I am single, but all my friends are in relationships. I have no one to socialize with.

Dear Sybersue,

I am so happy to have found you on YouTube. Your videos answer many of my questions about dating & relationships! Although I haven’t seen one that can help me with my question.  That is the reason I am here on your advice column asking for advice. (I hope you will film a video regarding this issue for other people as well.)

Here is my question:

I am a 38-year-old woman. I want to meet someone special with whom I can have a committed partnership. However, I have no single friends to go out with.

All of my friends are in relationships and I am tired of being the 3rd wheel! It makes me feel like I am a burden to them and that they feel obligated to let me tag along. (Or they feel sorry for me, which is even worse!) I appreciate their support, but I think it is wearing thin on them. I try not to complain, but sometimes I just can’t help it.

How do I get up the courage to go out alone? How can I meet new people?

I am at the “in between” stage. I feel too old for some venues but I am also too young for others! I don’t know where to go out for the evening. I want to feel secure even when I am by myself.

I become anxious and fearful of how others will look at me every time I try to force myself out the door. So once again, I stay in my condo watching TV every evening.

I have tried online dating and find that it is more work than it is worth for the most part. It lacks the sincerity of meeting someone face to face, and I find many people are just there to talk. It’s very frustrating when I spend so much time chatting with one person, but I never even end up meeting them!

What is with that anyway? How do people have time on their hands to do this cat-and-mouse dating game?

I am still hoping to have children one day. However, I am slowly coming to terms with doing this on my own eventually. I am OK with that, but it would be nice to meet a man who would like to have children. I am also not opposed to him having children from a previous relationship.

Although I hate going out by myself, I am depressed staying home all the time! I am very lonely & frustrated. What should I do?

Thank you! Angela 🙂

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