No BS Advice Videos, Blogs & Advice Column for Millennials and GenXers (By a Sassy Redhead who has been there, done that & has all the T-shirts to Prove it!)
Some people are experts at love bombing very early on, which can put you in a false sense of feeling secure and wanted by them. They say all the right things about how amazing and sexy you are, and they see a future with you. Unfortunately, this is a form of manipulation to get what they want sexually from you.
Making errors because you tried something new, is a good thing because you are not staying stagnant in a place that is unfulfilling. You are making an effort to evolve and change up what isn’t serving you anymore. This is a strength, not a weakness!
If someone tells you they are not interested in having a serious relationship right now, believe them!
Lose the high-maintenance checklist and get to know someone slowly! Having too many expectations comes across as demanding. One of the reasons dating has become so difficult today is due to the impatience of both men and women wanting instant gratification.
Taking time away from dating gives you more clarity on what is really important to you and teaches you to grow independently without relying on a partner to make you feel whole. It allows you time to really get to know yourself and learn how to be comfortable in your own skin. This also helps you to see some of the unhealthy patterns you may have been repeating.
Trust takes time to establish and showing vulnerability by divulging every detail about yourself, is very alluring to catfishers and insincere suitors. Use your instincts and intelligence every time you go out on any date. Don’t assume they are always there for the same reasons you are. Use common sense, and please listen closely to your gut instincts. Don’t give out too much information before you know anyone.
