How to Find Love Without Games
Both sexes constantly rant that dating is all one big game! “He only wants sex,” and “she is a materialistic gold digger!” How often have you said these exact lines to your friends, complaining about the lack of potential partner availability?
Dating doesn’t have to suck!
Guys, you need to be your authentic self and show women how amazing you are. You are not a stereotypical man lumped into the category: “All men are the same!”
Saying that; all women are not the same either. If you want to meet that special lady to eventually share your life with, you have to be ready and open. Allow her to come into your life.
I know you’ve tried repeatedly. Nothing has happened to make you stand up and take notice. You don’t believe that there is a woman out there for you. Have you ever thought that you could be stuck in a dating pattern?
Is it possible that you may be a little guilty of choosing the same type of woman who doesn’t work for you? Do you make assumptions about a woman too quickly? Do you decide who you think she is before you talk to her? (I have definitely had some of my own judgmental moments in that department during my past dating experiences!)
I have had many exasperated men reach out to my advice column with their frustration towards women. “I can’t find any quality women to date!” Do you really believe that there are no good women out there? Or is it a two-sided situation with both sexes contributing equally?
You might not realize how often your own words or thoughts lead you into the “game zone” of dating.
- Do you like the chase or challenge with a woman?
- Do you find yourself waiting for over a week before you text or call a woman for a second date?
- Are you playing the bad boy routine because you think nice guys always finish last?
- Are you sexually active on the first few dates and then ghost women (run away) when you lose interest?
Be aware of the type of woman you are attracting.
Do you have a similar type? Is she high maintenance, a game player, or evasive towards you? If your love life is in a lull at the moment, it is time to start analyzing your choices. You may not realize you are dating the same type of woman who doesn’t work out for you.
Switch it up! You like to fix broken things, right? So do it in your personal life too.
Are you a very visual man, and “looks” are the highest priority on your dating checklist? This can eliminate some amazing women. They may not be a perfect 10, but could be very compatible with you.
I am not saying you should overlook having chemistry with someone you just met. However, don’t write a woman off because she is not “supermodel” beautiful. She might not elude sexual pheromones, and that’s okay.
Learn to stand out by not playing games:
- When you are serious and ready to meet a wonderful woman, get yourself out to as many activities or events as possible. Online dating is a great resource, but talking to women in person teaches you how to interact with them better.
- It can be a scary and intimidating place at first. Take baby steps by just smiling at women. Say hi to them in a coffee shop, event, or at a restaurant. They don’t have to be someone you are interested in. Just be friendly and slowly get used to communicating with others.
- Practice makes perfect!
- Stay away from the women who haven’t worked for you in the past. Focus your attention on someone you might not normally date. You don’t have to ask every girl out that you have a conversation with.
- You will be surprised how much you will enjoy chatting with women who are not your usual checklist type.
- Get used to being friendly with both men and women everywhere you go. Really try not to make early judgments and look at each person individually. If your gut screams out “NO” to you, then listen to it and move on. You don’t have to spend time with people whom you don’t feel safe with or have no connection to.
- When you do ask a woman out, be yourself.
- Be honest with what you say to her and not what you think she wants to hear. Be a gentleman. Be real. Follow through with date plans. Don’t be late, or reschedule. Put any first date sexual expectations on hold. Show confidence and make sure the conversation is reciprocated and interesting.
- Humour always adds a relaxed vibe to the date and ensures a comfort zone early on.
- If you want to see her again, tell her that. No games! Call her the next day and thank her for the great evening. It shows strength to a woman when you respond confidently. Don’t worry about all the archaic dating rules of when you should or shouldn’t call.
Dating can be a lot of fun! Men who realize all women have something unique to offer are the happiest. They understand each woman is beautiful in her own way. Don’t let that incredible lady get away because you categorized her into the “no date” zone too quickly.
We all have flaws and insecurities, and no one is better than anyone else.
Try not to sabotage your love-life due to fear, games, or stifling thoughts. Get yourself out there to meet the woman you deserve to have in your world.
You are worthy of love. Gradually let down your guard. Shake off those cobwebs of past thinking to bring it towards you. No one said relationships were easy. However, adding new beliefs can definitely help you. Removing old patterns will put you on a brighter path of optimism in all aspects of your life.
Susan McCord @ http://www.sybersue.com
