There is Life, Dating, Sex & Love after a Divorce!

There is Life, Dating, Sex & Love after a Divorce!

In the video above Sybersue discusses life after a Divorce

So many men and women have a hard time getting back out dating after a long term relationship breakup or divorce. Some women never even try after their marriage dissolves. They lose their self esteem and think that no one will want them especially when they are over 40.

Many single parents make everything about the kids. Everything revolves around them. It’s all about their lives, their activities and their needs. What about you? Do you not count? Do you not deserve love in your life?

Could you possibly be using the kids as an excuse so you don’t have to go back out in the singles market and meet someone? You subconsciously think that staying single for the rest of your life is so much easier than putting out any energy into finding another person to share your life with. Right?

Really? How is that working for you?

What happens when the children leave home? Now what are you going to do? The same thing goes for being a workaholic and then your job ends.

Where is the healthy balance in your life?

Love happens at any age and there are no rules that say you only have “one love” in your lifetime! Life can begin in a whole new way after a divorce and often for the better once you get over the initial hurt.

So get back out there and life your life!! No more excuses, you deserve to be happy!

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I am Single but all my Friends are in Relationships! (I have no one to go out with.)

I am Single but all my Friends are in Relationships! (I have no one to go out with.)

Dear Sybersue,

I am so happy to have found you on YouTube and your videos answer many of my questions about dating & relationships! Although, I haven’t seen one that can help me with my question.  That is the reason I am here on your advice column/blog asking for advice. (I hope you will film one regarding this issue for other people as well.)

Here is my question:

I am a 38 year old woman who wants to meet someone special to have a committed partnership with but I have no single friends to go out with.

All of my friends are in relationships and I am tired of being the 3rd wheel! It makes me feel like I am a burden to them and that they feel obligated to let me tag along. (Or they feel sorry for me which is even worse!) I appreciate their support but I think it is wearing thin on them. I try not to complain but sometimes I just can’t help it.

How do I get up the courage to go out alone? How can I meet new people?

Part of the problem is I am at the “in between” stage of being too old to for some venues and too young for others! I am at a loss of where I can go out for the evening and not feel insecure because I am by myself.

Every time I try to force myself out the door I become anxious and fearful of how others will look at me. So once again I stay in my condo watching TV every evening.

I have tried online dating and find that it is more work than it is worth for the most part. It lacks the sincerity of meeting someone face to face and I find many people are just talk. It’s very annoying to me when I have to spend so much time chatting with one person that I never even end up meeting!

What is with that anyway? How do people have so much time on their hands to do this cat & mouse dating game?

I am still hoping that I may be able to have children one day but I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that I may have to do this on my own eventually. I am OK with that but it would be nice to meet a man who would like to have children. I am also not opposed to him having children from a previous relationship.

Although I hate going out by myself, I am depressed staying home all the time! I am very lonely & frustrated. What should I do?

Thank you! Angela 🙂

Please watch the video above to see what Sybersue suggests! ❤

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Relationship: My Buddy Saw My Girlfriend on a Dating Site!

Relationship: My Buddy Saw My Girlfriend on a Dating Site!

Dear Sybersue answers Scott’s question about his girlfriend Sandra being seen on a dating site by one of his best friends! They have been living together for 2 years! He is in love with her and is very hurt about hearing this upsetting news today.

Scott thought everything was going great! WTF?

They do not have an open relationship and he is exclusively committed to Sandra. He hasn’t confronted her yet because he is trying to make sense of how this could happen.

Did he do something wrong? Is their sex life an issue? Were there some red flags that he ignored? She has shown no indication of being unhappy or discussed any problems with Scott.

Could the information be wrong?

What are your thoughts? How should he confront her? I think most of us would say he should he dump her sorry ass, but he at least needs to hear her side of the story beforehand.

Please leave your comments below & if this has happened to you or know someone this has happened to how did they handle the situation?

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I Married a Mountain Man but I’m a City Girl!

I Married a Mountain Man but I’m a City Girl!

Dear Sybersue does something a little out of the box today and talks about her own relationship.

How do you make a partnership work when you both enjoy different activities? When one of you is more extroverted than the other? Opposites attract but seldom stay together; so… can you compromise as a couple?

To maintain happiness in any relationship both people in the partnership need to make a continual effort and make each other a priority. That doesn’t mean you are together 24/7 or that you put your passions on the back burner; it means that your communication with them is reciprocated and respected.

You find a healthy way to be there for each other & make time for your own needs as well.

When we give up too much of ourselves while in a committed relationship that is the beginning of a downward spiral for many couples. Resentment then starts to play a big part in your everyday existence. This is one of the main reasons some people are opposed to being in a long term commitment! They feel trapped but it doesn’t have to be that way.

You don’t have to become another breakup statistic if you are really paying attention & listening to your partner. Do you really want to live with someone exactly like you??? Wouldn’t that be boring?

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You obviously don’t want to be at complete opposite ends of the spectrum but having a few interests that differ from your partner is a good thing. It’s healthy and gives you a freedom that many people lose when they become a couple.

When you grow together & keep trying new things, the diversity will be the key to a long & happy union. Embrace the differences that you both bring to the relationship! Who knows, you may try something new and actually enjoy it!

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Add This Little Trick to Keep Your Relationship in a Happy Place!

Add This Little Trick to Keep Your Relationship in a Happy Place!

Dear Sybersue answers this popular topic from her advice column!

“What is the key to keeping a relationship from becoming boring and routine!”

It is much easier than many couples realize! You don’t have to become another divorce statistic if this a part of your weekly practice! Not only will it change up the dynamics of your partnership, you will have fun at the same time!

Keep your partner wanting more by being MORE of who you are!

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Love Gone Wrong Could Be Something You Needed to Learn about Yourself!

Does love NOT come easy for you?

Are you having trouble maintaining a relationship?

We are the ones who are responsible for choosing the people we allow in our lives but when a relationship doesn’t work out we still want to put the blame on the other person. Why is that? Because then we don’t have to look too deep into what is really going on!

Life lessons can be difficult but they are much easier to move past when you take ownership of your actions and personal choices. It allows you to grow as an individual and become a better person with each “aha moment.”

Staying in denial and continually playing the victim, does not help you find happiness. It keeps you in a stagnant and negative alignment with everything around you.

If you find that you are becoming jaded or angry about believing in love, then it might be time to take a long hard look in the mirror. Are you sabotaging your happiness because of a deep rooted belief or hurt?

Any prolonged emotion that you “take on” is something that you really need to deal with. It can be all consuming and can lead you into the wrong direction over and over again. Don’t ignore your feelings; work through them.

Watch the video above to help you deal with another broken partnership. There may be something that you can change to help you meet the right person and have a long term commitment.

It’s never too late to be an even better version of who you already are. ❤

Please leave your comments below to let others know how you handled this situation .

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Are you Lonely in Your Relationship – Are you With The Wrong Person?

Dear Sybersue is an Informative Dating Relationship
Talk Show for Men & Women of all Ages! Today she discusses being lonely & unhappy in a relationship. How does that happen after only a few years together?

How do you deal with being lonely in your partnership? Can the love be salvaged or is it a doomed situation between a couple?

Love needs to be nurtured and you need to have “The Talk” every so often to keep it on track. Don’t let things fester or sweep them under the rug hoping they will go away. One of the biggest reasons for divorce today is lack of communication.

People are busy and get lazy by not making their relationships the number 1 priority. This is a huge mistake!

Never take each other for granted and don’t start living separate lives in the same house. You are a partnership first and foremost. Don’t forget what brought you together in the beginning of your romance; always hold onto that and keep those fires burning. ❤

Watch the video above to see how to deal with this type of scenario with your partner.

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