“Why Do Men Always Leave Me for Someone Else? I am a nice person and always accommodating, I don’t understand why this keeps happening to me.” In today’s video and post I discuss a woman’s question that is causing her continual problems in her relationships.
Why does this keep happening to her?
This type of scenario can happen when someone becomes stuck in a pattern that keeps bringing the same repetitive heartbreak. Quite often when we are overly accommodating in a relationship things can become very predictable and boring in some circumstances.
While it is a wonderful quality to be the type of person who is easy going, you still need to have a voice within your partnership. No one should have power over you. (It is always good to think about how you would feel if the situation was reversed.) We all want a little challenge and excitement in our life, without game playing of course. Being put on a constant pedestal can make a person feel very uncomfortable.
This relationship issue could also be brought on by repeating and thinking those same negative words: “Why do men always leave me for someone else.” If you are always in that mindset, you will continue to manifest the same scenarios towards you. You will need to change that mantra to something more positive.
How can she change this so that she can have a healthy partnership in her life?
It is one thing to realize there is an ongoing problem in your partnerships but understanding how to change things is another matter altogether. If you are finding that you feel really stuck and just don’t know what to do, it is a good idea to talk to a coach or counselor who can give you the tools to help you.
You may not be aware that some of your actions are sabotaging your relationships and it never hurts to get a professional opinion. It offers a different perspective that could really add clarification as to why a pattern has occurred.
Stop being a yes girl.
It’s OK to have an opinion about something as it keeps the relationship on an even keel. It is very important that you are receiving the same energy back from your partner that you are giving to him. No one should be in control and you both should be contributing to maintaining a loving environment.
When a partnership becomes lopsided, it is not a healthy place to be anymore. Making suggestions and adding a viewpoint to conversations keeps a couple close and connected. Communication is the #1 priority in all relationships.
Have fun together <3
Couples who have fun together, will always keep things interesting in their partnership! You look forward to spending time with each other and you enjoy planning things to do together. There is so much truth to the statement “couples who play together stay together.” We can all become very serious with our every day responsibilities and forget how to relax, be playful and enjoy life. This is a common mistake in many past relationships.
Have a purpose in your life!
Your partner should be an extension of who you already are as a person. They should not be the entire reason for your happiness. Relying on someone else to make you feel whole is not a good place to put yourself. Trust me when I say your partner doesn’t want that responsibility! They want to respect you and you need to respect yourself as well.
When you have projects and goals in your life it gives you a purpose as to why you are here on this earth. You are making a difference with what you are contributing to your enviornment on a daily basis. It makes you feel alive and brings rewards and accomplishments that keeps you evolving to a higher place of your best self.
It gives you interesting things to talk about with your partner and keeps the communication channels open and fresh. The same thing happens when your partner tells you about their personal achievements. When you are sincerely happy for each other it adds another layer to the bond you already have as a couple.
You are proud of one another and you are seldom at a loss for what to talk about in your relationship because things are always happening! There are no insecurities or jealousy because you are on the same page in life and in your partnership. You generally want the best for each other and you are there to support one another. That is the definition of a partnership.
*Please watch the video above for more on this topic.
Sybersue xo <3
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Susan McCord @ Dear Sybersue Coaching Services