What is wrong with me and why do I keep repeating these same dating patterns?
Social media and computer dating is becoming the norm with how people interact these days. Mingle meet up groups are trying to make a comeback but people still seem to be stuck to their smart phones rather than being open to meeting in person!
People are lonelier than ever because of how some of these dating websites seem to attract superficial men and women who are just out to play games.
There are some happy endings that eventually transpire but why are there so many more stories that don’t work out? Why do some people keep enticing a certain negative “type” into their existence, which continually puts them back out into the dating pool?
If you have met a lot of these unfavorable types, you are doing something to attract them towards you.
Regardless of whether you believe in “The Law of Attraction” there is something to it. Negativity attracts negativity. Everyone is entitled to finding love, but if you are always repeating the same unfulfilling scenario, how is it beneficial in the long run?
There are many women who only meet “Bad Boys” because they are allowing them to keep coming into their life. For some reason they think it is exciting to be treated like crap.
There are also men that only meet pretentious, materialistic hot women, because they are choosing “her looks” as the top priority. The end result is both sexes are constantly complaining about each other!
Going for the same brand of person which keeps backfiring into a non-existent love life takes years for some people to figure out. “Changing the pattern will change who you meet.” As simple as that sounds it seems to be the biggest mistake men and women repeatedly make.
Why is that?
Many people react out of anger when something happens that is repetitive and unrewarding in their life. This annoying cycle continues because they don’t understand that they are in denial of their own actions!
When a person becomes jaded or angry about the same thing over and over again, wouldn’t it make sense to investigate why it is affecting them to that level?
I see it all the time on the comment section under some YouTube videos. So many men and women continually vent their frustrations about the same subject, rather than learning how to deal with why it bothers them so much.
This is especially true regarding both sexes in the dating market. If something isn’t working, isn’t it a good idea to fix it rather than bitching about it to anyone who will listen?
No one wants to hear it except for a few others who are also angry about the same thing. Misery loves company and saying that, I rest my case…negativity attracts more negativity.
Is it really easier to constantly complain about some things that cause drama in your life than to find a solution that betters your world?
We are all guilty of sounding like a broken record at some point in our lives but the people who quickly understand how dangerously repetitive this is, are the ones who move on to find happiness.
If your love-life sucks, be honest about the part you play in it.
I can’t stress enough that we are all in charge of how our lives evolve and that ultimately the choices we make are ours. Yes, we all land in the school of hard knocks while finding out who we are, but the sooner we learn and own the lesson, the faster we move on to a healthier foundation.
So stop repeating the same old story and quit talking about what you don’t want in your life. Talk about a future relationship like you won a lottery! Think about all those wonderful things you would be able to do and how positive you would feel with less stress and more love in your life.
Thinking happy thoughts and keeping hope alive helps put out positive vibrations that eventually boomerang back towards you.
There is enough love out there for everyone and you deserve it just as much as anyone else does. You don’t ever have to settle for an unhealthy situation so quit allowing yourself to choose them. <3
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Advice Talk Show