If you are putting way more energy into a new relationship than you are receiving from them, you are setting a precedence that will always put you in a lopsided and controlled scenario.
Relationships are a two-way street and both people should have their needs met for a partnership to proceed and remain in a healthy place. If you don’t have a big percentage of commonalities, morals, and values in a similar mode, then it will be a continual struggle to see eye to eye within your partnership.
Regardless of why she is sending these very mixed signals, it’s not a good thing to go into a lopsided situation if you want different things. You have to both be on the same page for things to work or it’s not going to end well.