Having a problem figuring out what to wear on a date? Read the fashion & style statistics in the post below from Megan Murray at Zoosk and Mogul to find out what men and women like!
It’s no secret that fashion and dating have a close connection. When you’re meeting someone, it’s often what they’re wearing that catches your eye and makes a first impression. Whether it’s a sultry dress, a smooth dinner jacket, a great pair of shoes, or a funky accessory, what we wear can be a reflection of who we are. And because of that, it can also send a message to any potential love interest out there. But exactly what that message is saying… Well, that depends on the person. And the clothes.
To get a better idea of how fashion influences the way we date, the online dating platform surveyed 6,646 of its members and analyzed over 34,579 profiles to gain insight into how daters dress, what’s proper date attire, and what fashion trends singles like best. Here’s what they found:
Mentioning fashion in your dating profile can get you more messages.
Are you into fashion, clothes, or designers? Then go ahead and mention it in your profile, because it could help you get more incoming messages. Profiles that talk about being stylish or people who say they like dressing up are especially popular while online dating—they can get up to 135% more incoming messages.
This is a very informative article and I was happy to see jeans and a T-shirt made the cut! My favorite casual “go to” with a sexy pair of shoes or boots!
What is your favorite outfit and do you agree with the stats in this post? Please leave your comments below Sybersue
Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating and relationship coach and advice columnist for men & women of all Ages!
Today Sybersue discusses a question from women on her advice column: “Why do I give men money when I barely know them? What is wrong with me and how do I get the money back after we break up?”
OK first off, this is getting pretty crazy with how often women are handing out money to guys they have only dated a few times! Why would you give away your hard earned cash to someone who has a lack of self respect to even ask you for it?
Yes guys, I KNOW there are gold diggers out there taking advantage of you as well but today women are asking the question and the same rant I give them, goes for you as well!
The simple fix for both sexes is to quit allowing these people into your life!
It is one thing to financially invest in something as a committed couple but to give money to someone you don’t even know, just shows how quickly they are able to manipulate you and turn on your “vulnerable switch!”
Scammers look for women with lower self-esteem or predictable nice girl behavior as they are more of a transparent target. These guys aren’t going to choose business minded confident women for the most part, because it’s too much work for them.
They want easy prey that doesn’t put up a big fight.
These men will say a few great things that flatter you and make you feel so special that it really gets your attention. Then “poof,” out comes your debit card to help them with this amazing project they have on the go or an incredible stock tip that they have an investment in. “You just can’t lose on this, but you have to act fast!”
Sometimes it takes a little longer to show their true self. They will ask you for smaller amounts of money and take baby steps to reel you in. They will give you the undivided attention you desire to keep you in trust mode with them.
Some guys are just great con artists that sift through even the strongest female nets! They really are that good! The trick is to never give money to anyone who promises you anything and you won’t ever find yourself in this predicament.
I honestly do not know one stand up guy that would ever ask a woman for money;no matter how difficult his life may be at the time. He is just too proud to do so.
Anytime someone asks you for cash in a new relationship or who tells you they have the business venture of the year, run in the opposite direction away from them. More often than not, women never recover the money they gave to these scamming guys and they usually end up vanishing without a trace!
We have all heard the stories of how some people have lead double lives or have been taken advantage financially with false promises for a long and happy future with this type of relationship money scammer.
Always listen to your intuition to see the red flags before it’s too late and have boundaries with all the relationships in your life. Unfortunately this scenario is much more common than you think!
Sybersue loves to hear from you & will take time to answer you back. Please watch the video above and leave your comments below! Has this happened to you and what did you do about it?
What is wrong with me and why do I keep repeating these same dating patterns?
Social media and computer dating is becoming the norm with how people interact these days. Mingle meet up groups are trying to make a comeback but people still seem to be stuck to their smart phones rather than being open to meeting in person!
People are lonelier than ever because of how some of these dating websites seem to attract superficial men and women who are just out to play games.
There are some happy endings that eventually transpire but why are there so many more stories that don’t work out? Why do some people keep enticing a certain negative “type” into their existence, which continually puts them back out into the dating pool?
If you have met a lot of these unfavorable types, you are doing something to attract them towards you.
Regardless of whether you believe in “The Law of Attraction” there is something to it. Negativity attracts negativity. Everyone is entitled to finding love, but if you are always repeating the same unfulfilling scenario, how is it beneficial in the long run?
There are many women who only meet “Bad Boys” because they are allowing them to keep coming into their life. For some reason they think it is exciting to be treated like crap.
There are also men that only meet pretentious, materialistic hot women, because they are choosing “her looks” as the top priority. The end result is both sexes are constantly complaining about each other!
Going for the same brand of person which keeps backfiring into a non-existent love life takes years for some people to figure out. “Changing the pattern will change who you meet.” As simple as that sounds it seems to be the biggest mistake men and women repeatedly make.
Why is that?
Many people react out of anger when something happens that is repetitive and unrewarding in their life. This annoying cycle continues because they don’t understand that they are in denial of their own actions!
When a person becomes jaded or angry about the same thing over and over again, wouldn’t it make sense to investigate why it is affecting them to that level?
I see it all the time on the comment section under some YouTube videos. So many men and women continually vent their frustrations about the same subject, rather than learning how to deal with why it bothers them so much.
This is especially true regarding both sexes in the dating market. If something isn’t working, isn’t it a good idea to fix it rather than bitching about it to anyone who will listen?
No one wants to hear it except for a few others who are also angry about the same thing. Misery loves company and saying that, I rest my case…negativity attracts more negativity.
Is it really easier to constantly complain about some things that cause drama in your life than to find a solution that betters your world?
We are all guilty of sounding like a broken record at some point in our lives but the people who quickly understand how dangerously repetitive this is, are the ones who move on to find happiness.
If your love-life sucks, be honest about the part you play in it.
I can’t stress enough that we are all in charge of how our lives evolve and that ultimately the choices we make are ours. Yes, we all land in the school of hard knocks while finding out who we are, but the sooner we learn and own the lesson, the faster we move on to a healthier foundation.
So stop repeating the same old story and quit talking about what you don’t want in your life. Talk about a future relationship like you won a lottery! Think about all those wonderful things you would be able to do and how positive you would feel with less stress and more love in your life.
Thinking happy thoughts and keeping hope alive helps put out positive vibrations that eventually boomerang back towards you.
There is enough love out there for everyone and you deserve it just as much as anyone else does. You don’t ever have to settle for an unhealthy situation so quit allowing yourself to choose them. ❤
In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses the topic: Why Does My Partner Give Me The Silent Treatment After We Argue?
Is this any way to have a relationship where you are always having to walk on eggshells because your partner doesn’t know how to or want to communicate, and just shuts down?
Are you now afraid to have an opinion for fear of them closing off to you once again?
Your partner needs to figure out why they treat you in this controlling manner and you need to have some boundaries in what you allow in your relationships and all aspects of your life.
Communication is the number 1 priority of any relationship and if there is a problem with how you converse with each other, it will only cause further breakdown in the partnership. Who wants to come home to confrontation or even worse; a cold shoulder for days on end.
Just because they don’t like or agree with something you say is no excuse to punish you with this repetitive silent treatment. It’s time to get to the bottom of it, or move on from the partnership before it takes a permanent toll on your self esteem.
Your relationship needs to be on a loving and reciprocated path where you have nothing but respect for each other and there are no push/pull emotional games!
Sybersue Loves to hear from you & will always take time to answer you back. Please leave your comments below!
My 35 year old boyfriend parties constantly! We have been together for 2 years and it’s always been one big non-stop booze fest. He either has the guys over 4 nights a week, goes to their houses or we have to attend another party somewhere for someone’s birthday or an event that seems to happen for any basic occasion.
I am 33 years old and ready to start planning my future in a responsible way.
I am so tired of all the booze fed evenings that resemble the reality TV show Vanderpump Rules! There is an endless amount of shooters that always end in a drama filled late night!
The next day involves a major hang over, infused with one Hell of a lot of memory loss and eating junk food until the same type of evening starts all over again
My boyfriend knows how much this bothers me but he always says that “We only live once and we are still young and should enjoy it now.” “We can save money later!”
To avoid another argument with him, I have started to make excuses why I can’t attend these drunken nights anymore but it is difficult because I really do love him. He thinks I am being way too serious and that we have plenty of time to be responsible.
We both have great jobs that we love, but how long is he going to be able to hold on to his when he shows up at work smelling like a tequila shooter or brewery? He has started to call in sick more often and shows up late constantly because he’s so tired from partying until 2 am on a weeknight!
Writing all this down I can see how bad things have become in our relationship and I know what I probably should do. Is there any hope for us at all?
What would you do Sybersue?
Christian P.
Dear Christian,
Well you are right that it sounds like a Vanderpump Rules episode! I can see why you are so frustrated because it seems to be the normal way of life for so many people in their 20’s and 30’s today!
I have no idea why they would be allowed to glorify these drunk fests on a TV show! Ratings I guess…
Glorified or not, it’s not OK to party this much and still have a healthy lifestyle or LIVER!
You are right about the drama that arises from these evenings as the excessive alcohol brings out the clawed cat in many of us. The more someone drinks the more they can handle, which then turns into an addiction that needs to be fed.
Let’s not forget to mention how much money is spent on these nights out! I am always hearing how millennials complain they will never own a house and they’ve got that right! If their priorities are in party mode, we know how much bottle service and fancy restaurants cost!
It is not unusual for many young people to have $300+ nights every time they step out for the evening. How could you possibly save any money for a house?
You are right to be concerned about your future with him Christian because at 35 years old he should already have been putting money away as an investment. You said you love him but are you sure it’s enough? It doesn’t sound like you do much together except go to expensive social events, so how will that help your relationship grow in the future?
You need to have the big talk with him and not just pull away doing your own thing while he continues on this destructive path. It’s time to put on those big girl panties and do what’s right for you. Tell him what is important to you and if he is willing to change things up and prioritize his future with you and his finances, then maybe you can salvage your partnership.
If he can’t compromise in the next month with his partying ways then you will have no choice but to move on in a different direction.
You can’t make someone change, but you can offer a solution that could help him see that what he is doing is a dead end scenario. It’s up to him how he handles it and to show you how important you are to him.
You have invested 2 years into this relationship and that is enough time to see if there is a healthy future with him. If he is doesn’t want to alter his present lifestyle and is happy with the life he is living, then you know there isn’t room in his heart to give you what you want anymore. His priorities aren’t you.
Sybersue ❤
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In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses “Are You Always Afraid Your Relationships Will End?”
Are you fearful of being in a relationship because you don’t think it will last? Is this becoming a problem due to trust issues from a difficult childhood or a past breakup that has left you feeling uneasy or insecure about relationships in general?
We’re not all built the same way emotionally and we are all a work in progress fumbling along until we get things right in our life.
Some of us learn quickly because we have loving support or mentors to help us figure things out, while others have to take the long way around trying to find the tools to guide them to the right path.
When it comes to matters of the heart we all have vulnerable moments and even the strongest men and women feel those scars that seem to linger longer than necessary! Why is love so difficult sometimes?
Love is the universal language that everyone understands but many people don’t deal with their emotions correctly. They either bury their feelings, become possessive or react harshly when hurt and are quite confused about what love actually means to them. This causes all types of self doubt and insecurities as the years go by.
It is important after each partnership ends to take time to analyse what transpired.
It’s OK to talk to someone professionally about what you’re feeling and what has taken hold of your emotional fears. In fact it is a great thing to do for yourself and can save you many years of heartbreak! Relationships are powerful and when they end it is another life experience that either holds you back, or helps you grow.
It is up to you which one that is; you are in charge.
If you are feeling anxious in most of your partnerships, it is time to figure out why. It could be that you are choosing a similar type and repeating a pattern that doesn’t work. Just because it feels familiar doesn’t mean that it is a good thing.
We ALL need a self esteem need boost at certain times and no one escapes that in a lifetime. Something needs to change so that you don’t subconsciously keep sabotaging relationship after relationship by choosing people who aren’t a good fit for you.
You should always feel safe and loved when you are with the right partner.
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Dear Sybersue’s weekly Wednesday video upload is a discussion on breakups and what you should keep from your past relationship.
Do you get rid of everything to do with your Ex or is it important to keep something to remind yourself of why you once loved them? Regardless of the way the relationship ended they were a part of your life for a reason; no matter how small of a reason that might have been.
We are personally in charge of who attract into our life, so whether you understand why at the time or figure it out at a later date, there is always a purpose or lesson to be learned with each person who walks on your path.
I am certainly not saying they are all happy lessons, but you needed to know something at that particular time to help you move into being an even better version of yourself! Acknowledging this will keep you centered and take you further up the ladder to your highest good.
Sybersue Loves to hear from you & will answer you back. Please watch the video above and leave your comments below or show topic ideas below this post.
Sybersue
