I saw this post on Mogul.com & wanted to share this with everyone here on my blog.
Do you really want to be in a relationship but you don’t feel positive about yourself or worthy of having love in your life? How do you remove this negativity and start to feel good about yourself?
We are ALL attractive and have something to offer, but if we don’t believe that about ourselves how will someone else believe we are a wonderful person?
Your self esteem is the foundation of your life. If you feel good about yourself and talk in a positive light people will want to be around you. If you keep pointing out negative things about who you are people may start to believe you!
How do you stop sabotaging love from happening for you?
Please watch the video above for more tips on how to change this up and believe you deserve love in your life! ❤
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
The video above by Matthew Hussey literally had me laughing out loud! So much of what was said in this video is very true!
Men and women interpret things very differently on a day to day basis but even more so in the world of dating today! Matthew is the #mansplaner in this video who dissects what is really being said between a couple out on a first date.
It is very important to understand how you come across when you are meeting someone new. So much can be read into face to face “one liners” or impersonal texts and we have to be careful how we present ourselves if we want to have a potential partner in our lives.
First impressions make or break that second date! These questions & statements listed below are huge red flags about a man’s character to be aware of:
When you pay attention on the first few dates, it can be fairly obvious whether they are sincerely into having a relationship or not. Don’t just hear what you want to hear; listen to what they are really saying. You can save yourself a lot of drama by doing so!
You are not there to fix them or change them so don’t start thinking there is a possibility to mold them into your perfect prince charming. Move on to someone who you have a natural connection with.
When it is right, there aren’t too many complicated questions. It just flows. ❤
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
Dear Sybersue discusses how many men and women are sad, lonely or angry about the difficulties in finding a solid partnership today.
Many people are giving up on ever having a loving relationship due to all the high maintenance attitudes and lengthy checklists they come across in the dating world of the Millennium.
With all the world problems that effect us every day shouldn’t we try to at least have love in our personal lives? Isolating ourselves in a negative and angry environment is not the answer to attracting the love we all deserve to have.
I don’t believe for a moment that people really don’t want a relationship. I think this attitude is due to past rejections, crushed egos, fear on what hasn’t worked and how difficult it is to find authentic love today.
People are becoming more shallow and have higher expectations than ever before. Why has this happened and how do we change things up so that we can have love in our lives?
Please watch the video above and leave your comments below this post. What do you think is going on?
Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL Dating and Relationship Advice Talk Show for Men & Women.
In the video above I discuss infidelity and stepping out on your partner while pretending to be in a solid partnership. Being blindsided by someone who you thought was loyal can destroy trust for many years to come. If you’re not invested in your relationship then have the courage to remove yourself before you bring someone else into the mix.
You owe them that much.
If you are unhappy with the way things are going in your partnership why are you hanging around? You know in your heart whether it can be repaired or if there is a future with them. Leading someone on who thinks they are in a committed long term relationship is just prolonging an unhealthy and fake environment.
This is happening a lot right now with many couples. One of my most popular posts on this website is titled: Dear Sybersue I was in a 7 year Relationship When My Boyfriend suddenly left me! (Check it out!)
Part of the problem is how difficult dating is in the Millennium and people don’t want to be alone. They would rather live in their unhappy situation than put themselves through the hardship of finding someone they could be happy with. So they stay.
Here lies the problem.
Whenever a scenario offers the opportunity of a flirtatious encounter with someone (other than with your partner) it is eagerly jumped upon. Someone is paying attention to you! You react harmlessly at first, but subconsciously there is a newly lit desire springing to life!
You feel a little more alive and less lonely than you have been feeling.
This becomes a dangerous territory and hard to remove yourself from. The forbidden fruit of life’s temptations! The devil on one shoulder and the angel on the other. We have all been there even though we see those red flags waving furiously in the wind!
But we ignore them…
I live a very full & pretty decent life for the most part. I have two children, a dog and a great partner whom I still love after 10 years. His job is demanding & I work 5 days a week myself. I am also putting in time to develop my own business on the side to help with our heavy mortgage.
Needless to say juggling it all and still having a busy social schedule is a challenge as I am sure it is for many people out there. My sex-life is non-existent at the moment & my passion for it is a little depleted due to the lack of physical connection my husband and I share.
Even though I seem to be managing my crazy life, I have to admit I feel tired & stressed out all the time these days!
I do not take care of myself in the way I should due to time restrictions with work, & the children’s activities. I do not feel nearly as sexy or attractive as I used to in my single days. I don’t have time to be the feminine hot woman of my past existence anymore.
I don’t even know what a girl’s night out is these days! My friends seem to have given up on me because I have so little time for them. I don’t blame them.
Every so often I get very depressed and do not want to see or talk to anyone which makes it even worse. I feel overwhelmed ~ Any ideas to help??
From The Suburban Housewife
Hi S.H. & thanks for writing,
First of all I truly do suggest that you talk to a professional therapist. The minute there is depression involved, you should have a qualified resource to get the best help available.
In the meantime here are a few things to think about.
Like many working mothers today, we are all doing too much for everyone else and giving ourselves the leftovers! This pretty much amounts to 15 minutes of quality “Me” time in a 24 hour period.
You didn’t say how much your husband helped out around the home but be honest with yourself on whether you feel there is equality in that respect. If you are both working, you both should be participating 50/50 in your partnership in every area. More often than not, women do take on more at home because they are nurturers from birth. (Thanks to being given the womb!) Ask for help.
The children need to have daily chores, or if they are too young right now, hire a neighborhood kid to walk the dog after you get home from work, to mow the lawn, or get your groceries, dry cleaning or light housework. It will be worth the money for the time and stress you save.
Now, how to feel sexy again:
Your man should help out with this one until you get back those sexual urges. He has to desire you and tell you he does. Soft kisses and hugs outside bedroom will slowly get you both back on a sensual path. You need a gentle push to get you in the mood after a long day and it is important to communicate this to each other before too many months go by and you are living in a platonic relationship.
Does your husband want sex regularly or has he also lost interest? If he is too aggressive this can turn you off or if he is not pursuing an intimate relationship with you, this could be why you don’t feel as sexual these days.
Sometimes women don’t see that, and think it is always just their problem. It usually is a two way street, because both people are too busy to make sex a priority. Sex can be the biggest deal breaker in a relationship so it is imperative to get a handle on it ASAP. (Never give each other an excuse to go out and find it somewhere else.)
Making yourself feel sexy with lingerie, a little makeup or having a pedicure can help put a spring back in your step. When you look good you really do feel good. Make an effort on a daily basis to spruce yourself up. It takes 10 sec to apply lipstick or brush your hair into a nice style. ❤
Have sex once per week to start out. No excuses! You both need to make this happen regardless of how busy you are. Date nights are important! It doesn’t have to be a 2 hour session; sometimes 20 minutes of intimacy is all you need to feel close again.
Put any social life on hold until you get the sex back in your relationship. Sometimes all it takes is a few romantic orgasmic sessions to get you back to being the tigress you once were!
Let me know you make out…literally.
Dear Sybersue discusses relationship problems that can be solved through love and communication! Pick your battles and stop sweating the small stuff!
There will always be issues to deal with in your partnership but many of them can be managed before they escalate into destroying your relationship.
Why do some couples keep rehashing the same old argument or keep looking for a new one? Are they looking for a fight due to boredom?
Why not try to spice up the relationship in other ways that don’t include a heated argument? Defuse the conflict early and put that energy into something that brings you closer, like great makeup sex! Remember those days???
Making love is the the glue of most successful long term partnerships!
The more drama you allow into your relationship the less chance you will have to make it work long term. It’s not easy being with the same person for many years but with a little low maintenance action it can be a loving and healthy environment that you enjoy coming home to.
There are men and women who truly love their spouses right up until their 60th wedding anniversary because they made it work and put each other first through all those years together. When you unconditionally respect your partner it is easy to hold on to the love you feel for each other because you grow together rather than grow apart. You like each other and appreciate one another.
It is actually a simple equation but so many couples complicate it until the demise of their relationship is before them.
Please watch the video above and leave your comments below this post on what has or hasn’t worked for you in your own home. Your words may able to help someone else out there. 🙂
Susan McCord @ youtube.com/dearsybersue