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Declutter your mind to make room for love!

Declutter Your Mind to Make Room for Love; is the topic today here at Dear Sybersue.

Sometimes we just have to get out of our own way.

You are in charge of what you bring into your life which includes those repetitive patterns that may be keeping you stuck. We don’t often realize that we are sabotaging our own personal happiness by some of our internal thoughts and behaviors. What you think and say become a big part of your overall makeup and how you are perceived by others.

What is the most common phrase that runs around in your head when it comes to dating and relationships?

Does it sound something like this: “It will never work”, “They will just cheat on me”, “Why do I always attract drama into my life?” The common denominator here is “YOU,” and the continuing dialogue within your thoughts. This language needs to be altered if you are always putting yourself in a defeatist mode.

Of course, you are allowed to have downtime and to reflect on the choices you have made that haven’t worked out, but you also have to learn the lesson, dust yourself off and get back out there! We all make mistakes but that is a good thing. It means you are making an effort to try different things.

Forgive yourself for allowing those certain scenarios that may have caused you pain. By acknowledging it and not allowing it to happen again, means you are evolving to a better place and that’s amazing!!

Don’t be mad at the world, take some ownership and try a different path.

Don’t give an ex so much power!

Things didn’t work out with your ex for a good reason which you will clearly see when you do meet your special person who is on the way! Every time another negative thought creeps into your mind, quickly focus on something that makes you smile.

Take control of what you let in, and what you toss out of your thought process.

It is not easy to readjust your thinking, especially if you are still hurting from a past relationship, but the less energy you give to a breakup situation, the faster you will be ready and open to meeting someone who is better suited for you.

There could be some deep-rooted childhood dialogue playing out that is interfering with your confidence. This may require some counseling to remove it if it is causing repetitive problems in your dating life or love relationships. There is no shame in getting to the bottom of something that continues to cause you sadness and heartache. It is a strength to admit you need some guidance and to want to change up what isn’t working for you!

Our mind is powerful and can be very stubborn!

Although it can often feel like there’s no hope, you can deprogram your mind to think in a more positive way. You don’t have to stay stuck in a place of hurt, sadness, or painful trauma.

  1. The first step is to be aware that there are some repetitive issues that are controlling your everyday well-being.
  2. The second step is to change up any negative thinking as soon as possible. In other words, change the subject that is playing in your mind.
  3. Look at a funny video clip on your phone, get out for a short walk to enjoy the sunshine, or sit at a cafe or a park and just people watch. The less time you spend thinking about things that upset you, the less time you will give to those thoughts as the months go by. Be grateful for the beauty that nature is able to offer you.

When you do start to appreciate the smaller things in life (that are right there in front of you) it becomes very addictive, which in turn brings more of it towards you. You will naturally attract the positive things in life because you are learning how to repel the negativity out of your day-to-day surroundings.

Our mind can really screw with us if we let it, so don’t let it!

Don’t let self-doubt rule your life.

We all have those down days where we just don’t feel strong and we hold back rather than pushing ourselves to another day of new accomplishments. It’s just too much, and our mindset takes hold of our self-worth once again.

That is the best thing about having goals! It helps you achieve things that you might be afraid of doing. Having them written down and actually talking about these goals to other people will push you closer to obtaining them. You don’t want to fail by “just talking the talk,” you really want to make something of your life!

You know what I’m going on about here.

When you have aspirations and complete them, there is no other feeling quite like it. It gives you a purpose and makes you feel validated. It also clears those noisy negative conversations that keep you stuck in a place of self-doubt. The more you accomplish the less time you have to overthink every thought that enters your mind.

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One comment

  1. Love can’t be forced however. A lot of the current quest for identity among people is a search for an acceptable image. My image of me is not necessarily your image of me. Other people teach us who we are. Their attitudes to us are the mirror in which we learn to see ourselves, but the mirror is distorted. We notice only what we think noteworthy, and therefore our vision is highly selective. Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.

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