Everything starts out so well! It’s very exciting to have a reciprocated connection with someone you REALLY like. The romance is fast & furious and you are thinking; “at last I have finally met my person!” There is so much texting back and forth and things seem to be going amazingly well! Then all of a sudden you get ghosted and never hear from them again!
Always listen to your instincts and be honest with your feelings. You both have the right to know where you stand within the future of your partnership. When you are on the right path as a couple, there shouldn’t be a lot of unanswered questions or the need to give them an ultimatum.
There is a healthy excitement in a new partnership when you minimize your early expectations and have time to miss each other. Be communicative but also give things time to blossom at a natural pace. It’s definitely worth getting to know someone the old fashioned way.
If you don’t have some boundaries, a few of your own expectations, and respect for yourself, you may end up being in an unhealthy and lopsided situation. This doesn’t work long term and will end up being the demise of your relationship if you let continue.
Regardless of why she is sending these very mixed signals, it’s not a good thing to go into a lopsided situation if you want different things. You have to both be on the same page for things to work or it’s not going to end well.
Ultimately, dating while in recovery isn’t safe until you’ve gained a firm footing in the recovery process. The good news is you can apply a few checks and balances along the way to keep yourself on track.