It goes without saying that you want to be sexually compatible with a potential partner.
Of course, sex is very important in any relationship, but you also want to know if you have a reciprocated connection in other areas as well. Texting/talking about sex before you even meet someone, takes away from getting to know them at a deeper level due to sex being the bigger priority. If you are interested in meeting someone to have a committed partnership with, it can become extremely frustrating when these sexual conversations continue to happen over and over again.
Many women I have spoken to feel pressured to talk about sex very quickly when they are dating online. This is expected before they even meet up with a potential date. They also feel pressured to sleep with a guy soon after meeting them. Expectations come into play too early. Sexual gratification seems to be the main goal above everything else.
This is causing a lot of people to walk away from dating today. Both sexes are becoming fed up with the repetitive scenarios, lack of integrity, and sincerity with what people claim they are looking for.
If your goal is to be in a committed partnership, set important boundaries that you can stick to.
You shouldn’t feel pressured or uncomfortable to do anything sexual with someone. There are often a few red flags that pop up when you first meet someone new. Pay attention to what they say from day one, and really hear them. Your self-respect should always be #1!
Some people are experts at love bombing very early on, which can put you in a false sense of feeling secure and wanted by them. They say all the right things about how amazing and sexy you are, and they see a future with you. Unfortunately, this is a form of manipulation to get what they want sexually from you.
Too much of a good thing, too quickly, is one of those red flags I was referring to. Take your time getting to know someone. Avoid jumping into bed too soon. This approach will help you prevent this from occurring. Manipulative people don’t hang around too long if they aren’t getting what they want from you.
How do you steer the conversation away from sex early on?
It is important to be upfront right away when conversations start to take on a sensual tone. Be open and tell them you are not comfortable talking about sex. Explain that you want to go out on a few dates first. You would like to see if there is potential to have a mutual connection. If they don’t honour or respect your wishes, walk away. It would be best to end communications with them. You always need to feel heard and be treated respectfully.
Do not ever feel pressured into sending sexy photos or sexting anything to anyone! You don’t know anything about them, and they have not earned your trust. You haven’t even met them, and they are a basic stranger at this point. Think about this for a minute. Would you walk up to a stranger on the street and start talking to them about sex? I’m pretty sure you understand why this would make someone feel uncomfortable. Please remember that when you start texting sexy messages to a person you know nothing about.
Flirting with someone you are texting can be fun, but it also can put you in a compromising position. You may realize too late that you are being used as a booty-call hookup and nothing more. Be smart. Read their body language carefully. Don’t give in to vulnerability due to the fake trust you feel with them at the time.
There are some great con artists out there who know how to lure someone into their web of sexual interaction.
If you don’t allow yourself to go there, they will walk away quickly. I can’t stress it enough to not ever feel pressured to do something you’re not ready to engage in. Some people are OK with having these sexual conversations early on, but be prepared for them to move away from you quickly after they get what they came for.
If you are always back at the dating drawing board due to this reason, it is time for a change. Adjust your dating pattern if you are looking for a committed partnership. It is ultimately your choice to go or stay in any new situation. You can pretty much guarantee that if sex talk is their first priority, they are not into having a relationship.
I have spoken to some men who said they are not hanging around if a girl doesn’t have sex on the first few dates.
This doesn’t always work out well with many guys after a while. They often become bored very quickly with the women who comply in the bedroom. These men then go back out doing the same thing over and over again. While there may be sexual gratification achieved each time, there isn’t any substance to maintain a connection for very long.
There are also plenty of great men who are willing to wait for the right woman. Hold onto your values and morals so that you can meet a like-minded partner who wants the same things. It’s not easy to meet your special person, and that is OK. No one said it would be an easy journey. However, you should not have to deal with drama, intimidation, head games, or manipulation at any time. You are in control of who you allow into your life. Make sure you do the work to know who that is.
There is something to be said about taking your time before jumping into bed with someone.
When you spend some time communicating and getting to know each other, you start to build a comfortable, reciprocated trust as a couple. This makes a strong foundation should you both decide to be exclusive with one another.
- You are also both on the same page.
- You appreciate each other for who you are. Sexual temptation does not rule your every thought.
- There is a mutual understanding to go slow. You both understand it is worth the wait until you are ready to be intimate together.
- You don’t question where you stand with your new partner. Both of you take the time to show each other daily.
- Every great relationship takes time to build. When you have the same values and goals, you will continue to grow in the same healthy direction.
*Please watch the video below for more on today’s topic.
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