Dear Sybersue discusses relationship problems that can be solved through love and communication! Pick your battles and stop sweating the small stuff!
There will always be issues to deal with in your partnership but many of them can be managed before they escalate into destroying your relationship.
Why do some couples keep rehashing the same old argument or keep looking for a new one? Are they looking for a fight due to boredom?
Why not try to spice up the relationship in other ways that don’t include a heated argument? Defuse the conflict early and put that energy into something that brings you closer, like great makeup sex! Remember those days???
Making love is the the glue of most successful long term partnerships!
The more drama you allow into your relationship the less chance you will have to make it work long term. It’s not easy being with the same person for many years but with a little low maintenance action it can be a loving and healthy environment that you enjoy coming home to.
There are men and women who truly love their spouses right up until their 60th wedding anniversary because they made it work and put each other first through all those years together. When you unconditionally respect your partner it is easy to hold on to the love you feel for each other because you grow together rather than grow apart. You like each other and appreciate one another.
It is actually a simple equation but so many couples complicate it until the demise of their relationship is before them.
Please watch the video above and leave your comments below this post on what has or hasn’t worked for you in your own home. Your words may able to help someone else out there. 🙂
Susan McCord @ youtube.com/dearsybersue
Dear Sybersue discusses a common relationship question. Should you stay in a partnership that is constantly having problems? Are you breaking up and getting back together all the time? Can it work or is it time to move on to a healthier place?
How often have you heard the story about the couple who were constantly and off again, finally get married and then end up divorced a few years later? When things are good in a relationship it is not that much drama. There will always be little arguments over the years but to get to the point where you take numerous breaks or actually break up, is a sign, or should I say HUGE RED FLAG that things are not meant to be with you as a couple.
You shouldn’t have to talk yourself into being there or decide that your relationship was better than nothing after diving back out into the nightmare dating pool for a few months. Compatibility is everything and if there are just too many obstacles or opposite view points, it becomes a repetitive daily struggle being together. Love shouldn’t be forced or constantly compromised for someone else. It needs to be reciprocated and respected!
Don’t waste too much time fighting your life away with someone; move on to a healthier place where you can be best friends as well as romantic partners in a stress free and loving environment. Know when the relationship has fizzled beyond repair, take away the good things your learned from it and be thankful for your time together. Leave the anger behind as it takes two to mess up a relationship. Own your stuff and move along to being an even better you.
Dealing with relationship issues is an ongoing battle with many couples. Why is it so difficult to maintain the respectful, fun loving partnership that we all had in the early stages of “courtship?” Is that even a word anymore or am I dating myself again? 😉
Some people have become lazy and don’t prioritize their relationships due to how busy they are in every other area of their life. Is this smart? We put so much effort into our jobs and our kids but we don’t nurture the person that we love? That’s just crazzzzzzzzy to me!
We all spend so much time trying to find the perfect mate to share our life, telling anyone who will listen that dating sucks and there are so few choices of suitable partners out there! Then when we finally meet that special person and make the commitment that we have been waiting for, we become complacent and slowly let it fizzle into nothingness. What the???
As I have said in numerous blog posts and videos “Love is like a full time job!” This isn’t a bad thing! There will always be challenges, but like your career or your family, you don’t usually walk away from them because of a few obstacles that you have to deal with here and there. Life is a bitch sometimes but that’s OK. It keeps us from getting bored and melting into our couch alone every night. Think about that…
Hope you like the video ❤
PS: What do you do in your relationship to keep the love alive? Please leave a comment below. xo
Author & divorce coach Debbie Burgin discusses her book “The Joy of Ex” which is based on “dealing with the trials & tribulations of divorce”. She shares her expertise with Talk Show Host Susan McCord on how to find yourself & start over with wonderful new beginnings on a different life path.
Life has different cycles that we all go through which changes how we think & perceive our choices. In the past, couples stayed together because it was the norm! You made your bed so now you literally had to lie in it. This is not the case anymore with many men & women in successful careers & not as dependent on one another ~ marriage is on much more of an even footing today. The persona of 50’s housewife June Clever is becoming less & less who women want to portray. While it can be wonderful not to have to work while raising our children, there is a sense of self worth for women to be able to have a life outside the home as well.
When a marriage dissolves & becomes an everyday burden, you have many choices on how to handle it today. There are many more counseling options, numerous relationship books & videos, divorce groups & the divorce or separation laws are much more user friendly & fair to both sexes. You don’t have to stay in an unhealthy relationship anymore. Teaching your children how to move on from an unhappy situation is much better than pretending to be in a blissful family situation. Don’t underestimate the intelligence of your kids regardless of their age. (Body language is a dead give away.)
We all have great intentions of making our relationships work when we say “I Do” ~ We don’t go into a marriage knowing we will only be together for limited time. Take what you can from the memories or your time together & enjoy them. There were many reasons you fell in love & made a commitment but now life has new plans for you. Remember the Quote; “People come into your life for a Reason, Season Or a Lifetime.” Knowing when to let go is part of maturity & self respect. It is a growth that we never stop learning from. When deciding on whether you are ready to move on, make sure you have exhausted all your options to making your marriage work & if you are ready to start a new life, divorce can be a good thing.