Dear Sybersue Answers a Viewers Question:
After two long years of trying to get over my ex and then dealing with his engagement to a woman 8 months ago, he has recently started contacting me again. I was crushed when I heard he had met someone a year ago and was getting married so quickly after only knowing her for 4 months!
NOW my Ex keeps texting me and wants to see me before he gets married!
Why is he doing that when he is supposedly committed to another woman? His texts are very flirty and somewhat sexually suggestive.
It took me so long to get over him and now he is stirring things up emotionally for me.
How do I handle this?
Please watch the video above to hear what Dear Sybersue has to say about MK’s Question. Has this type of scenario happened to you?
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In Today’s Weekly Video Sybersue Answers the Question: “Why Do I Keep Attracting Weirdos to Date? What’s Wrong With Me?” This video applies to both men and women even though the question is from a woman.
Dating is so difficult today especially with most of it done online! How do you really know who someone is from seeing their dating profile or a few pictures they have uploaded? Don’t we all look like we are living an absolutely fantastic life on our Facebook and Instagram pages??
Unfortunately that isn’t always the case and contributes to many people living in a pretentious social media facade. This can cause all sorts of problems with confidence levels when men and women actually engage with someone in a “face to face” scenario.
Sometimes we put out certain vibes or self esteem issues that bring the wrong people towards us.
Showing any vulnerability, shyness or desperation will attract certain types that may have similar traits to yours or it could attract someone who may be looking for a partner they can control.
It’s up to you who you allow in your life and if there is a repetitive problem that is driving you crazy, it is time to analyse what that is and change up this uncomfortable dating pattern.
It’ s never too late to learn things about yourself and you should never stop growing to be a better version of who you are. Some of life’s obstacles are meant to make you into a stronger person because the Universe has better plans in store for you.
Ya I know… whatevvvvver, right?
Regardless of whether you believe in spiritual vibration; the first rule of thumb when something isn’t benefiting you in your life, is to take a step back and own your actions or the part you play in your choices.
Take some responsibility in why you are bringing these undesirable people towards you and figure out what needs to change.
How can you fix this so that you can have a great partnership? Do you really think everyone out there is weird or do you think maybe you need to alter your personal boundaries?
What is the biggest thing drawing you towards these people? Is there a certain look that attracts you? Do they have a bad boy/girl persona or sarcastic personality? Knowing what you want is crucial to meeting the right people to date. Any confusion with this will keep you in repetitive limbo.
You’re on the right path because you understand things NEED to change. This is the first and right step to bettering your situation. Wishing you love and happiness and a brand new outlook in your dating life.
Please watch the video above and leave your comments below! I always answer you back. xo Sybersue
Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating/relationship coach & advice columnist for men & women of all Ages! Check out more videos on her YouTube Channel
Having a problem figuring out what to wear on a date? Read the fashion & style statistics in the post below from Megan Murray at Zoosk and Mogul to find out what men and women like!
Author: Megan Murray
It’s no secret that fashion and dating have a close connection. When you’re meeting someone, it’s often what they’re wearing that catches your eye and makes a first impression. Whether it’s a sultry dress, a smooth dinner jacket, a great pair of shoes, or a funky accessory, what we wear can be a reflection of who we are. And because of that, it can also send a message to any potential love interest out there. But exactly what that message is saying… Well, that depends on the person. And the clothes.
To get a better idea of how fashion influences the way we date, the online dating platform surveyed 6,646 of its members and analyzed over 34,579 profiles to gain insight into how daters dress, what’s proper date attire, and what fashion trends singles like best. Here’s what they found:
Mentioning fashion in your dating profile can get you more messages.
Are you into fashion, clothes, or designers? Then go ahead and mention it in your profile, because it could help you get more incoming messages. Profiles that talk about being stylish or people who say they like dressing up are especially popular while online dating—they can get up to 135% more incoming messages.
Click the link here to read on and find out more interesting facts to help you with your dating life! Zoosk Data Study: Fashion and Dating
This is a very informative article and I was happy to see jeans and a T-shirt made the cut! My favorite casual “go to” with a sexy pair of shoes or boots!
What is your favorite outfit and do you agree with the stats in this post? Please leave your comments below Sybersue
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In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses the topic: Why Does My Partner Give Me The Silent Treatment After We Argue?
Is this any way to have a relationship where you are always having to walk on eggshells because your partner doesn’t know how to or want to communicate, and just shuts down?
Are you now afraid to have an opinion for fear of them closing off to you once again?
Your partner needs to figure out why they treat you in this controlling manner and you need to have some boundaries in what you allow in your relationships and all aspects of your life.
Communication is the number 1 priority of any relationship and if there is a problem with how you converse with each other, it will only cause further breakdown in the partnership. Who wants to come home to confrontation or even worse; a cold shoulder for days on end.
Just because they don’t like or agree with something you say is no excuse to punish you with this repetitive silent treatment. It’s time to get to the bottom of it, or move on from the partnership before it takes a permanent toll on your self esteem.
Your relationship needs to be on a loving and reciprocated path where you have nothing but respect for each other and there are no push/pull emotional games!
Sybersue Loves to hear from you & will always take time to answer you back. Please leave your comments below!
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In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses “Are You Always Afraid Your Relationships Will End?”
Are you fearful of being in a relationship because you don’t think it will last? Is this becoming a problem due to trust issues from a difficult childhood or a past breakup that has left you feeling uneasy or insecure about relationships in general?
We’re not all built the same way emotionally and we are all a work in progress fumbling along until we get things right in our life.
Some of us learn quickly because we have loving support or mentors to help us figure things out, while others have to take the long way around trying to find the tools to guide them to the right path.
When it comes to matters of the heart we all have vulnerable moments and even the strongest men and women feel those scars that seem to linger longer than necessary! Why is love so difficult sometimes?
Love is the universal language that everyone understands but many people don’t deal with their emotions correctly. They either bury their feelings, become possessive or react harshly when hurt and are quite confused about what love actually means to them. This causes all types of self doubt and insecurities as the years go by.
It is important after each partnership ends to take time to analyse what transpired.
It’s OK to talk to someone professionally about what you’re feeling and what has taken hold of your emotional fears. In fact it is a great thing to do for yourself and can save you many years of heartbreak! Relationships are powerful and when they end it is another life experience that either holds you back, or helps you grow.
It is up to you which one that is; you are in charge.
If you are feeling anxious in most of your partnerships, it is time to figure out why. It could be that you are choosing a similar type and repeating a pattern that doesn’t work. Just because it feels familiar doesn’t mean that it is a good thing.
We ALL need a self esteem need boost at certain times and no one escapes that in a lifetime. Something needs to change so that you don’t subconsciously keep sabotaging relationship after relationship by choosing people who aren’t a good fit for you.
You should always feel safe and loved when you are with the right partner.
I Love to hear from you & will always take time to answer you back. Please leave your comments below!
Sybersue xo ❤
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Dear Sybersue’s weekly Wednesday video upload is a discussion on breakups and what you should keep from your past relationship.
Do you get rid of everything to do with your Ex or is it important to keep something to remind yourself of why you once loved them? Regardless of the way the relationship ended they were a part of your life for a reason; no matter how small of a reason that might have been.
We are personally in charge of who attract into our life, so whether you understand why at the time or figure it out at a later date, there is always a purpose or lesson to be learned with each person who walks on your path.
I am certainly not saying they are all happy lessons, but you needed to know something at that particular time to help you move into being an even better version of yourself! Acknowledging this will keep you centered and take you further up the ladder to your highest good.
Sybersue Loves to hear from you & will answer you back. Please watch the video above and leave your comments below or show topic ideas below this post.
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What do you talk about on those first few dates? Is it OK to ask them about their last relationship and why they broke up with their EX? What if that is all they talk about???
I have received this question on my advice column numerous times! What is the proper etiquette when trying to get to know someone? First of all, leave the long checklist at home and let them talk openly without feeling pressured.
This is the time to pay attention to ANY red flags! Are they are ready for a relationship and are they really over their EX?
OK What Should I Be Paying Attention to?
- How much do they talk about their EX?
- Are they angry about their past relationship?
- Are they still sad about the breakup?
- Are they truly over their EX and talk about being ready for a partnership?
- Do you feel like you are the rebound person?
- Is the conversation forced or does it feel easy and natural? Is it reciprocated?
- How long has it been since their breakup?
- Do they not want to talk about anything in their past and seem emotionally closed off?
- Do they still see their Ex as friends and talk about them a lot?
- Are they talking about their ex but jumping in really fast with you at the same time?
Listen to your intuition! You know in your gut whether someone is being authentic or not.
There are always warning signs but many of us choose to let them slide because we try to give people the benefit of the doubt, or because we desperately want to be in a relationship!
There is a big difference between being too judgmental and being naive about someone!
Really listen to what someone says as you are getting to know them. If they say they’re not ready to be in a relationship, believe them! If they talk constantly about their EX they are NOT over them or available to start anything new with you or anyone else.
Always respect yourself and have some boundaries. Instinctively you know when things are going in the right direction so you shouldn’t have to second guess the situation.
If things are meant to be between the two of you, it will have a natural flow without having to sacrifice yourself in any capacity.
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