Regardless of why she is sending these very mixed signals, it’s not a good thing to go into a lopsided situation if you want different things. You have to both be on the same page for things to work or it’s not going to end well.
Ultimately, dating while in recovery isn’t safe until you’ve gained a firm footing in the recovery process. The good news is you can apply a few checks and balances along the way to keep yourself on track.
It’s never too late to do some homework and change up unfulfilling dating patterns that aren’t working. No one is perfect but we are all loveable. It is worth taking the time to understand how important that is to our health and well being.
If your heart is continually feeling broken it’s time to fix it. Don’t give up on love and dating; just be smarter with who you let into your life. There is no room for game playing, ghosting or unhealthy red flags of any sort.
If you are not ready to at least have “the talk” after two years, then keeping her on hold is what is making her feel insecure. She is not seeing any changes within your relationship and doesn’t want to continue on without the acknowledgment that you are there for the long hall.
Put a little excitement back into your relationship and take the pressure out of the equation. You both need to bring a little courtship back in and get excited about dating each other again. You have gone into full-blown marital mode in a way too short of a time.