I am so happy to have found you on YouTube and your videos answer many of my questions about dating & relationships! Although, I haven’t seen one that can help me with my question. That is the reason I am here on your advice column/blog asking for advice. (I hope you will film one regarding this issue for other people as well.)
Here is my question:
I am a 38 year old woman who wants to meet someone special to have a committed partnership with but I have no single friends to go out with.
All of my friends are in relationships and I am tired of being the 3rd wheel! It makes me feel like I am a burden to them and that they feel obligated to let me tag along. (Or they feel sorry for me which is even worse!) I appreciate their support but I think it is wearing thin on them. I try not to complain but sometimes I just can’t help it.
How do I get up the courage to go out alone? How can I meet new people?
Part of the problem is I am at the “in between” stage of being too old to for some venues and too young for others! I am at a loss of where I can go out for the evening and not feel insecure because I am by myself.
Every time I try to force myself out the door I become anxious and fearful of how others will look at me. So once again I stay in my condo watching TV every evening.
I have tried online dating and find that it is more work than it is worth for the most part. It lacks the sincerity of meeting someone face to face and I find many people are just talk. It’s very annoying to me when I have to spend so much time chatting with one person that I never even end up meeting!
What is with that anyway? How do people have so much time on their hands to do this cat & mouse dating game?
I am still hoping that I may be able to have children one day but I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that I may have to do this on my own eventually. I am OK with that but it would be nice to meet a man who would like to have children. I am also not opposed to him having children from a previous relationship.
Although I hate going out by myself, I am depressed staying home all the time! I am very lonely & frustrated. What should I do?
Thank you! Angela 🙂
Please watch the video above to see what Sybersue suggests! <3