Are You Taking Your Partner for Granted in Your Relationship?

Why do many of us become lazy or complacent in our relationships? Shouldn’t nurturing our partnership be the most important priority in our lives?

As a relationship and dating coach I find this to be one of the biggest reasons why many couples break up. “They think that this is the natural progression of every relationship;  the love and passion fizzles out with time. That’s just the way it is, nothing you can do about it.”

Yes, this can be a very true statement for those people who give up on making their partner the top priority in their lives but not at all true for those couples who understand how important it is to always keep your family in the number 1 slot!

Taking anything for granted in life becomes an issue over time!

Relationships are a lot of work and I often compare them to having a full time job. That’s OK though because anything worth having doesn’t come easy. People change, we all change and so do circumstances in our lives. We can’t expect our partnerships to be smooth sailing at every turn when we are dealing with all of life’s twists & turns.

There is always something we have to deal with as adults which includes our jobs, our financial situations, our health, becoming parents or maybe having to relocate to another city for a new career, etc.

The grass is seldom greener on the other side so it is a smart choice to water the grass at home first. It will be a repeat scenario within any relationship, so learning how to nurture the love between the two of you on a continual basis will be the key to a long & happy home-life.

You fell in love for a reason; never become complacent and forget why. ❤

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

 

 

Advertisements

Dating Advice: Dating Patterns-Why Do I Keep Meeting the Same Type of Men?

Why do You Keep Attracting the Wrong People to Date?

Social media and computer dating is becoming the norm with how people interact these days. Mingle meet up groups are trying to make a comeback but not without the help of using every platform available to advertise it out in cyberland.  People are lonelier than ever because of how some of these websites seem to attract superficial men and women who are just out to play games. There are some happy endings that eventually transpire, but why are there so many more stories of people that keep enticing a certain negative “type” into their existence ~ which continually puts them back into the dating pool?

If you have met a lot of these unfavorable types, you are doing something to attract them towards you. Regardless of whether you believe in the Law of Attraction there is something to it. Negativity attracts negativity.  Everyone is entitled to finding love, but if you are always repeating the same unfulfilling scenario, how is it beneficial in the long run?  There are many women who only meet “Bad Boys” because they are allowing them to keep coming into their life. For some reason they think it is exciting to be treated like crap. There are also men that only meet pretentious, materialistic hot women, because they are choosing “her looks” as the top priority.  The end result is both sexes are constantly complaining about each other!

Going for the same brand of person which keeps backfiring into a non-existent love life takes years for some people to figure out. “Changing the pattern will change who you meet.” As simple as that sounds it seems to be the biggest mistake men and women repeatedly make.

Why is that?

Many people react out of anger when something happens that is repetitive and unrewarding in their life. This is what continues the vicious cycle because they don’t understand that they are in denial of their own actions.  When a person becomes angry about the same thing over and over again wouldn’t it make sense to investigate why it is affecting them to that level? I see it all the time on the comment section under some YouTube videos.  So many people continually vent their frustrations about the same subject rather than learning how to deal with why it bothers them so much.

This is especially true regarding men and women in the dating market. If something isn’t working, isn’t it a good idea to fix it rather than bitching about it to anyone who will listen? No one wants to hear it except for a few others who are also angry about the same thing.  Misery loves company and saying that, I rest my case…negativity attracts more negativity.  Is it really easier to constantly complain about some things that cause drama in your life than to find a solution that betters your world?

We are all guilty of sounding like a broken record at some point in our lives but the people who quickly understand how dangerously repetitive a place that becomes, are the ones who move on to finding happiness. If your love-life sucks, be honest about the part you play in it.  I can’t stress enough that we are all in charge of how our lives evolve and that ultimately the choices we make are ours. Yes, we all land in the school of hard knocks while finding out who we are, but the sooner you learn and own the lesson, the faster you move on to a healthier foundation.

So stop repeating the same old story and quit talking about what you don’t want in your life. Talk about a future relationship like you would when thinking about what you would do it you won a lottery!  Think about all those wonderful things you would be able to do and how positive you would feel with less stress and more love in your life. Thinking happy thoughts and keeping hope alive helps put out positive vibrations that eventually boomerang back towards you. There is enough love out there for everyone and you deserve it just as much as anyone else does. You don’t ever have to settle for an unhealthy situation so quit allowing yourself to choose them. ❤

Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers