After 3 Months My Boyfriend Just Wants to Be Friends!

After 3 Months My Boyfriend Just Wants to Be Friends!

In today’s weekly video/blog post I discuss the topic: After 3 Months My Boyfriend Just Wants to Be Friends!

Carolyn wants to know: “What happened to us? Everything was going so great! Why did my bf suddenly get turned off and now wants to put me in the friend zone? Talk about feeling demoted! Why did his feelings change so quickly? Now what do I do?”

This is one of the biggest problems with dating and relationships; you just don’t always know what is going on in someone else’s heart or mindset. Things can start out beautifully and are going along as smooth as silk and then something shifts to change the harmony.

How do we ever trust that any relationship will  work out and how do we stop worrying that the same thing won’t happen again?

Unfortunately you can’t predict how someone is going to act just as you can’t predict that your career will always stay on the same path either. Both scenarios take a lot of work to keep nurtured and all you can do is give it your best and never take things for granted.

Quite often when things start out fast in a new relationship we put each other on a pedestal which isn’t a good thing. We don’t really know who someone is in the first few months of dating them; but we THINK we do.

We all want instant gratification and ignore some of the bigger things that may be missing in the partnership. Taking things slower will give you a clearer picture of what is actually transpiring between you as a couple.

If this friend zone thing is happening way too often in your new relationships you need to pull back a little. You could be over zealous and too excited about things which can turn some people off.  Keeping a little mystery alive is always a good thing and makes you less predictable.

Take your time and savor each moment. Don’t put your own life on hold for someone else. Remember; your partner should be an extension of who you already are and they fit into your life like the last missing piece of the puzzle.

Love can definitely be a gamble but more often than not, it pays off in a very rewarding way.

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Should I Tell My Best Friend I Have Feelings For Him?

Should I Tell My Best Friend I Have Feelings For Him?

For those of you here for the first time on my blog, Dear Sybersue is an Informative No BS dating relationship show and advice column for millennials & gen-exers. In today’s weekly video and post I discuss Carries’ question:

Should I Tell My Best Friend I Have Feelings For Him?

Dear Sybersue,

I found you on YouTube and love your show! I like the fact that you are an older woman who has experienced so much in life. My mom passed away about 5 years ago and sometimes I feel very alone when dealing with love and relationships. I miss her wisdom.

My question for you is:

I am having strong feelings for my best friend Kevin who 31 years old.  I am 28 and have known him for just over a year. We see each other all the time as well as texting each other often throughout the day!

Just to be clear, I didn’t go into this with any expectations other than having a platonic friendship with him.

I wasn’t interested in a relationship at the time when we first met through our mutual friends, but we have so much in common that it’s changed the course of my initial feelings for him.

I am also very physically attracted to him! 

I am not sure how he feels about me although he does playfully flirt once in awhile; at the same time he seems to keep a careful distance from me. Does that make sense or am I being delusional? Perhaps wishful thinking on my part?

I don’t know how much longer I can go on pretending that we are just buddies but I don’t want to lose our amazing friendship either. We are both single and live in the same city so there isn’t anything standing in our way.

The chemistry I feel for Kevin is electric and sometimes I just want to rip his clothes off and throw him on the bed! I am surprised he can’t smell my raging pheromones hanging around him like a cat in heat!

Should I tell him how I am feeling about him or would that ruin everything? What if he doesn’t feel anything for me? What should I do?

Thanks Sybersue, Carrie 

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