Change Your Look, Attitude & Life (Right down to your underwear!)

Change Your Look, Attitude & Life (Right down to your underwear!)

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One day on a calendar shouldn’t be the only reason to make a difference in your attitude or appearance. Some people need to have a reason to alter their outlook and behavioral patterns.

Birthdays, Reunions & New Year’s Day seems to be the focal point for many people to make those changes but why does everyone need a particular date to do this?

Why do we need a reason to care about how we look or act?

Regardless of whether you are single or in a relationship, shouldn’t you always take pride in your appearance and attitude? Brushing your teeth and having a shower is an important hygienic necessity and you wouldn’t even think about not doing this on a daily basis!

Why stop there?

Yes, there are some people who take vanity to a much higher level but then there are those men and women who really try hard to make the opposite statement. They are almost rebellious about taking any time with their appearance; which also shows in their everyday outlook towards life.

Why would you go to the supermarket or a movie in your sweatpants, no makeup on and then be embarrassed or complain how terrible you looked when you ran into a really attractive guy or an old friend?

If you care enough to make a comment about how bad you looked, why go out in public like that?

There is a happy medium here without being the 2-hour high maintenance woman. You can truly change your life with the right attitude. Even the smallest changes can alter your spirit.

Don’t use the excuse that you’re a full figured woman or you’re not a size 6 and think that men only look at skinny girls, because that isn’t true! Men love women of all shapes & sizes!

We are ALL beautiful ladies!

Looking good really does make you feel good!

When you have sexy underwear on do you not feel different? When someone turns their head to look at you, does it not put a spring in your step?

  • Making small changes with your appearance and attitude will help expand your life in all areas. Makeover shows are popular for a reason!
  • One fabulous piece of clothing or a new haircut can alter your attitude; which ultimately changes how you think about everything!
  • When you go a little beyond your comfort zone, it is a big door opener that attracts new things into your life. Even just one flirtatious glance or compliment can bring you a refreshed outlook & big boost to your self-esteem.

Positive acknowledgment is a part of life that starts as an infant; making our parents smile from our first word to their applause when we take our 1st step. It is what motivates our actions which keep escalating as we grow.

Pats on the back are adolescent building blocks but it doesn’t stop because we are now an adult.  

We all need continual encouragement. If we get nothing back on a continual basis, many of us retreat into a lethargic & negative place.

This is why it is important to be in a loving & supportive reciprocated relationship!  One-sided partnerships eventually tear down your self-esteem and dangerously play on your self-worth.

 If your life is constantly void of reassuring acclamations, how do you continue to build confidence?

Start by caring about yourself and how others perceive you. How do you come across? Stand out & make people notice you. Be the best YOU!

How do I change things up with my appearance and learn to feel comfortable with my authentic self?

  1. If this is uncomfortable for you or you aren’t sure where to start, ask a trusted friend or family member to help. Ask them to take you shopping & offer suggestions on what they think looks good on you. What can they tell you about your personality and how you come across to others? Tell them to be gentle as this is new territory and you don’t want any negativity. You want to come out of your cocoon not retreat back into it.
  2. Start slowly by purchasing one or two articles of clothing that are out of your “comfort wardrobe zone” but within your age group. You could always hire a stylist if you don’t have a clue as to what you should do.
  3. Both men and women like to feel sexy and desired. By adding a little color, mixing up your fashion sense or keeping up with trending fashion attire; can put you into a whole new mindset.
  4. Consignment stores are great for this and keep you in the lower budget range! Looking good doesn’t have to cost a fortune.
  5. Take good care of your hair and change the style every couple of years. Regular updates keep you looking youthful and fashionable!
  6. The first thing people see is your face so taking the time to put in a little effort is the best way to get noticed. A touch of lip gloss, enhancing your brows or getting eyelash extensions can really add to your natural beauty.  A big smile just tops it all off to make you stand out even more.
  7. Wearing nothing but baggy sweatpants & running shoes shows apathy & diminishes your sex appeal.  (Men appreciate a little fashion sense but it doesn’t have to be over the top.  Just making a little effort says a lot.)
  8. Start working out if you’re not already! If you need incentive, buy a $40 Groupon for a month of yoga, spin/dance classes or some other form of fitness that is offered. Get back into being active again. This will also push you to go because you have a time limitation to complete your purchase.

Some people go to great lengths to put out, “I just don’t care,” but realistically everyone does want to be noticed to some degree. Listen & watch how people treat you. If they are giving up their seat for you on the bus and you are only 45, you might want to re-evaluate your lifestyle! If you really didn’t care you wouldn’t have gravitated to this article.

An inexpensive makeover and attitude adjustment will work wonders for your self-esteem and your love life regardless of each approaching birthday.

Embrace change in your life to keep your spirit young forever.

Please Watch The Video Below for Other Tips on How to Change Your Look & Attitude

 

Susan McCord  @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

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How to Get Over an Abrupt Relationship Breakup!

How to Get Over an Abrupt Relationship Breakup!

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How to Get Over an Abrupt Breakup? Blow them a kiss goodbye and thank them!

This topic came to me in an e-mail from a young guy who watches my show on YouTube.  He recently got the Dear John Text from his girlfriend of 6 months with no warning, but his positive attitude surprised me!!

He said;  “Yes I am sad that it is over as I really enjoyed my time with her but what choice do I have but to just move on? No means NEXT!”  While this is much easier said than done for most people, it is always better to be realistic about why a relationship ended abruptly.

Most breakups can be very painful especially if you were blindsided by your partner.  The faster you understand that some endings just aren’t worthy of a long drawn out sadness and really only warrant a small acknowledgment of hurt, resentment, rejection or hibernation, the better!

In other words, why spend too much time pining over someone who is disrespectful enough to send you a breakup text and simply doesn’t want to be with you?

Most of the hurt that occurs from a breakup is due to our own egos, and not always our actual love for the person that left us. Especially if it was a short-lived relationship.

Why harbor sadness or anger with someone who didn’t have the decency to say goodbye to you in person? Be thankful they have moved on so that you can meet someone who will treat you better.  (Of course if you were in a long term relationship with them, your heart is more invested and it is not as easy to let go.)

I have one male friend who went into a depression with every break-up, even if it was only a very short time spent with them. It has caused a lot of heartache over the years for him. He was in a dating pattern of constantly choosing the wrong women because he was blinded by one thing; their beauty!

He was looking for a commitment or so he said, but all his actions spoke the opposite! He had so much emotional baggage due to the fact that he was not dealing with why the breakups were happening or the repetitive choices he was making.

With each new woman he dated, it  became harder to clean up the demons he was accumulating.  

He finally discovered that he had a problem with rejection stemming from his childhood, he had a very unemotional mother who never showed him love of any kind. After much heartbreak and finally receiving some counselling, he came to understand why he made the shallow choices that he did; but it took him 20 years to get it!

Learning how to respect yourself first will make you move on faster or not allow you to be there in the first place.

Feeling like “the victim” in a breakup will only prolong your pain and make you angry. You can’t make someone love you! The hardest thing to grasp is that they are over you . You were dismissed, so to speak. We all think that we will never have another perfect relationship like the one that has just ended, but if it were so wonderful you would still be together. Know that you will have another relationship and it will be a better one down the road. You just can’t see it now because your ego is hurt.

Things don’t just fall apart for no reason.

It wasn’t meant to be and The Universe is trying to help you, probably because you weren’t taking the subtle hints it was throwing at you for the last 3-6 months. (Like when she/he took that 2nd vacation without you or they still haven’t given you a set of house keys after 2 years together.)

Moving on in other areas of your life will help with your relationships too. Remember that job that was so difficult to go to everyday and then all of sudden they gave your pink slip, due to so-called downsizing (or some other term companies use today to protect themselves from a wrongful-dismissal suit) but in the end they actually did you a favor because you are now in a job that you really love.

How many times has it NOT worked out for the better?

Change is always fearful, even if it is something we are ready for.  Many people become creatures of habit as they get older. Let’s not become this routine-obvious boring person. Life needs some stability and normalcy but it doesn’t have to be a bad movie.  Keep your mind fresh and free. People will always gravitate towards that positive energy.

The word “NEXT” should have excitement written all over it and should be embraced into your everyday life with optimism.  

It is meant to make you grow and become more of who you are. You should never stop being diverse with each approaching birthday. Complacency and boredom are the real killers, not old age.

Sometimes life becomes more of a struggle when we don’t register that something is too much work and all-consuming. The reason being; it is not meant to be!

Your intuition will always lead you in the right direction in a relationship. When you are sad, depressed or insecure in a partnership these are red flags that should not be ignored.  When you have a reciprocated love it isn’t a lot of work, it just feels right. There is no drama or questions!

So the next time someone says an abrupt goodbye to you, use this experience to move on out of that negative roadway and onto the next amazing path, that life has in store for you. Breakups can be a good thing and cause you to look deeper into who you are and what is really important to you long term.

Cry a little, wave them goodbye and get ready for a better place without them in it.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

A Love Revisited (A Poem by Susan McCord)

                              

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My heart beats fast when I think of you,
After lingering kisses so long ago,
A chemical power hauntingly so,
I know you still feel the touch of it too.

My heart never counted the years gone by,
When I saw you recently, it was crystal clear,
The stirring deep within me was not all in my mind,
I understand the reasons I could never say good-bye!

Although our lives are different after many years apart,
It’s time to now revisit what we blindly left behind,
and listen to the Universe we once chose to ignore,
Which united us together for a brand new start.

Love has a purpose that we don’t always see,
and life’s tough lessons can be hard to learn,
Our time wasn’t then, we both needed to grow,
We’re now on the path we were always meant to be.

Together ❤

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

Local Dating App DNA Romance Airs on Dragons’ Den and Dominates Niche with New Features

Local Dating App DNA Romance Airs on Dragons’ Den and Dominates Niche with New Features

October 13, 2017 – FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE — Vancouver, BC — Local dating app, DNA Romance (http://www.dnaromance.com), aired on the season premiere of Dragons’ Den on September 28th and has key new developments that the Dragons failed to predict since it recorded the episode on the 21st of April.

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The Dragons Den

DNA Romance is gaining traction as the leader in online dating through DNA matchmaking in an attempt to bring forecasts of “chemical attraction” online.

Its new developments include the addition of a personality-matching feature, improvements to the user interface and platform features, and most importantly, offering integration with seven more already-existing DNA tests like those from 23andMe and Ancestry DNA.

DNA Romance translates genomics information hidden in your DNA into actionable advice to help your personal dating life but, unfortunately, this advanced technology did not resonate with the Dragons. DNA Romance is revolutionizing the science of matchmaking with an online dating app that uses genetic testing, personality type, and an advanced algorithm to predict chemical attraction and personality compatibility.

Dragons' Den Props (2).jpg“Chemical attraction is the natural radar for dating compatibility, but online dating platforms fail to measure this major component in human attraction,” says Dr. Timothy Sexton, a co-founder of DNA Romance. Chemistry is a special, warm, fuzzy feeling that is the basis for sayings like “love is in the air,” and chemistry can only be felt “in person.”

There’s been over two decades of research behind the scent of love – chemistry – proving it’s more complicated than pheromones and the coding for “chemical attraction” is in fact, written in your DNA.

Despite all of this, chemistry has been missing from online dating. One of the Dragons, Michelle Romano, questioned how DNA Romance could beat out its competitors which, up until now, have shut down operations. DNA dating/DNA matchmaking has been tried before, but DNA Romance is the first to build a functional “secure” online DNA matchmaking platform; the so-called competition lacks credibility with no secure connection.

Dr. Sexton and his co-founder and wife, Judith Bosire, have outlasted whatever competition there may have been and proven the Dragons’comment to be wrong by staying relevant and releasing their newest personality feature – below is how it works.

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Dr. Sexton and his co-founder and wife Judith Bosire

DNA Romance supports DNA tests that a person may already have or can get through any of the DNA kit testing companies, including: 23andMe, Ancestry DNA, Genes For Good, My Heritage, Family Tree DNA, or Living DNA. Then, a DNA Romance member will download their genetic data onto the web-app from any of the DNA kit testing companies and complete their “DNA Romance Profile.”

Based on the furnished data, the app will decipher the crucial elements behind chemistry and compatibility for that particular person, and then present the report to other compatible members in their secure online account.

Essentially, DNA romance translates the understanding from this research into prediction of chemistry with other singles who are using DNA Romance – and will spare you from endless awkward dates and bad relationships!

DNA Romance’s newest personality-matching feature now works the DNA data component in conjunction with their Myers-Briggs personality type to provide improved predictions of compatibility for a loving relationship.

This innovative approach brings a much-needed advancement to the world of online dating, elevating the search for love beyond personality and appearance to include the biological factors that play a major role in human attraction.

Although the Dragons couldn’t muster the courage to go on an “investment date” with DNA Romance, investors are certainly still on the prowl for a company like DNA Romance. Current Dragon veteran Arlene Dickinson said it best: “DNA Matching is the future.” That was eight months ago; the future is now.

For more information please contact DNA Romance

 

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

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HELP! My Life is Crazy & My Sex Life Is Non-Existent In My Marriage!

HELP! My Life is Crazy & My Sex Life Is Non-Existent In My Marriage!

Dear Sybersue:

I live a very full & pretty decent life for the most part. I have two children, a dog and a great partner whom I still love after 10 years. His job is demanding & I work 5 days a week myself. I am also putting in time to develop my own business on the side to help with our heavy mortgage.

Needless to say juggling it all and still having a busy social schedule is a challenge as I am sure it is for many people out there. My sex-life is non-existent at the moment & my passion for it is a little depleted due to the lack of physical connection my husband and I share.

Even though I seem to be managing my crazy life, I have to admit I feel tired & stressed out all the time these days!

I do not take care of myself in the way I should due to time restrictions with work, & the children’s activities. I do not feel nearly as sexy or attractive as I used to in my single days. I don’t have time to be the feminine hot woman of my past existence anymore.

I don’t even know what a girl’s night out is these days! My friends seem to have given up on me because I have so little time for them. I don’t blame them.

Every so often I get very depressed and do not want to see or talk to anyone which makes it even worse. I feel overwhelmed ~ Any ideas to help??

From The Suburban Housewife

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Am I Looking For Love In All the Wrong Places?

Am I Looking For Love In All the Wrong Places?

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I am saddened by how many men and women complain about the difficulties they have enjoying a successful dating life.  Both sexes must learn how to open up and talk to each other without initial harsh judgment or sabotage due to their own subconscious insecurities.

Men & women need to make an effort to understand their gender differences and embrace them instead of finding fault with each other!

Not too long ago a friend of mine was publicly reprimanded by a male radio host for a blog she posted about being an Alpha Female. The guy who started this negative feedback regularly discusses women on his show in a derogatory way.

Why do we do this to each other and why are some men and women so damn angry?

People are just not meeting face to face as often and it is so easy to vent their frustration behind a computer rather than figure out why things aren’t working for them. The biggest change you can make is to get outside and talk to real people!

Hiding behind your dating profile doesn’t help you mingle or give you incentive that there are some really great men and women out there in your city! Listening to others complain online about their dating woes or never meeting anyone of substance can become negatively embedded into your mind.

The reason online dating apps and computer dating is so popular is because both men and women lack ideas or creativity on where to rendezvous when they want to meet a potential date.  It also has a lot to do with self-esteem and fear of rejection as well.

The most obvious choice for many is the bar & nightclub scene. This is “one night stand” territory no matter how you look at it. There will always be the exception of a few people who end up in a committed relationship with someone they meet in a club, but for the most part it is a short lived scenario.

Many people wake up the next day & seldom call the number they have in their coat pocket from the night before. (This is mainly due to too much alcohol & lack of confidence to make the phone call. Or they can’t remember the conversation or what they even look like!!)

Meeting in a lounge or a restaurant is a better environment to potentially meet someone but you have to be more confident to actually talk to them without the dance option available at night clubs.

Alcohol is a great relaxer for many women & it also gives men liquid courage to approach a woman. This is why the bar scene is a repetitive hangout for so many frustrated people. Unfortunately it is usually the same old story every weekend & everyone wakes up perturbed & lonely and the pattern continues.

Some of the situations to be aware of when meeting a potential partner:

  • If you are using online dating services be aware that some people are only really interested in a sexual relationship. Really pay attention to what their profile says & notice any red flags with their pictures. Photos really are worth a thousand words on most online dating sites and many people choose to ignore these obvious signs!
  • Don’t get caught up and blinded by a person’s status! These are men and women who only date or sleep with a certain high profile type. These people usually frequent the same establishments and word travels fast. Do you really want to be known as a groupie? (You may not even be aware that you have this reputation.)
  • Be aware of men & women who are looking for a sugar daddy/mama type lifestyle and will only date someone in this financial league. They are usually pretty easy to spot so keep your eyes open and observe. Body language is also a dead giveaway.
  • Don’t allow yourself to be the constant mistress! Married men will not come to you continually unless you are sending out vulnerable and available signals. You should never be OK being number 2 in a relationship.
  • People who only date the perfect & beautiful types.  Their physical standards are so high that everything else is overlooked in the relationship. Both sexes fall into this category.

External riches do not necessarily bring internal riches.

Finding true love should not be abusive or emotionally painful. Getting yourself stuck in a routine will close doors on other available options that could ultimately work for you.

If you classify yourself as a certain “type” or that you only like a certain type of person, you will be forever stuck in repetitive scenarios.  Fear can be a powerful relationship suppressor, so be cognizant of forming any patterns that keep you from having love in your life because you are afraid of what may or may not happen.

Challenge those internal demons as to why you don’t feel worthy of having love in your life.

If you don’t have the strength to get out of  reoccurring heart breaking situations, then start observing some of your friends who may be stronger than you and follow their lead. (Don’t be afraid to ask for help or to hire someone professionally for a short time.)

Change up your dating patterns & the venues so that you have a better chance of meeting someone of substance.  Everyone deserves love!

Some of the 10 best places to meet at least start up a good conversation:

  1. Golf driving range or at an Executive Par 3 course as less serious golfers will go there. (Unless of course you are a great player!)
  2. Tennis court (Use the back wall where other solo players will practice.)
  3. The gym (Be friendly & acknowledge people near you ~ Say hi & take off your headphones!) It really is the easiest place to strike up a conversation.
  4. Airport (Talk to people in the holding room or restaurants.)
  5. Hiking trails or a Beach/Park with high people traffic.
  6. Sporting venue (hockey game, baseball game, soccer match, golf spectator etc.)
  7. Any mingle social event or lounge  (Do not seat yourself in a booth; always stay open to the room.)
  8. Meet up groups (Check your local area for the numerous groups available or start one of your own! Thursday night pub night or something to that effect.)
  9. Take a course or join a group activity where there will be men and women attending who have similar interests as you. That way you already have something in common.
  10. Speed Dating & Online Dating sites/apps (Do your homework & find the best ones that work for you.) Don’t waste much time texting back and forth. If they don’t want to meet up sooner than later, move on.

The worst thing you can do is stay home and complain that you are not meeting anyone or that all men and women are messed up. There are some wonderful people who are just as ready as you are to be in a loving relationship.

Don’t become a non-believer and get stuck in a circle of negative thinking. If it ain’t working change it up!

You are in charge of you, so listen to your instincts and work out the kinks that may be causing you to sabotage love from entering your life. It’s totally your decision and no one else.

We have to stop pointing fingers at each other and be responsible for our own happiness. Being defensive will not bring you what you are looking for long term; it will keep repelling it away from you.

Be open & ready to receive a loving partnership into your life. ❤

Susan McCord @ Please Check Out My YouTube Channel for Videos on similar topics!    The Dear Sybersue Talk Show 

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Sex, Libido, Marriage & Relationships in the Millennium

Sex, Libido, Marriage & Relationships in the Millennium

 

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Married/committed couples & singles are re-shaping their lives in all areas; regardless of approaching milestone birthdays. “Forty is the new thirty” and people finally understand they don’t have to give into the stereotyping of certain age groups.

They are re-evaluating their options from careers to relationships and making the necessary changes. This can have a scary impact on many relationships out there!

Gone are the days where many people stayed in an unhealthy scenario!

Wedding vows today are broken way too often and no longer sacred with the intent that the couple will be together forever.

With the divorce rate on the incline some couples are getting nervous about becoming the next ones who will be walking down this statistical plank! It doesn’t help that we have access to so many social media stories and reality TV shows that emphasize just how bad the statistics really are!

What can we do about it to change this trending dilemma?

Couples need to understand that when you are married or monogamously committed and no longer out in the dating market, it is even MORE important to put continual effort into your communication skills, appearance and sex life!

Sex is a huge part of the relationship glue and if it is ignored for any length of time it can be the end of the special “pheromone bond” you once shared and could be the demise of your partnership.

How often have you heard people complaining that after they got married and the honeymoon “time frame” ended that sex became less frequent and mundane? There is no playful forbidden fruit, spontaneous rendezvous or the excitement that a sexual partner brings in the early stages of a new relationship. We are all on our best sexual behavior!

Why does that have to dramatically change so that romance & sex becomes somewhat repetitive and in some cases almost non-existent?

Being romantically creative in your marriage or committed partnership will keep the fires burning a lot longer and turn vanilla sex into a hot fudge sundae!

I have coached many women who had lost interest in sex due to the repetitive expectations of their partners and lack of enticing foreplay. Once they finally communicated their concerns openly and discussed how it was ruining their relationship, things started to heat up and change for the better under those 300 thread count sheets; because the men listened.

Why are so Many Couples Separating Later in Life?

The popular 50’s Marilyn Monroe movie “The 7 Year Itch” seems to have been replaced by 20th Anniversary marriage break-ups in the millennium today. There are more and more people newly single in their late 40’s and 50’s than ever before!

In the days of our grandparents, people stayed together because of financial limitations and old school traditions. Today things have changed and both sexes have careers and are now on a more equal footing and don’t feel as trapped. It is more common to see couples both working due to economic struggles of mortgages and child expenses. It is hard to bring up a family on one salary in the millennium!

Unfortunately the everyday life stresses cause many couples to split up within the first 5 years of marriage but there are still many unhappy people that wait until the children are out of high school or have moved out of the family home before they end their relationships.

At least now there are more support groups and resources to help them move on regardless of what age they decide to do so.

The new 40 is not considered old anymore and many people are starting the second half of their life with an excited vision which sometimes includes a new partner.

Life offers many temptations today and people have to work harder to keep their relationships strong.

Many women are now dating younger men and it is not just the husbands leaving the marital home for a younger person anymore.

Here are a few tips to think about keeping sex alive in your marriage or long term commitment: 

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  • Sex should be happening a few times per week or on a schedule that works for both of you.
  • Don’t be afraid to gently communicate any sexual concerns to your partner. Couples that talk openly keep a stronger connection for many years to come.
  • Sex should be initiated by both sexes!
  • Sex may have to be planned or 3 weeks could go by with being too busy. Never be too busy to make love to your partner by making constant excuses.
  • Married life can be very hectic with kids and careers so make date nights, mark them on the calendar and follow through with them.
  • Both people in the partnership need to keep up their fitness levels. It not only makes you feel and look good; it puts a confident spring in your step towards the bedroom.
  • Dress sexy even at home ~ no unattractive sweatpants! You want to keep them looking at you not someone else!
  • Ask for help from relative/neighbors or pay for a babysitter to take the kids out so you can have sex at home without worrying they can hear you!
  • Never leave the house without a hug or kiss good-bye. Always acknowledge your partner.
  • When your partner walks in the front door, drop what you are doing and always get up and greet them. They take priority.
  • Kiss your spouse passionately once every day like you did when you first met them; its great foreplay. (None of this peck on the cheek stuff!)
  • Bring home little sex treats ~ lingerie, whipped cream, toys from the love shop or whatever you think they might like. Spicing things up in the bedroom isn’t just about changing positions.
  • Always let your partner know you are attracted to them!

It is very important to practice these things often, especially as a long term relationship progresses. We all have to deal with many changes as we get a little older, so being aware that your love-life needs to be nurtured is half the battle of maintaining a healthy long lasting sex life.

Men have always had the pressure of having to perform in the bedroom which can be very difficult as the years go by; especially with added family and career stress. Viagra was approved by the FDA in 1998 and has helped many men through the tough times ever since!

Unfortunately this has put many couples into an unbalanced sexual situation, as men are ready willing and able to go as soon as they pop that little blue pill.

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Viagra can be intimidating to many women, because they feel like they have to be ready to perform continually. It is a wise idea to let your wife know when you decide to take Viagra. Never assume it is a good time. (Blue balls are not pleasant at any age.)

Don’t despair though ladies because there is some good news for you now too!

As of August 2015, there is now hope for women with a new libido enhancer called Fibanserin! (trade name Addyi) It isn’t quite as powerful as the little blue pill just yet and like Viagra there are some side effects that need to be adhered to.

Hopefully once the kinks are ironed out, this “female Viagra” will eventually even out the sexual playground & help those women who are frustrated with their slowing sex drive.

Many women go through hormone changes after age 45 and it can be tough to feel sexual. Ladies; it is a good idea to get a saliva test to get an accurate reading of what is going on with your estrogen, progesterone and testosterone hormone levels.

This can help alleviate ongoing problems and help to keep you sexually stimulated once you know how to get help with balancing these physical changes.

Communication is the foundation to any successful marriage.

Learning how to talk with your spouse from day one, will keep you emotionally close. When you have respect for each other, have continual communication, and don’t ignore each others concerns, your sex-life will never fall too far behind to cause marital problems; because you are dealing with smaller issues before they become irreconcilable differences!

There will always be little glitches in your job, with your children and life in general, so it is important to understand that your partnership will have them too. Many couples make their relationship commitment the 3rd or 4th priority due to taking each other for granted that they will always be there.

Marriage and any long term relationship for that matter will always have ups and downs (pun intended) but with a little effort and conscious behavioral practice, you and your spouse can happily stay on the other side of the divorce statistics.

Love is like a full time job but well worth the time invested.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

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