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Should I Reply to a Girl I Dated Who Hasn’t Texted Me for 4 Months?

Should I Reply To a Girl I Dated Who Stopped Texting Me 4 Months Ago? This isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer for everyone.

There could be many reasons that she stopped texting, but if it is driving you crazy, and you really would like to find out the answer, be open to hearing her out. She may have freaked out because she got scared if things were progressing too fast, or maybe she wasn’t completely over a past breakup.

Whatever the reason was that she stopped texting, it could be good for you to have some closure with what transpired between the two of you. It can be very hurtful when someone ghosts you after you thought your relationship was going well! It’s always nice to have some clarity moving forward.

Talking things out with her could rekindle a connection between you as a couple, but that takes a lot of trust on your part moving forward. I would suggest you don’t jump in quickly if you do decide to give your relationship another chance, because she will need to prove herself to you. Is she genuine, and can you get past what happened? The last thing you want is to be continually nervous that she will walk away once again.

If she blatantly dumped you in a nasty way, then it wouldn’t be wise to allow her back into your life.

She showed you her true character. This is how she handles things in her life. There is a time for forgiveness but not at the expense of you being hurt over and over again. You have to learn the lesson and move on when someone you date turns out not to be the person you thought they were. Always listen to your instincts because they are pretty spot on in most cases.

Red flags are often talked about in dating and relationship posts because they are meant to be acknowledged and not ignored. Many men and women don’t pay attention to the things that they should do in the early stages of a new partnership. This is usually because sexual chemistry overrules common sense and those lustful pheromones take over. This causes everything else to take a back seat and some important things get overlooked.

I personally think that many people are moving way too fast when they meet someone they are attracted to. This is largely due to how difficult dating has become today. It isn’t easy to find a compatible partner due to the stress of online dating issues and also dealing with the ongoing Covid pandemic problems. When we finally meet someone that checks off many of the boxes on our checklist, we are just so damn excited that we often shut off any warning signals.

Jumping in too fast with someone you don’t know well is a big reason that ghosting has become the new way that people bow out of a scenario that they no longer want to be a part of. It is a cowardly way to handle things, and it is leaving many people feeling hurt and very rejected. I know this from a personal experience, which took me a long time to get over. When your self-esteem takes a beating from someone you truly loved with all of your heart, it can mess you up for a long time.

It is so important to really listen to what she says to you if you do decide to hear her out.

Some people can be very charming. Remember that she walked away from your relationship without really giving you an explanation, which you deserved to hear. She reached out to you, so the ball is in your court whether you want to converse with her or not. You are certainly not under any obligation to do so.

You have had 4 months to think about things, so be smart about what you allow. I am sure you don’t want to be her booty call or part-time boyfriend whenever she feels the occasional urge to see you. Be really honest with yourself; is it worth opening things back up, or are you just dealing with a crushed ego? If you truly miss her and think that things can be salvaged between the two of you, then it might be worth texting her back.

After your initial text response, I think it is important to ask her to meet up with you and hear what she has to say in person. You need to be able to see her face to face and not have to try to dissect the meaning behind her text. You may even find that when you see her your feelings have changed, and you are no longer interested in continuing any form of communication.

There is always the option to just ignore her text, or write her back and say you’re not interested in having a conversation because you have moved on. You also have the right to block her number if you feel texting with her again would be an unhealthy place to put yourself. Weigh everything out and choose wisely. You don’t want to spend any more time on someone who doesn’t want to be in your life without having honest intentions.

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