No BS Advice Videos, Blogs & Advice Column for Millennials and GenXers (By a Sassy Redhead who has been there, done that & has all the T-shirts to Prove it!)
A couple living in this type of relationship lives in constant turmoil because they are seldom on the same page. It is difficult for any conflict to get resolved when the communication style is at opposite ends in a relationship.
We all deserve to know the truth about how someone feels about us, but we need to be mature about how we deliver or receive the message. If you are not feeling a connection, telling someone the soft truth helps give them closure to move on and find love with someone else. That way, they are not sitting around waiting for you to contact them.
It takes two people to be in a relationship and both of you should be contributing to making things work together on a daily basis. It is not one person’s job to maintain or control the partnership. If you are finding that you are ending up in relationships where you are always giving more than you are receiving, it is time to get to the bottom of why you allow yourself to end up here.
Don’t settle for anything less than what your instincts are trying to help guide you toward. Red flags are put on your path as warning signs, so don’t ignore them. When you stop and take the time to listen to your instincts, you will usually take “the path of least resistance,” which makes your life so much smoother!
You fell in love with each other for a reason. Love needs to be nurtured, so don’t let things fizzle out. A partnership is a two-person job with both people doing their part. A few small gestures every day keep the relationship respect intact. There is nothing to complain about if you are both always making an effort to show you care. The little things are so important.
That is the beauty of the Millennium, everything is acceptable today, and we can all choose to live the life we want to live. That doesn’t mean there won’t be judgments made, but you do have the choice not to give energy to people who vocalize their negative opinions or who continually try to change your mindset.
