Dear Sybersue: Women are Fake and Only into Using Men!

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Hi Sybersue,

I know this email is not going to be pleasant but then I don’t feel like sugar coating my feelings right now!

I am angry and so fed up with fake women! I am starting to dislike the entire female population! What gives them the right to treat men like sh*t and then just walk away when they have used you for whatever they can get out of you?

I am a decent looking guy who makes a good living, but the women I meet are all takers & only into money or status! I meet women online and in social settings and I can honestly lump them all into the same category regardless of the environment.

I know I vented on your YouTube channel about this and I apologize for being a hot head but I just can’t take the BS women are handing out to men these days. I am not the only one who feels this way & it is a regular conversation with my buddies as well.

What the Hell is going on & why have women changed so much?  I just want to meet a woman who knows how to put her man first and appreciate who he is without so much judgement or expectations.

Thanks Sue

Brad85

Dear Brad85,

Hi Brad! OK since you decided to be blunt here on my advice column & my YouTube Channel I will give you the same courtesy.

Your anger is repelling the “amazing women” away from you and bringing you more of what you don’t want in your life because of it. You are repeating a pattern rather than learning from something that isn’t working for you.

Why do you think it should be so easy to meet someone to share your life with?

We usually marry only once in our lifetime so the odds of going through some undesirable dating, is pretty normal I would say. The trick here though Brad; is not to repeat spending time with the same type of women. There is something that you are doing to attract these “money hungry user” girls into your existence.

You say women have changed but maybe it is you who needs to change as well.

Haven’t you noticed when you write angry things on YouTube that you get more angry comments in return? Whether they are against you or for you, the comments are still in the anger mode.

Well… that is what you are also projecting in “face to face” social settings. It is like you are looking for these demanding women to prove your point.

You said you don’t like judgmental women so don’t lump all women into the judgmental “same category!” Try dating someone completely different from your usual selection; because I will bet you have a predetermined female type that you are not even aware of.

BOTH men and women have changed over the years and it is up to us individually, who we allow into our lives.

You must be a pro at seeing the “high maintenance red flags” so move on quickly when you see them. Read between the lines on dating profiles and look closely at their photos. The old cliché “pictures are worth a thousand words” is very true in the Millennium! (15 sexy selfies would be your first clue.)

It sounds like you want love in your life or you wouldn’t have written me in frustration, so in order for it to come to you; your mindset has to change to believe you can have it.

Women will not use you if you don’t let them use you.

Stop sabotaging things and try to have a positive outlook towards women. Lose the attitude that all women are the same; because I can assure you they are not! The minute you start understanding that is when the right one will be drawn towards you.

Think about it; would you be attracted to a woman who is angry?

Try these 5 Things to Help Change Up Your Love Life:

  • Watch your body language. Be Open & Friendly.
  • Watch what you say and do all the time! Be aware of how you come across.
  • Stop putting out any negative thoughts.
  • Broaden your friendship circle with positive people only.
  • Know that you are a great guy worthy of a loving partnership.

The less time you spend saying how things aren’t working, the more things will start to work and come together for you in the future. It’s not working for you this way so why not try a different approach?  It really is a much happier place to be.

Keep me posted & let me know how things are going. I think you will be writing me back soon with some good news!

Sybersue ❤

What do you think about Brad’s comments?                                                                            What other suggestions would you have for him? 

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show 

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Is Your Online Dating Profile Turning People Off?

Would you like to have a relationship but never seem to find the right person on any dating site that you have a connection with?

Online dating can be really frustrating and take a toll on your self esteem! It might be time to tweak your profile description & your photo selection to show who you really are; not someone you think they want!

No one wants a fake person and how long can you play that game for after they meet you in person? Stop the BS and be genuine! Do you want to meet someone who is phoney and embellishing who they are? I don’t think you do…so don’t be that person then.

Attracting love in your life starts with being true to who you are.

If you are playing a different persona you will also attract that towards you. If you want a partnership that has substance and longevity, being authentic with who you are is extremely important.

You are not looking for an opposite love interest, you are looking for unconditional compatibility in a committed relationship, right?

So then it is imperative to be honest and sincere if you want the same thing in return. It’s never too late to change up dating patterns that aren’t working and it’s never too late to have love in your life.

Change your attitude, change your thinking and allow your heart to be truthfully open. You are fabulous just the way you are!  ❤

What have you experienced with online dating? Has it worked for you?

Please leave your comments below to help others have a better dating experience.

Susan McCord @ facebook.com/dearsybersue
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Relationships: Does Your Partner Talk Down to you or Try to Squash you?

In the video above Dear Sybersue talks about “your” relationship. Is it balanced and healthy or does your partner belittle you and try to squash who you are as a person?

A partnership needs to be nurtured with encouragement & love! There is no place for negative comments or ridiculing in a relationship. One sided relationships need to be addressed and the communication between a couple should never be put on the back burner.

When you ignore the big red flags in your life you are not in alignment with yourself and your needs. Don’t let things go past the point of trying to repair your relationship. Sharing & reciprocating your feelings with your partner will at least give you some clarity on what is really going on with the two of you.

Don’t ever be afraid to have respect for yourself. Your relationship should be your safe place; free of drama, anxiety and negativity.

Susan McCord @facebook.com/dearsybersue

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My Guest Interview on Vancouver’s Roundhouse Radio with Emelia Symington Fedy

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Many people don’t know that I started my talk show as a live stream podcast over 10 years ago before I changed to a video format. Radio has always been my first love and I am very happy whenever I am asked to be a guest on other people’s talk shows! (Especially when I get to go into the studio; it feels like home!)

Emelia Symington Fedy is the incredible host of “Trying to be Good” Radio show in Vancouver, Canada.  She is a character and doesn’t have a shy bone in her body! I love her natural “shoot from the hip” attitude and her honest view of pretty much everything!

Emelia is not afraid to put herself out there when it comes to her own personal matters which gives her audience a comfort zone of trust. “Wow she has the same issues as me and isn’t afraid to talk about them!” It is like listening to a friend talk openly about life, motherhood, career, marriage, romance and all the other things men and women discuss & deal with on a daily basis.

Did I forget to mention she is also Funny and a great interviewer?

In this audio clip below, Emelia puts me in the “interview hot seat” and saves the best for last when she wants to hear my “advice column skills” regarding her own personal question about her kids and marriage.

Please Click On This Link to Hear The Show–>http://cirh.streamon.fm/listen-pl-6447 

Emelia and I had so much fun together that she has asked me to come back in the New Year to do another show! I love this woman! ❤

A Little More about Emelia:

  • Emelia Symington Fedy is an actor, writer, producer and radio freelancer. Most recently, Emelia produced and co-wrote Motherload, a new dark comedy about contemporary parenting that premiered at The Cultch. 

    An associate artist with Radix Theatre Emelia most recently collaborated and performed in TBD, Babylonia, BUTFL PRBLMS and the Jessie award-winning play, Assembly. Select working credits are with Solo Collective, Radix, Arts Club Theatre, Sunshine Theatre, Green Thumb, Theatre, Caravan Farm Theatre, Theatre Melee, Axis and Leaky Heaven Circus.

    Emelia is a graduate of Studio 58 and has furthered her training with John Turner (Mump and Smoot) and Karen Hines (Pochsy). Emelia is a regular contributor to CBC Radio, has a weekly advice column with Roundhouse Radio and also curates the popular and offbeat website tryingtobegood.com which due to its popularity is now becoming a book.

    Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
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Relationship Advice: My EX Wants Me Back!

What do you do if your Ex wants to come back into your life?

Should you give the relationship another try? You spent a lot of time getting over them and now they are once again professing their love to you!

Do you trust them? Is it too late?

There is always a reason why a relationship ends and we have to be careful that we understand the reasons why it did end before we take a leap of faith to repeat the same scenario. There are lots of things to think about and questions to ask yourself.

Some people never change while other people do.

Your intuition is your best guide in times like this so don’t ignore any red flags that it gives you. If your gut says yes, give it a shot. Life and love are all about timing.  Sometimes a relationship can be better the second time around because you have both had a chance to grow and mature.

Watch this video above to see what else Dear Sybersue has to say on how to handle this situation.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
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Are you Lonely in Your Relationship – Are you With The Wrong Person?

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Talk Show for Men & Women of all Ages! Today she discusses being lonely & unhappy in a relationship. How does that happen after only a few years together?

How do you deal with being lonely in your partnership? Can the love be salvaged or is it a doomed situation between a couple?

Love needs to be nurtured and you need to have “The Talk” every so often to keep it on track. Don’t let things fester or sweep them under the rug hoping they will go away. One of the biggest reasons for divorce today is lack of communication.

People are busy and get lazy by not making their relationships the number 1 priority. This is a huge mistake!

Never take each other for granted and don’t start living separate lives in the same house. You are a partnership first and foremost. Don’t forget what brought you together in the beginning of your romance; always hold onto that and keep those fires burning. ❤

Watch the video above to see how to deal with this type of scenario with your partner.

Susan McCord @ http://www.sybersue.com
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#TBT Relationships: 10 Things Men Wish Women Wouldn’t Do

Talk Show Co-Host Steve discusses the 10 things men wish women wouldn’t do!

Some relationships can become mundane or repetitive and men complain that they can lose interest in their partner because of it. (The same goes for women too but this video is all about a man’s opinion. Susan has her turn later. 🙂 )

Both sexes need to be aware of the little things they do that can annoy their partner over time. Understanding and appreciating the gender characteristics can make a big difference in the dynamics of a long term relationship.

Men and women are not the same and once we learn how to give up trying to change each other and respect each others qualities, is when we will be very happy in our partnerships. ❤

Susan McCord @ facebook/DearSybersue

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