Some people are experts at love bombing very early on, which can put you in a false sense of feeling secure and wanted by them. They say all the right things about how amazing and sexy you are, and they see a future with you. Unfortunately, this is a form of manipulation to get what they want sexually from you.
Being Benched is when someone keeps you on hold by giving you occasional attention but also keeping you on the back burner! Basically, they are not quite sure what they are going to do with you and usually have a few people on their their bench roster. They love to keep their options open!
When you always respect yourself first, a boomerang effect happens and your life starts to flow in a smoother direction. The non-stop drama disappears and things are so much easier.
Being too picky is not a good thing but overlooking key principals that are important to you are just as bad if you want a relationship of substance.