I am Single but all my Friends are in Relationships! (I have no one to go out with.)

I am Single but all my Friends are in Relationships! (I have no one to go out with.)

Dear Sybersue,

I am so happy to have found you on YouTube and your videos answer many of my questions about dating & relationships! Although, I haven’t seen one that can help me with my question.Ā  That is the reason I am here on your advice column/blog asking for advice. (I hope you will film one regarding this issue for other people as well.)

Here is my question:

I am a 38 year old woman who wants to meet someone special to have a committed partnership with but I have no single friends to go out with.

All of my friends are in relationships and I am tired of being the 3rd wheel! It makes me feel like I am a burden to them and that they feel obligated to let me tag along. (Or they feel sorry for me which is even worse!) I appreciate their support but I think it is wearing thin on them. I try not to complain but sometimes I just can’t help it.

How do I get up the courage to go out alone? How can I meet new people?

Part of the problem is I am at the “in between” stage of being too old to for some venues and too young for others! I am at a loss of where I can go out for the evening and not feel insecure because I am by myself.

Every time I try to force myself out the door I become anxious and fearful of how others will look at me. So once again I stay in my condo watching TV every evening.

I have tried online dating and find that it is more work than it is worth for the most part. It lacks the sincerity of meeting someone face to face and I find many people are just talk. It’s very annoying to me when I have to spend so much time chatting with one person that I never even end up meeting!

What is with that anyway? How do people have so much time on their hands to do this cat & mouse dating game?

I am still hoping that I may be able to have children one day but I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that I may have to do this on my own eventually. I am OK with that but it would be nice to meet a man who would like to have children. I am also not opposed to him having children from a previous relationship.

Although I hate going out by myself, I am depressed staying home all the time! I am very lonely & frustrated. What should I do?

Thank you! Angela šŸ™‚

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Dating Advice ~ Are You Tired of Being Single?

Dear Sybersue is a Dating/Relationship/Lifestyle Advice Talk Show for Men & Women of all Ages! Ā Host Susan McCord discusses why you may still be single and how to change that! Ā Dating patterns need to be altered so that you can find a loving partnership. Ā Understanding how you play a part with your actions is the first step to getting there.

Many people are hurt, fed up or angry that they are not in a relationship but are also in denial as to why this is a constant in their lives. I truly feel that this is why dating has become a difficult place these days. Ā If we all just point fingers at each other blaming our past situations on what the future will continue to be like, we are going to be very lonely for a long time.

If something isn’t working why don’t you try everything to fix it if it is important to you?

YouTube and other social media has become a complaint center for many people regarding relationship or dating issues. Ā It is a place that they can openly state their view point anonymously which many choose to do. Ā Venting their frustration is one thingĀ but not trying to find a solution is another thing. Ā Learning from our mistakes in life help us grow into better people but holding onto them and not improving who we are, is just prolonging the same old thing over and over again.

None of us are perfect and we all make some bad choices but those who move away from this repetitive negative cycle will find happiness faster. Ā Stop blaming others for how things turn out as it is “you” that ultimately makes the decisions in your life not them. ā¤

Susan McCord ~Ā http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers