Everyone should have some boundaries and some expectations, but many men and women are walking away quickly after the 1st or 2nd date because they have unreasonable dealbreakers. Some people aren’t even getting to the first date because of their picky outlook. They are actually sabotaging any chance of what could be a great connection because they are not taking a little extra time to even try to get to know someone.
Forgiveness isn’t an easy thing especially as you were blindsided by your partner when he abruptly left your marriage. The big question is; how do you move on from the pain that you went through during your divorce and is there a chance you could trust him again?
You have had a year to get over him and deal with the pain of his infidelity, and bringing him back in now will only set you back. If you want to move forward and attract the right man towards you, keep doing what you have been doing. Put yourself first and listen to your instincts.
Because my relationship with my now husband was sped up by an unplanned pregnancy (surprise!), our focus over the last five years has been on us as parents, not as partners. Now that our son is a self-sufficient, on-his-way-to-becoming-an-independent human, we have loosened the reins on his invisible leash, which has opened up space for our marriage.
Your partner should be a part of your life, not your entire life. No one wants to take on that role and if you put the shoe on the other foot, would you really be happy with someone who doesn’t love themself enough to be the best version of who they could be? Both people need to bring their “best self” to the relationship for it to work long-term.
It takes two seconds to read a text and another second to respond. There is really no excuse that you can give for not replying. It is actually really rude ignoring someone who puts in the energy to contact you when you are dating them, and even worse when you are both in an established relationship!