Very few people are OK answering numerous personal questions with someone they just met. It automatically puts them on guard and changes up the dynamics of the date. The atmosphere becomes more clinical rather than a relaxed and easy-going environment.
Everyone should have some boundaries and some expectations, but many men and women are walking away quickly after the 1st or 2nd date because they have unreasonable dealbreakers. Some people aren’t even getting to the first date because of their picky outlook. They are actually sabotaging any chance of what could be a great connection because they are not taking a little extra time to even try to get to know someone.
When someone keeps saying they are too busy to get together or constantly canceling plans, this is showing that they are not available or invested in having a committed partnership with you. (Even if they are really that busy then they probably shouldn’t be dating, at least not at your expense.)
The fact that this guy came back with an apology and explanation is a good thing, but my big question is why couldn’t he have been honest and just told you this, rather than blocking you without a word? Why did he have a problem openly communicating this to you?
Being Benched is when someone keeps you on hold by giving you occasional attention but also keeping you on the back burner! Basically, they are not quite sure what they are going to do with you and usually have a few people on their their bench roster. They love to keep their options open!
I am very pleased to post a link to this fun podcast show that I was asked to be a part of this week. Teena