Relationships: Spice up Your Appearance to Attract People Towards You!

Relationships: Spice up Your Appearance to Attract People Towards You!

Dear Sybersue is Relationship/Dating Advice Talk Show for Men & Women of all Ages!

In this video, Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord discusses how to change things up with your appearance to feel good about yourself, improve your relationship or attract someone towards you if you are single.

It’s not that difficult to make a little effort and it’s very important to make a good first impression in all aspects of life! Do you want to be with someone who has given up on themselves? So then don’t give up on yourself either.

Being complacent eventually erodes your self esteem because your happiness fades right along with it. This isn’t a “vanity thing,” it’s a “be the best you can be thing!” Our moods play a big part in our day to day decisions on being optimistic or pessimistic.

Who do you want to hang around with; someone who looks at the glass as half full or half empty?  You attract people towards you by what you project about yourself to others. This has all to do with confidence and having a great attitude, as well as how you put yourself together with your appearance.

Ultimately it is your choice with who you surround yourself with and if things aren’t where you want them to be in your life, it’s not to late to change them. Sometimes the simplest steps make the biggest difference.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
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My Guest Interview on Vancouver’s Roundhouse Radio with Emelia Symington Fedy


Many people don’t know that I started my talk show as a live stream podcast over 10 years ago before I changed to a video format. Radio has always been my first love and I am very happy whenever I am asked to be a guest on other people’s talk shows! (Especially when I get to go into the studio; it feels like home!)

Emelia Symington Fedy is the incredible host of “Trying to be Good” Radio show in Vancouver, Canada.  She is a character and doesn’t have a shy bone in her body! I love her natural “shoot from the hip” attitude and her honest view of pretty much everything!

Emelia is not afraid to put herself out there when it comes to her own personal matters which gives her audience a comfort zone of trust. “Wow she has the same issues as me and isn’t afraid to talk about them!” It is like listening to a friend talk openly about life, motherhood, career, marriage, romance and all the other things men and women discuss & deal with on a daily basis.

Did I forget to mention she is also Funny and a great interviewer?

In this audio clip below, Emelia puts me in the “interview hot seat” and saves the best for last when she wants to hear my “advice column skills” regarding her own personal question about her kids and marriage.

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Emelia and I had so much fun together that she has asked me to come back in the New Year to do another show! I love this woman!❤

A Little More about Emelia:

  • Emelia Symington Fedy is an actor, writer, producer and radio freelancer. Most recently, Emelia produced and co-wrote Motherload, a new dark comedy about contemporary parenting that premiered at The Cultch. 

    An associate artist with Radix Theatre Emelia most recently collaborated and performed in TBD, Babylonia, BUTFL PRBLMS and the Jessie award-winning play, Assembly. Select working credits are with Solo Collective, Radix, Arts Club Theatre, Sunshine Theatre, Green Thumb, Theatre, Caravan Farm Theatre, Theatre Melee, Axis and Leaky Heaven Circus.

    Emelia is a graduate of Studio 58 and has furthered her training with John Turner (Mump and Smoot) and Karen Hines (Pochsy). Emelia is a regular contributor to CBC Radio, has a weekly advice column with Roundhouse Radio and also curates the popular and offbeat website which due to its popularity is now becoming a book.

    Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
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Dating Advice: Ladies it’s Time to Ask the Men Out!

So many men and women are upset with how lonely they feel due to the problems they are having with meeting a potential partner.

People are giving up on having a relationship because they have stopped believing that unconditional love exists.

Unrealistic checklists have replaced courtship because if you don’t fit everything on someones list you’re out of the running after the first text message. (You don’t even get to meet them in person!)

Things need to change in a big way with the dating drought in the millennium and maybe we need to go back to doing things the old fashioned way?

Unfortunately one of the biggest problems is men are fed up being rejected when they do ask a woman out in a social setting. So…maybe if things aren’t working, it’s time for the ladies to ask the men out!

Guys have always had the pressure of being the pursuer and are tired of having to be the one who makes the first move. Dating has become a big problem because of this.

Men are confused and women are frustrated that their dating life is becoming non-existent.

When a woman gives a man a little encouragement it goes a long way. When she smiles or says “hi” first, it gives him the OK that she is interested. Many guys aren’t sure if they are put in a “friend zone” or if there is potential for a romantic relationship.

Ladies: times have changed and if you want to meet someone to have a partnership with you need to make an effort.

We can’t demand equal rights and then contradict ourselves by not partaking in being more assertive when it comes to asking out someone on a date.

Waiting for someone to contact you and trying to meet that perfect man online or on a dating app is probably not going to get you the love you desire in your life. How is is working so far?

If you want something bad enough why sit back and wait?

Doesn’t it make more sense to take a chance and make a move to get his attention? You know what you like so don’t let a great chance pass you by when there is an attraction to someone. You may never see them again and regret not saying something.

Don’t make your life full of “what ifs!”

I can promise you men will be flattered you took a chance on them. So what if you find out they are in a relationship or not available for another reason. Try again with someone else!

Men have had to deal with this for hundreds of years and maybe it is time we make it a little easier on them and ourselves.

If you are sitting home night after night and feeling more alone than ever, it’s time to make a change. Go out and get what you want ladies because you are in charge of who you attract into your life.

Don’t wait for a guy to come and knock on your door…go knock on his door! ❤

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Relationship & Dating Advice: Are you too Judgmental or too Picky?


How would you describe yourself in 3 sentences?

Do you think people know the “real you?”

With less “face to face” contact due to online dating & social media outlets, people are spending more time behind a computer and becoming even more judgmental than ever before. All it takes is the click of a mouse or a swipe to the right and we are on to the next more attractive profile photo without giving any thought to getting to know someone who isn’t our idea of a perfect 10!

Vanity is taking on a whole new look these days because there is so much more importance placed on physical appearance than ever before! Many people are spending too much time posting selfies or half naked photos all over Facebook, Snapchat & Instagram.  Why are they trying to impress complete strangers out in Cyberland?


Insecurities lie deep within the majority of the population because many people are not comfortable in their own skin; so that when meeting someone for the first time many men & women are very judgemental and label each other very quickly.

When we are not happy with ourselves, we tend to find fault in others.

It is our own responsibility of how we allow ourselves to be portrayed. Clothes, attitude, hairstyles, and body art, all make an initial statement regardless of whether we think it should. It is a form of expression and usually a good part of who we are at the time.

Dying your hair fuchsia, having 20 facial piercings, overdone plastic surgery and full body tattoos will get definitely get you attention.  It is human nature and society that makes the general public react with a quick summation to something that is “out of the norm.”

Don’t be pissed off or surprised when people stare because that is who you want to be at that particular time and you should be proud of it or change it. Honestly ask yourself if this is truly the first impression you want to give off to people; or are you rebelling due to some internal anger or hurt?

After all, body language is an open window to your true character.

First impressions are the building blocks to a second date, which is why it is strongly advised to be “attitude ready” when you are looking for that special person to share your life with. People can change and that includes you. If you feel your past is somewhat questionable with some the choices you have made, the first step is to own them, acknowledge them & forgive yourself.

Everyone makes mistakes in relationships or dating scenarios but they do not always admit or accept their part in the repetitive turmoil that surrounds them. Blaming your life choices on others will only keep you in denial and block your future happiness.

Asking for help is a great way to move towards a positive direction. Having someone to talk to like a counselor/coach, trusted friend or family member can help you with your subconscious actions, that may be damaging your chance at finding a loving person to share your life with.

Once you start seeing the good in people and believe you can have a healthy relationship, you will start to attract the right people towards you. Every time you meet someone new, say 3 things nice about them which will override any negative comments that you initially might want to think that could sabotage it. (You can either say it out loud to them or just say it to yourself until you feel comfortable.) Always focus on the bright & shiny; not the dark & dismal.

Being judgmental doesn’t work for anyone and keeps people in a relationship pattern of short lived partnerships. Don’t get stuck thinking it will never change. We all have a past but it is how we deal with our future that defines our happiness.

We are ALL beautiful and deserve love in our lives.

Susan McCord @


Relationship Advice: My EX Wants Me Back!

What do you do if your Ex wants to come back into your life?

Should you give the relationship another try? You spent a lot of time getting over them and now they are once again professing their love to you!

Do you trust them? Is it too late?

There is always a reason why a relationship ends and we have to be careful that we understand the reasons why it did end before we take a leap of faith to repeat the same scenario. There are lots of things to think about and questions to ask yourself.

Some people never change while other people do.

Your intuition is your best guide in times like this so don’t ignore any red flags that it gives you. If your gut says yes, give it a shot. Life and love are all about timing.  Sometimes a relationship can be better the second time around because you have both had a chance to grow and mature.

Watch this video above to see what else Dear Sybersue has to say on how to handle this situation.

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Dear Sybersue: I Was in a 7 Year Relationship & My Boyfriend Recently Left Me…

This post from a few years ago still remains a popular topic today! Relationships aren’t easy but holding onto your self respect will keep you from falling into this trap. Have boundaries and a few expectations and never allow yourself to be put on hold for someone who wants time out from your partnership!

Dear Sybersue ~ A Dating and Relationship Blog & Talk Show

pixabay-sad-asian-girl-1733346_1280Dear Sybersue: I was in a 7 year relationship & my boyfriend recently left me

I was in a 7 year relationship and my boyfriend recently left me…I’m in so much pain and it’s only been a month. It was such an abrupt breakup and it totally blindsided me! What can I do, I’m so stuck.  I tried dating already but most of the guys just want sex and I am avoiding that, but I still have needs. I feel so alone & I’m very disillusioned as to why end our relationship ended without so much as a discussion?

(Thanks for your video advice about breakups, it did help…)


Dear DDee,

Thanks for writing & I understand & feel your pain! 7 years is a long time invested in a relationship & not something anyone gets over in a few months. You won’t be alone for long if you…

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Dating & Relationships: Are You Getting MIXED SIGNALS!


It seems that men and women cannot get past the first 3 dates due to the mixed signals they are receiving.

What is going on & why has this changed so much over the years?

1.  Insecurities and past hurts are keeping people from having normalcy in their relationships.

2.  Everyone gets their rule book out and if their date doesn’t pass all the tests early on, they are deleted from their phones, apps or social media. NEXT!

3.  The effort is not put forth anymore to really get to know someone and accept some of their imperfections.

4.  Online dating & available Apps are making people move on quicker & allowing them to be more particular because of the big roster of “next conquests” available on these sites. They get an “I can do better” attitude.

In the beginning, when getting to know a potential partner, respect & communication should be the priority before sex & intimacy rule your loins.

Being sexually compatible is important and many people do not want to waste their time if the chemistry isn’t there between the sheets. Sex is now expected to happen immediately and even on the first date!


Intimacy changes everything for most woman and new expectations come into play when she gives herself to someone. Sex too soon can end up being a big problem so tread lightly with how quickly you both rip your clothes off.

Playing games every other week or playing hard to get, will usually end up being the demise of the partnership when the other half gets tired of this obvious agenda.

One of the most common “Mixed Signals” comes in the form of one person pushing the relationship way too fast in the beginning. Then a month or two later they sabotage it because they freak themselves out due to how fast it is moving!

This is a very common scenario especially if sex was introduced too quickly. Don’t let someone dictate this speedy scenario. Hold back! You don’t know them and they could be in an addictive dating pattern with no intention of being in a committed relationship.

There is an old expression that when someone comes in too fast to the relationship, they usually go out, just as fast!

By being aware of the type of person you are attracting; is the key to finding a long lasting love. Constantly choosing people who are unavailable or who are commitment phobic, could be because you are not ready yourself.

Another mistake some people make is by needing their friend’s of family’s approval. It is always best to make your own assumptions by listening to your intuition not someone else. Some of your friends could be jealous of your new love and say things to sabotage it.

Dating later in life can also be difficult as you may be less tolerant.

You could be set in your ways and become too picky or judgemental. If your space feels threatened it may make you pull back. This also sends out mixed signals!

The older we get the more heartbreak scars we have in our tainted memories, so be careful of meeting someone fresh out of a broken relationship. This is never a good idea.

There is a reason why you hurt after a break-up & you are supposed to take time to heal and reflect on what transpired. How can you possibly be whole? You are just taking your emotional baggage into the next relationship even if you don’t think you are.

Galloping on the next horse is not always a good ride; it’s just a different one.

Ask your date what they are looking for. Don’t be afraid to find out early; it may be the opposite of where you see yourself and you can discuss that with them. Diplomacy should always be used and a leave the long checklist at home.

Body language gives away many answers if you are paying attention; which is what dating is all about.

1. Listen clearly to what they say. If they say they don’t want to be in a committed relationship and that is important to you, move on. They have told you honestly; don’t think you will be the one to change their mind!

2. If they are playing a game or playing hard to get, you really don’t want to waste time trying to figure that out. Relationships don’t have to be that difficult. People make it harder because they try to change each other rather than “listen” to who their date really is.

3. Don’t get caught up in a “cat and mouse” game. Learn early on whether it is worth pursuing. If they are only texting twice a week or keeping you at arms reach, they are not interested.

4. Learn to really listen to what they are saying and not only what you want to hear.

5.  People give themselves away early on so it is wise to read between the lines, listen to your gut and not ignore the red flags!

6.  Don’t let their hotness overrule your values & morals by allowing things that you would normally move on from. Looks really aren’t everything long term; there is so much more to a person than that.

7.  Do not allow yourself to become their last minute date or late night booty call! Respect yourself first & others will respect you too.

The more you get on the treadmill of dating people who send out mixed signals, the more you will lose your trust in having a partnership.

It always is wise to take some time away from dating if there is a negative pattern developing. Don’t let someone come in and mess with your heart or your head.

Your instincts are your guide; never ignore their value! They will always lead you in the right direction.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show