Author & divorce coach Debbie Burgin discusses her book “The Joy of Ex”

This book is based on “dealing with the trials & tribulations of divorce.” Debbie shares her expertise on how to find yourself again and how to start over on a different path with wonderful new beginnings

Life has different cycles that we all go through, which ultimately changes how we think and perceive our choices. In the past, couples stayed together because it was the norm! You made your bed, so now you literally have to lie in it. This is not the case anymore, with many men & women in successful careers and not as dependent on one another.

Marriage is on much more of an even footing today. The persona of 50s housewife June Cleaver is becoming less & less of what women want to portray. While it can be wonderful not to have to work while raising your children, there is a sense of self-worth for women to be able to have a life outside the home as well.

When a marriage dissolves & becomes an everyday burden, you have many choices on how to handle it today. You don’t have to stay in an unhealthy relationship anymore.

There are many more counselling options, numerous relationship books & videos available and helpful divorce meetup groups. The divorce or separation laws are much more user-friendly for both sexes today as well.

Teaching your children how to move on from an unhappy situation is much better than pretending to be in a blissful family situation. Don’t underestimate the intelligence of your kids, regardless of their age. They pick up on a lot more than you may be aware of.

We all have great intentions of making our relationships work when we say our vows. We don’t go into a marriage knowing or planning that we will only be together for a limited time. Take what you can from the memories or your time together, and cherish them for what they taught you. There were many reasons you fell in love and made that marital commitment, but now life has new plans for you.

Remember the quote: “People come into your life for a Reason, Season, or a Lifetime.” Knowing when to let go is part of maturity and self-respect. It is a growth that you will never stop learning from.

When deciding on whether you are ready to move on, make sure you have exhausted all your options to make your marriage work. If there is any chance of repairing the issues, please take the time to do so. You never want to have that regret.

If you know in your heart you are ready to start a new life, divorce can be a good thing. At the very least, you are being true to yourself and not settling for a loveless partnership.