Today on Dear Sybersue, I discuss the topic: Am I in a One-Sided Relationship?
If you have to ask this question, you probably are. When you’re in the right partnership, there aren’t a lot of questions because you’re both on the same page and have no problem communicating your feelings to one another. Your conversation flows and it’s easy to talk to each other because you share a wonderful and special connection.
It is important going into any new relationship that you are both looking for the same things.
You shouldn’t have to fight for time to see your partner or connect with them. When someone is invested in you, there aren’t long periods of silence because they can’t wait to see you! If they are asking for space or telling you they are too busy to talk, text, or see you, they are not reciprocating what you are feeling.
If you have been with them longer than a few months, it is time to have a discussion about what you are both looking for in a partnership going forward. If they are hesitant to talk about this or give you surface answers, they are probably not looking for a true relationship.
It is wise not to ignore this, as it will be very hurtful to stay with someone who is not feeling the same way that you are. You need to have boundaries and respect yourself in any relationship you allow yourself to be in. If you’re not getting your needs met, it’s not the right place for you.
Pay close attention early on to how they treat you, and listen closely to what they say.
- Do they make plans with others, but they are more last-minute with you?
- Are they uncomfortable having deep conversations with you and often change the subject?
- Have they told you they are not ready or interested in marriage?
- Are you always looking for more affection and caring gestures from them?
- Do you feel insecure or jealous when you are with them?
- Are you afraid to have a talk about your relationship due to the fear that they might walk away?
- Do they tell you they love you, or are you still waiting to hear that from them?
If you have been with them for a year or longer and still hoping they will give you the partnership you are looking for, you are selling yourself short.
If the love between you both isn’t reciprocated after a reasonable amount of time, you may be setting yourself up for a big disappointment. You need to be honest with yourself about what’s really going on because you KNOW when they are into you!
Giving more to someone than you are receiving back is not a healthy relationship. You should both be equally prioritizing each other. Fantasizing over what you hope will happen isn’t reality, and it will keep you stuck in a place you should never allow yourself to be.
If you don’t permit yourself to be in a one-sided scenario, it won’t happen because you are respecting yourself first. You are not afraid to ask the right questions or to walk away when you aren’t receiving the love that is important to you. You should be going in the same direction fairly quickly when you are with the right person.
If it isn’t happening between you as a couple, that is totally OK. Don’t look at this as rejection, look at it as a stepping stone to getting to a better place. When you quickly walk away from something that isn’t meant to be, it brings you so much closer to where you are meant to be. We don’t fall head over heels with everyone we date, and that is why we date, to see if there is a beautiful connection with someone.
Many people make the mistake of allowing a relationship to continue even when they’re not getting the love they deserve. Life doesn’t have to be a constant struggle if you learn the lessons and move on to a happier place. The sooner you leave an unhappy one-sided scenario the sooner it will bring you closer to meeting the person you are meant to share your life with.
*Please watch the video to hear more about this important conversation!
Sybersue xo <3
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