I talk to many men via my blog and advice column about many topics relating to women, dating and relationships.
I talk to many men via my blog and advice column about many topics relating to women, dating and relationships. The biggest complaint I hear is “It’s hard to meet women, and they don’t give me the time of day!”When I speak to women about this frustration from men, they profusely disagree that this is not true.
Well… I can tell you that I have witnessed this behavior from a fair number of ladies at different venues in various cities in North America. I honestly think that some women don’t realize how standoffish they can appear to others when they are out for the evening.
Body language tells a big story to the audience that’s watching.
Many guys tell me that they receive very little response from their brave hello to women; unless of course they are the ultimate “bad boy” chick magnet! (But then they are not the ones complaining!)
Ladies, I know there are some questionable guys out there. I understand that the majority of you are not ALL cold and unresponsive to men. However, if dating is ever going to change, you have to start being nice to pleasant men who make an effort. Be nice to guys who acknowledge you. They don’t have to fit the criteria on your checklist.
A kind smile and a friendly hello doesn’t mean you have to date them! It’s called human “face to face” connection, and something that is becoming obsolete these days!
Women say that men only care about hooking up and having sex. “They are not interested in a long-term partnership!” While I have met some guys who do fit this description; I disagree that the majority of men do not ever want a committed relationship.
Men have told me that they have experienced so much rejection from women today. As a result, they have finally given up looking for anything real. They started to make it only about sex because many women seem to be OK giving that to them early on! (Maybe women need to talk about this with each other???)
I enjoy being around men; I understand men and I have often said I am coming back in my next life as a man! My girlfriends think I am out of my mind bat sh*t crazy. “Why would you ever want to be a guy?”
Men get to be who they are without a lot of high-maintenance daily rituals. There are fewer expectations when it comes to physical appearance. They get to be strong-minded without being labelled as a bitch. They can have sex with numerous women without being called any derogatory names.
Men get to stand up to pee (so jealous!) and they can have a fight with their buddy & 10 minutes later have a beer together as if nothing has happened. All is forgiven and not held onto for an eternity! Women never forget and tend to hold grudges.
Don’t get me wrong. Being a woman is pretty cool and definitely has many wonderful perks. However, I could do without some of nature’s gifts on the emotional and biological side.
OK…we understand that each gender has unique qualities. So, why can’t men and women just accept the differences? They should get on with their lives instead of continually pointing fingers at what they don’t like about one another.
- Why are we fighting each other and repelling in the opposite direction of ever having a loving partnership?
- Why is the Millennium one of the loneliest eras in relationship history? Do we think we can always do better? Are our picky & judgmental ways making every date a one-night disaster?
- When did wearing the wrong colour socks or having fat ankles become a relationship dealbreaker?
- Why did the word ghosting become a regular habit in the dating arena? When did we become so rude by not showing up for a planned date? Why are we playing games and never intend to actually follow through on meeting up with someone? Why are we OK with ghosting our date because someone or something better came up?
- Why have we lost all concern for human etiquette and respecting each other’s time and efforts?
- Why are there so many angry comments from men about women on social media sites?
You don’t have to follow everyone else who has adopted some of these negative behaviours. Stand out by not participating in these ongoing, endless rants about what isn’t transpiring between men and women!
Don’t let yourself fall into the pessimism of what isn’t working!
Fix it!
How does complaining about each other make things any better? Why would you ever give up on something as important as LOVE? I know things are repetitively annoying out there in the dating world, but there are ways to change it.
You can start by putting the damn phone away. How can you possibly interact with anyone when your head is constantly positioned downwards? Your body language shows up as removed and far too busy to notice people around you.
If you want to have a relationship one day down the road, you are going to have to resort to…wait for it…Eye contact!
I know right?
Fixing this problem is not that difficult. I am starting to think everyone gets more empowerment from complaining about each other. It’s more than they believe that someone amazing is out there for them.
Fear takes over when people have been very hurt from a breakup or feel rejected. It becomes the growing root of their loneliness. These pessimistic thoughts dominate their path. They inhibit and sabotage their chance to find a loving partnership.
“You Must Believe to Achieve.” <3
10 Simple Things to Think About to Help Change the Dynamics between Men & Women:
- Don’t turn your nose up at anyone who acknowledges you!
- Smile at people you are in close contact with at restaurants, at the gym or any social outing you are attending.
- Only use your phone for important messages when out for the evening! Stop with the selfie crap!
- Do not judge someone without even speaking to them.
- Make a point of having a small conversation with at least 3 people every time you go out. It will start to become a natural occurrence and also make others feel special & comfortable.
- Do not put anyone on the spot by asking personal questions about them. Be original!
- Do not have any expectations about them buying you a drink or dinner!
- Be interesting & fun! People are always observing from across the room and gravitate towards a positive personality.
- If someone asks you out on a date, and you are not interested, be polite and respectful with your answer. Never give someone your number when you have no desire to see them again.
- Regardless of past hurt, it’s not just about you and what you want in your life. Make sure any conversations are a reciprocated scenario.
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show Dear Sybersue Facebook
