Advice show host Susan McCord & Co-host Andrea Wesley discuss what many singles in Vancouver talk about: The terrible dating scenario!
Why are things so bad & how do we change this reputation? Why do the men and women criticize each other in Vancouver with so much negativity? It seems to me that if everyone looked at the glass as half full rather than half empty then maybe the dating situation would change.
Whether or not you believe in the “Law of Attraction,” wouldn’t singles be better off trying to change their pessimistic thinking into having a positive outlook when it comes to dating?
Thinking affirmations like this:
- I’m excited to be going out tonight and I am going to have a wonderful time!
- I am looking forward to meeting some great people.
- I am ready to fall in love and be in a partnership.
- I am worthy of having love in my life.
- My last partnership taught me what is important and what I need in my next relationship.
- I am a great person with so much to offer. I am ready to receive love in my life.
It is not uncommon to hear men & women complaining that they never meet anyone in Vancouver, but then they seem to sabotage things when they finally do get a date. It’s like everyone here has taken on the “ I can do much better” approach and “no one is good enough” for anyone.
Unfortunately, this is making the atmosphere in Vancouver a little snobby! The expectations have changed drastically in the Millennium & now both sexes have these unrealistic checklists that potential dates need to live up to.
There are many wonderful people living in this amazing city and I don’t believe for a moment there isn’t hope to improve this reputation Vancouver has acquired. Not only do we have to draw attention to it, but we also need to “own” that there is a big problem in this town.
Does it have to take a special event to get people talking to each other? What a happy & proud place Vancouver was in the 2010 Winter Olympics! People actually spoke to each other on the street and made eye contact!
We need to not only start singing “Oh Canada” at Canuck games and other events, but we also need to be proud of where we live and who lives amongst us. It’s not just all about bad dating, it is about human connection in general!
If everyone said hello to 5 different people every day, I can pretty well guarantee there would be a big change in the attitude in Vancouver. Who cares what car you drive, how much money you have or don’t have, how young or old you are.
Talk to people you come in contact with during your day regardless of whether you know them. Smiling at someone goes a long way and can make someone’s day!
The next time you go out with friends for the evening try not to judge anyone around you. You would be surprised how much of the discussion is about other people in the room. (What they are wearing, how much cosmetic surgery they have had, who slept with who, & other general gossip.)
Make your own judgment after you meet someone and don’t let others influence your thinking.
Everyone has wonderful traits & something to offer, you don’t have to be a perfect 10 to meet someone amazing. Vancouver is a beautiful city that needs to be more open to conversation and just being friendly towards each other. It’s never too late to change, let’s make it happen!
SusanMcCord @ Dear Sybersue Facebook
Andrea Wesley @ http://www.twitter.com/heartandrearose