy is a safe place to put yourself because you can use that as an excuse on why you can’t do certain things? Isn’t that boring, doing the same things all the time because of the fear of putting yourself out there?

You don’t have to be a crazy extrovert but being a fun person to be around is a good thing and makes people gravitate towards you. Shyness can be a very lonesome existence and is that what you really want or do you want to open up your world a little bit more?

It’s never too late to do some work on yourself, please watch the video above.  Sybersue ❤

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