Was your vision impaired years ago when you let the love of your life get away??
Meeting an amazing person at the wrong time has probably happened to most people at one time in their lives. How often do we hear of couples reuniting at a high school reunion 20 -30 years later? That lost love that got away because the timing wasn’t right?
Was it really bad timing, or was it really just the wrong person? Understanding the difference is really important here because you can spend years pining over someone whom you thought was the right person that got away, only to see them again and apart from a physical attraction, there really wasn’t much else. Knowing when it is purely a physical lust or true love is the answer to your haunting question. When love is wonderful, it doesn’t have to be complicated. It just feels right and the relationship adjustments are not obstacles but reciprocated compromises.
In our younger years, many people focus on their career path or University schooling. Meeting someone at that stage in your life is usually more of a casual relationship. This time is for “you to grow” so that you make wise choices for your future.
But…what if you met someone then who was perfect for you? You let them get away because the timing just wasn’t right. You can’t stop thinking about them! Should you contact them? Absolutely, but find out as much as you can beforehand in case they are happily married with children. Do not cause an upset in their life just because you made a mistake years ago by letting them go. If they are single, then jump in with both feet! What have you got to lose?
We all make choices for what we think is the better path, but is it?
Are we just too busy, stubborn or self-absorbed to see what an incredible relationship we have at the time? Timing is everything, and sometimes we don’t pay attention to what is obvious and right in front of us. How many people have let the right person get away due to other priorities? Then they choose the wrong person later on out of desperation. They don’t want to end up alone.
Age can play an important role in your choices. This is especially true if you are a woman whose biological clock is ticking like a time bomb. Some women will forfeit love to get pregnant at that stage. Dating checklists can also be relationship killers due to the picky or shallow demands some people prioritize. Sometimes we do not know they are the right person until they are gone from our lives. We often let our blinders dictate our decisions!
People talk about their soul mate that got away.
Is there such a person for everyone? Maybe, but if we let them get away, were they really your soul mate? Shouldn’t you be joined at the hip, and nothing can tear you apart?
Today, many men and women are overly critical and non-committal until their late 30’s. Eventually, they settle with a partner they may not even love. This is sad. Everyone needs to look in the mirror as a reminder that we all have good qualities. We also all have flaws. No one is immune to this.
Being particular and snobby in your single years is really not worth it in the end. I have met many lonely people, both in and out of relationships. Over the years, they have pushed away potential happiness due to their judgmental attitudes.
It is never too late to change what isn’t working.
You might feel like you are repeating a pattern because of your unreasonable checklists. This also could be due to your own commitment issues. This is sabotaging any potential relationship from coming toward you. Take the time to rediscover yourself.
Own your part in why things haven’t worked out for you. This reflection is crucial to being in a loving partnership. Hire a dating coach and put yourself around friends who have a healthy relationship. Being in a warm environment like this can help reduce these long-term fears. You will see how wonderful a great relationship can be.
I do believe that timing is everything. When you are ready, you will allow that “right” person in.” Do not ever be afraid to rekindle a lost love if the opportunity arises. It will either open or close a door that has been stagnant for way too long.
Love can happen anywhere, anytime and at any age!
Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/c/susanmccord
