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Please Stop Judging Me Because I Choose to be Single

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Welcome to Dear Sybersue! In today’s video and post, we discuss Amy’s topic.

Dear Sybersue,

I am a 38-year-old woman with a successful career. I’ve been in a few long-term relationships, but I have since decided that I do not want to have children and I wish to remain single. I travel a fair bit and have an amazing group of friends which keeps me pretty busy! I am very blessed to have such a fulfilling life!

However, I am frustrated that my colleagues, family, and friends constantly try to set me up on dates. They make daily comments saying they don’t believe I choose to be single! I have been judged about my choice for years now. Why can’t people just accept that not everyone wants to commit to having a life partner?

Thanks, Sybersue


I absolutely love this question! I will answer it in a general sense because there are so many men and women who also feel the same way as Amy. We have so many options today with what we choose to have when it comes to our relationship status or being single. It is so great to be able to be authentic to who we truly are and have what we desire in the form of love. It is no one’s business to judge anyone for their choice when it comes to matters of the heart. 💖

That is the beauty of the Millennium, everything is acceptable today, and we can all choose to live the life we want to live. That doesn’t mean there won’t be judgments made, but you do have the choice not to give energy to people who vocalize their negative opinions or who continually try to change your mindset.

Most people are just acting out of love and want you to be happy, but sometimes it just gets to be too much

You may have to sit down with your friends and family in an intervention-style meeting and be strong about your choice to stay single. Thank them for their concern and their love for you, but you are very sincere with your wish to stay unattached. Contrary to what they may think, you are not lonely. You are happy and very content.

Express to them that you’re not jaded about love and relationships but, your lifestyle is much better suited for you not to be in a committed partnership. You have tried it a few times, and you prefer a more spontaneous life that allows you to come and go as you please without answering to anyone right now. If you decide at a later date to venture back out into the dating scene, they will be the first to know.

A relationship doesn’t define you

Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, and I am certainly not disputing that. I am happily married myself, but I enjoyed my years of being single as well. Many men and women are happier sharing their life with someone they love, but it’s not always a fit for very independent people who prefer a more open and free lifestyle. I have friends who are both married and single, and I love spending time with all of them equally.

We have to get out of this judgmental attitude where we put our concerns or opinions on others. We don’t always know best, and we need to respect other people’s requests and just love them for who they are and how they choose to live their lives. Furthermore, we can’t fix everyone, and it’s not our place to do so.

If you find yourself in the same predicament as Amy, put your time and energy into surrounding yourself with like-minded people who understand and appreciate your choice to stay single. Walk away from anyone who persistently interferes in your personal decisions, because it is really no one’s concern about how or what you choose to do in your life. You’re the only one who knows what works best for you.

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  1. I feel Amy needs counseling. There are many reasons her friends may want her to go on dates, especially if they are not single.
    Before she asks her friends to respect her decisions to be single, she needs to be comfortable with her friends not sharing her same feelings. As everyone isn’t “happy and single” like she professes to be.

  2. Great subject my only concern is I hope she is not making that decision out of frustration of failed relationships because she will regret again later in life .
    I have relatives who are very bitter because of those decision made hastely.
    Sometines it will be to late to come back because of age

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