Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating and relationship advice columnist for men & women of all Ages!
In today’s video I discuss the topic: “Have you been cheated on in many of your relationships?” “Why does it keep happening?” This can be very hurtful and leave you feeling unworthy and very deflated.
Each scenario compounds a deep sadness into your soul.
There is something going on that makes you choose this same type of partnership which needs to addressed. We choose who we allow into our lives and if the pattern is disturbingly repetitive, you need to get some answers!
Your self esteem plays a big part in who you end up with in a relationship. When you’re not comfortable with who you are as a person it can become a big problem with many choices or decisions you make in any part of your life.
Learning how to build your self confidence is a big necessity when it comes to removing damaging patterns that you can’t seem to let go of.
If drama seems to continually follow you in your love-life; it is time to seek some outside coaching or counseling. It is not healthy to live this way because it is all you know and is familiar to you!
This is not a “good” familiar it is an “unhealthy” familiar. Just because you are used to feeling a certain way doesn’t make it the right way. Love isn’t painful and it certainly doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice who you are to be in a partnership.
A reciprocated love is the only way a partnership really works in a long term commitment. There is equal respect for each other and you are each other’s priority. You know in your heart whether someone is really there for you so don’t pretend or make excuses for someone just so you can be in a relationship.
Your morals and values are a big part of who you are, don’t put them on the back burner and ignore them. They are your guide to having all things positive in your life. ❤
* Susan loves to hear from her viewers & often answers their relationship and dating questions on her show as a topic choice. Please leave your comments below the video!
Having a reciprocated sexual chemistry is a common priority for many single men and women and if the passion isn’t there right away it will often put and end to pursuing any further courtship with them.
How do you know when you have chemistry with someone and that they feel the same way?
This intense sexual power is not the same for everyone and we all have our unique version of what that means to us individually. Sometimes the pheromones are so powerful that it actually pulls you towards them like a magnetic force. There is a unmistakable euphoric magic in the air. Other times it is as simple as a gaze across the room that telepathically draws you in.
What are the signs?
These reciprocated powerful feelings are a beautiful gift if you are both fortunate enough to be single but they can also be the catalyst in many relationship breakups! Due to the magnitude of this electrical current, some people tend to step over their boundaries; acting on these sexual impulses first & dealing with the repercussions later.
There are different levels of chemistry.
Sometimes it is slow and drawn out and becomes more powerful over time but more often it is an instant feeling that blindsides your existence. Chemistry is something that you feel an uncontrollable passion about. There is nothing quite as powerful when you can feel someone‘s sexual energy matching yours. The endorphins are mesmerizing!
So is this a short lived scenario that is doomed from the start? Will it fizzle and die just as fast as the flame was lit?
This depends on how often you see each other and if the couple are on the same page with how they nurture these intensified pheromones! Some people enjoy having a sexual relationship without the love; more of a friend’s with benefits rapport. They can become addicted to this “initial” sexual excitement and move on when the intensity dies down.
This can be very confusing or hurtful to those people who want an actual relationship and not just a fling! It is not easy to keep sexual chemistry in a passionate zone for years to come. You can definitely still have a great sex life but it is the lucky ones that can still passionately lust after their partner 25 years later! Keeping love alive is a full time job but well worth the investment!
Does age make a difference in how a person looks at sexual chemistry?
As a person matures, so does their awareness. They may become more selective or intuitive due to some of the mistakes they have made in the past. Now when they feel this powerful spark, they know it! There is no time wasted because it isn’t something that we have everyday. It isn’t as common as we want to believe.
In your younger years when you are “sexually peaking” everything is experimental. Everyone looks good and feels good for a while until you start to differentiate with new emotions. In high school most crushes are due to an instant chemical attraction. No one is thinking about their future yet so it usually ends up as a lustful encounter before moving onto the next conquest. This can be very difficult for teenage self esteem because of the lack of education when it comes to how to deal with sex, love and relationships.
How do you keep chemistry from fading?
The key to keeping the chemistry alive over the years is exactly that, “keeping it alive:”
There are four elements of romantic chemistry: Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual. How great would it be to have all four!
Most love situations will have a few barriers that will need to addressed here and there. You both will have to be creative on a daily basis to keep the chemistry alive. Juggling busy careers, children, medical issues and financial responsibilities can play a large part in destroying even the most overpowering chemistry.
Taking the time to be grateful for what you do have together will help keep perspective in how fortunate you really are as a couple. Life throws us all regular curveballs, but it is how we deal with them that will keep us in a happy place. Feeling secure is very important & communication is the key to keeping the passion alive in any relationship.
Always be there for each other.
Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/dearsybersue
Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord (aka Dear Sybersue) discusses a big problem that many people face in relationships today.
When you are dealing with insecurities or drama from your past it can play a big part in who you choose as a partner or it can sabotage potential relationships from happening.
Being needy or clingy isn’t endearing to others as it comes off as manipulative or controlling and wears thin after a while.
Wanting to be with someone is a totally different concept to needing to be with someone.
No one wants to feel suffocated and neither do they want to have to answer to someone 24/7! They want to share their life with you NOT be your life! Pay attention to the type of partner you are choosing, as there may be a pattern that you are not aware of.
You may be attracted to unavailable people or may not feel worthy of having a loving relationship. If you have some deep rooted negative programming that you just can’t seem to change from your past, it might be time to talk to a professional about it.
You deserve to be happy and it is never too late to make changes. ❤
Susan McCord @ Dear Sybersue YouTube
In today’s video above Dear Sybersue discusses your dating life and your attitude that goes along with it.
Are you happy with how you come across to others? Do you make a great first impression or are you too rigid, stuck up or way too picky about who you will date?
It might be time to take a good hard look in the mirror if your dating life sucks.
Ask a trusted friend or a family member how you come across to others.
It’s never too late to make changes to be a better person but first you have to understand what needs changing. If things are constantly back-firing from what you are truly looking for, there is a reason.
It’s not because “there isn’t anyone out there to date,” it is because of something happening within “you” that is blocking a potential partner from entering your life.
It might be time to hire a dating coach or counselor to see what is really going on. Self esteem plays a big role in how you respond to everything in your life; especially when it comes to love and relationships. Don’t be the last to know.
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I am very excited to be writing an article on the Baru Latino restaurant because it is my favorite place to eat and hang out in the Kitsilano hood! It has a downtown atmosphere feel to it without having to cross over the bridge to get there.
What makes this place so special? Pretty much everything! One of the main reasons to visit this highly popular spot, besides the incredible food and the ambience; is the “hands on” owners!
Rene Lafleur is one of the owners (yes, he is related to hockey legend Guy Lafleur – his dad’s second cousin!) and despite his very French name, he does not speak the language. Rene spent 12 years as a drummer with the band “Star Collector” who proudly have 4 full length albums. He is the numbers geek, wine guy and host at Baru.
Co-owner Dave Newis has been a kitsilano fixture for many years working in numerous establishments & known as a bartender extraordinaire! Dave also traveled Canada playing beach volleyball. He is the “attention to detail” Milieu expert at Baru!
Dave’s wife Zeta Newis is the Head Chef at Baru and also co-owner of Baru Rubs & Sauces with Rene’s wife Nina Lafleur! This definitely adds validity to the cliché; “Those who play together stay together!”
Baru Rubs and Sauces may have only been around for 2 years, but these two entrepreneurial women already have their products in 5 whole Food stores and 8 other various stores throughout BC. Who needs the Dragons Den to promote your business when you have these two go-getters!
Baru Latino was an established name & venue when Dave & Rene decided to delve into this business. They loved the space on sight! Tired of working for someone else & spending so much time throwing their own dinner parties, they decided to look for a place to call their own!
Both owners are originally from Alberta, moved to Vancouver in 1991, met here & have been friends for 12 years. Business partners for 8 years, they are quite the characters & each offers something different and unique to the restaurant.
Talk about meeting someone at “the right place at the right time” and what a great team they are!
They make it work so well and the “dinner party theme” is definitely the feel you get when you walk in the door! The atmosphere is fun and romantically contagious.
Chef Zita Newis, sous chef Mathew Wilson, cooks Tristen Jones and Kristy Averves are responsible for the amazing food reputation at Baru. The guava glazed 10 oz pork chop & ceviche are my favorites but everything on the menu is fantastic!
They encourage family style sharing and the restaurant is pleasantly affordable with the most expensive entree; Steak Chimmichurri 7oz Sirloin steak, with chimmichurri sauce, served with jalapeno potato pave and topped with a smoky corn salsa served with seasonal vegetables priced at $31.
The menu is 95% gluten free excluding the bread & chocolate lava cake! It is also nut free with the exception of a few behind the bar! (Dave’s words not mine!)
|Baru’s Famous Pork Chop|
The dining area at Baru seats 44-48 people with an additional 15 bar seats. It is a popular location for many functions/private parties and has been voted as a great date night hangout! It’s not uncommon for online daters to meet up here for their first rendezvous. The beautiful actress Natalie Portman was seen dining in Baru along with many other visiting and local celebrities. They love the cozy non-pretentious atmosphere!
|Seasonal White Fish|
❤ The incredible lighting and uniquely flavored mojito drinks give it a romantic flare that makes couples feel amorous! There is a happy hour available every day of the week from 5-6:30 which includes $5 red/white sangria, double mojitos for $7, red or white wine $6 for a 6oz glass ($9 for a 9oz glass) and 1516 beers for $4. This is very affordable especially for those “first date” evenings! ❤
*Mention this article when making your “date night” reservation and Baru will offer you something special to help with those “first date” jitters! ❤
Baru Latino Restaurant participates in Dine Out Vancouver every year and has many repeat customers due to how much they enjoy their first dining experience at Baru! They can’t wait to come back!
There is entertainment available on special evenings so please check out the Baru website for more information or call the restaurant anytime to find out what’s happening. (604) 222-9171
Regardless of whether you are a local Vancouverite or an out of town visiting guest, it is will be an evening you will always remember. Make your reservations soon and don’t miss out on this incredible Latino experience at 2535 Alma Street on the west side of Vancouver. There is free parking available underground behind the restaurant.
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Written by Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord (aka Dear Sybersue) gets many questions from her male viewers on her advice column and this topic “5 attributes that men want in their partner” is one of the biggest conversations of all.
Women think all men care about is sex but that isn’t true for most guys. They want a loving relationship just like women do.
They are tired of being categorized and want women to know what is really important to them. Dear Sybersue promised to do this video (above) on behalf of the numerous emails she received on the subject.
Many women have lost hope when it comes to finding a partnership and are incredibly frustrated with the whole dating scenario. Men feel the same way and this is now becoming a big negative environment with both sexes.
As Dr. Phil says “How’s that working for you?”
It’s not right? So what are you going to do; complain about what’s not working or change things up so that they do work?
How Do We Do That Ladies & Gentlemen?
While there are definitely some hurdles with dating in the millennium, they are things that are pretty cool as well. Social media tools can bring us together in a much bigger way if we use them correctly.
Life is not meant to be easy but it is how you handle “those annoying curveballs” that will bring you closer to being centered and present so that you can be the best YOU!
The quicker you move on from those obvious red flags will be when your new journey begins. When you meet that loving person to share your life with there are no deep dark questions. It just fits and flows beautifully. There is no drama and there are no BS games to deal with.
We all want love in our life and there is someone for everyone once we change our attitude and believe we deserve it.
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