The difficulty here is that you are sabotaging your own happiness because you keep people from rejecting you, by rejecting them first.
Both sexes seem to be hurt from past breakup experiences, which might add a little fear or subconscious sabotage to how they view the dating arena today. Attitude is everything when you want to meet someone to share your life with. Having a negative outlook is the first thing you have to alter if you are feeling like you will never meet anyone, and will always be single.
Sometimes we make ourselves busy, so we have an excuse not to date. We actually sabotage our own happiness without even realizing it.
It’s all about communication when you decide to be in a committed partnership. It’s not just a given that you will automatically become a married couple. Some people are happy living together without the formalities of a wedding and all that goes with that. The important thing in any relationship is not to assume anything.
Once you understand that you are OK being alone is when you will clearly see that you are worthy of having a healthy and reciprocated love relationship. Most people feel disconnected at certain times in their lives. This is totally normal and can actually be a motivating factor in improving your life when you are faced with a little hardship. You have the choice to stay in the negative mode in front of you or find ways to jump over the hurdles thrown in your path.
If the love between you both isn’t reciprocated after a reasonable of amount of time, you may be setting yourself up for a big disappointment. You need to be honest with yourself about what’s really going on because you KNOW when they are into you! Fantasizing over what you hope will happen isn’t reality, and it will keep you stuck in a place you should never allow yourself to be.