Love Unfiltered: Real Talk on Dating and Relationships ❤️
No BS Advice Videos & Informative Posts for Men and Women (From a Sassy Redhead who has been there, done that & has all the T-shirts to Prove it!)
It is important to understand that you deserve to be loved and to own your part in what you may be doing to sabotage love from coming into your world. You are very much in charge of the people you bring towards you just as much as who you repel away from you. Once you realize this is totally in your control, you can then start to work on repairing that internal dialogue that is keeping you stuck.
It is up to you who you attract and who you let into your heart, so ultimately it is “your choice” as to why something is or isn’t working out in your life. Step back and look at what has been going on for the last few years. Is there a lot of repetition? You seem to have no trouble meeting women but have difficulty getting to another level of maintaining a partnership long term.
Because my relationship with my now husband was sped up by an unplanned pregnancy (surprise!), our focus over the last five years has been on us as parents, not as partners. Now that our son is a self-sufficient, on-his-way-to-becoming-an-independent human, we have loosened the reins on his invisible leash, which has opened up space for our marriage.
If you were constantly berated or shut down in any way, these emotional wounds become a familiar connection that continues to attract the wrong people towards you. This can be very difficult to remove without professional guidance because it is all you know.
It is important to understand what a toxic partnership consists of so that you know when to remove yourself. It can come in many disguises and start out slowly in the early stages of meeting someone new. They can lure you in with never-ending compliments and romantic gestures that keep you wanting more. They come in fast and furious and you fall hard due to their aggressive attraction towards you.
Numbing your feelings will short-change your happiness and rob you of so many heartfelt gifts. The more emotionally open you are as a person, the more valued you are to yourself and to others around you. It also causes a boomerang effect and brings even more wonderful moments towards you. Confidence is such a beautiful trait because you not only appreciate who you are as a person, you love yourself enough to nurture your self-worth.
