Your Relationship Expectations Should Match Your Partners.
Today’s topic makes you think about where you are or where you should be in a relationship. How would you answer these questions?
- Are your needs and expectations being met and vice versa?
- Is your partnership balanced or do you feel like there are things missing between you as a couple?
- Are you happy or are you settling somewhat?
- Are you able to be your authentic self around your partner?
- Are your future goals in sync with what your partner wants?
- Do you share the same romantic and intimate desires?
- Is there a reciprocated trust between you?
Communication as a couple is very important
This is especially true in the early stages when you are figuring everything out to see if there is going to be a commitment between the two of you! You need to have the proper discussions about your future before they get pushed under the rug and forgotten.
It never feels like the right time to bring up those tough subjects but it is imperative that you do so. It is not selfish to ask for what you want as long as you are willing to compromise and be there for your partner as well. This is why it is important to have many things in common so your connection flows naturally without a lot of effort.
Opposites may attract but it can be very difficult to maintain harmony when a couple is far apart on having their true desires met in a relationship. You don’t want to end up in a situation that feels forced.
Don’t be the last person to know that your partner is not even close to being on the same page as you are in your relationship.
Dear Sybersue
Please don’t go into a new relationship thinking you can change a person
Relationships are a two-way street and both people should have their needs met for a partnership to proceed and remain in a healthy place. If you don’t have a big percentage of commonalities, morals, and values in a similar mode, then it will be a continual struggle to see eye to eye within your partnership.
The big things like marriage and having children should be a deal-breaker if your partner isn’t feeling the same way. If you go in thinking you can change their mind, you are setting yourself up for a big disappointment and maybe even spending years with the wrong person!
Listen carefully to what someone tells you in the beginning when you are first getting to know them! I can’t stress this enough.
Are you fighting a lot about the same thing or have you broken up and got back together a few times?
While it is healthy for couples to argue once in a while, it is important to pay attention to what the fights are about. Is a repetitive sequence that never gets resolved? This is a red flag that should not be ignored, especially if you have ended or almost ended your relationship over the subject at one time.
Not being able to have healthy communication is a sign of trouble in the future. If you are getting to the point where you keep breaking up or taking a break about it because you’re both frustrated as Hell, this is a true indicator of an incompatibility that you may never be able to solve as a couple.
This is why we date and why we shouldn’t rush into a commitment to anyone. We need time to process how we interact and how well we connect emotionally, intellectually, physically, romantically, and spiritually. There is a lot that goes into having a great relationship so you should always have some expectations and feel good about doing so.
Sybersue xo <3
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