Relationship Question: Would You Choose Your Partner All Over Again?

Relationship Question: Would You Choose Your Partner All Over Again?

Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating and relationship advice columnist for men and women. In today’s video above, Sybersue discusses the question; “Would you choose your partner all over again?”

You will be surprised by the answers many couples give! What would you say when asked this question? What do you do if the answer is no? Can you fix things in your relationship? Do you want to?

Over the years many couples become complacent and just give up trying to keep the romance alive in their relationship because too many things get in the way!

Time with the kids, careers and financial stress take a toll on partnerships and if you don’t know how to balance this, your bedroom will end up being a boring platonic place just for you to sleep!

When the sex fizzles so do many relationships!

Why do people think it is easier to give up on their relationship than to try to keep it in the intimate place it was years ago when they first met? Yes it’s a lot of work but so is everything in life!

Is it really a better idea to just live in a loveless partnership or to have to start over again and go back out to the online dating scenario of the millennium?

Are either of those great options?

If there is anything salvageable within your long term commitment, it is worth making things right. If you have grown in different directions and really feel that things are over, it is time to move on so that you both can be happy.

Staying together out of fear or laziness is not being fair to anyone and you are shortchanging yourself and your partner.

With a little effort on both parts, a couple can stay in a healthy and loving partnership. There are many people who make it work! Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to answer “yes” to the question; “Would you choose your partner all over again?”

Wouldn’t it feel great to know that you didn’t ignore your relationship and made it a priority over the years and that you taught your kids what love really is?

Consistency, communication, romance, respect and putting each other first are relationship enhancers. If you keep all of those important factors of your partnership alive and it is also reciprocated by them, you will see how smoothly the years flow lovingly by.

Why wouldn’t you give it your all?

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5 Attributes that Men Really Want in Their Partner

5 Attributes that Men Really Want in Their Partner

Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord (aka Dear Sybersue) gets many questions from her male viewers on her advice column and this topic “5 attributes that men want in their partner” is one of the biggest conversations of all.

Women think all men care about is sex but that isn’t true for most guys. They want a loving relationship just like women do.

They are tired of being categorized and want women to know what is really important to them. Dear Sybersue promised to do this video (above) on behalf of the numerous emails she received on the subject.

Many women have lost hope when it comes to finding a partnership and are incredibly frustrated with the whole dating scenario. Men feel the same way and this is now becoming a big negative environment with both sexes.

As Dr. Phil says “How’s that working for you?”

It’s not right? So what are you going to do; complain about what’s not working or change things up so that they do work?

How Do We Do That Ladies & Gentlemen?

  1. We stop repeating patterns that are causing us drama. Stop going for the unavailable hot bad boys or bad girls would be a great start. This situation is usually very short lived and while you may have one or two nights of wild sizzling sex, it can leave you feeling lonelier that before you dated them.
  2. Don’t give out TMI! Stop telling people every little thing about what makes you tick. Take your time divulging private things about yourself.
  3. Leave a little mystery so they want to find out more about you. I certainly don’t condone playing games with them but hold back some things until you know them better. You don’t even know if you like them yet so don’t give away all your fabulous secrets.
  4. Be authentic to who you are. No one likes to find out 3 months later that what they thought they had in common with you, was just a lie to keep them interested.
  5. No one is better than anyone else so if someone comes up to talk to you when you are out for the evening, acknowledge them. You may be shocked at how much you enjoy talking with them.
  6. Be aware of your body language and how you come across. I can’t believe how many men and women portray “resting bitch face” out there. Smile! 🙂
  7. If you have a bad date don’t become disillusioned with the whole process. Get back out there on a different horse.
  8. Stay positive! No one wants to hang out with Dick or Debbie Downer.
  9. Everyone has insecurities but don’t let them define you so that you sabotage a potential partnership.
  10. Be kind to everyone all the time. There is no room for arrogance, self entitlement, being high maintenance or too picky!
  11. Real love doesn’t come easy and is worth the wait. Be a little more patient and embrace all new opportunities that come your way. If it were too easy to find it wouldn’t be special would it?
  12. Lose the 12 page checklist. That person doesn’t exist!
  13. You have your own life so don’t lose sight of that by making someone your whole world. Don’t lose your identity to be with someone else.
  14. Be careful not to become a texting stalker. Too much too soon is a big turnoff.
  15. Learn from you dating mistakes, don’t repeat them, own your part in what didn’t work and always listen to your instincts.

While there are definitely some hurdles with dating in the millennium, they are things that are pretty cool as well. Social media tools can bring us together in a much bigger way if we use them correctly.

Life is not meant to be easy but it is how you handle “those annoying curveballs” that will bring you closer to being centered and present so that you can be the best YOU!

The quicker you move on from those obvious red flags will be when your new journey begins. When you meet that loving person to share your life with there are no deep dark questions. It just fits and flows beautifully. There is no drama and there are no BS games to deal with.

We all want love in our life and there is someone for everyone once we change our attitude and believe we deserve it.

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Thank you,

Sybersue

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Girl Power! Don’t Let Other Women Squash Your Achievements.

tGirl Power! Don't Let Other Women Squash Your Achievements.

It’s not easy being male or female in today’s world but it can be a little more difficult being a woman in some aspects.

There is so much pressure to look or act a certain way and female competition is at an all time high. It’s not just within the millennial group and their social media status; it is a problem with all age groups!

Yes, even mine!

You would think that the older you get the less drama you have to deal with but unfortunately this is not the case at all. It is how you handle it that will determine how much it actually effects you.

You have to get to a point in your life where you trust who you are and what choices you make in your short time here on this planet.

We are constantly worried about how people view us or how to deal with the gossip or negativity we hear about ourselves, that it actually causes more anxiety and depression than we are initially aware of.  It slowly creeps up like a bad pair of underwear.

Many women hide these feelings and eventually it erupts internally like a volcano. It can make you feel lonely, invalidated, squashed and ridiculed. Even with all the hype to stop bullying, it still happens on a regular basis.

  • It just might not be as obvious because the words are more like subtle digs.
  • There is lack of interest in your life.
  • There is very little support even though you are still supportive to them.
  • They are critical about some of your achievements or ignore them altogether even though you offer them praise towards theirs.
  • You are complimentary to them but it is seldom reciprocated.
  • They only call you when they need something but are not there for you when you have a problem.

You have to know when enough is enough.

Friendships and business partnerships shouldn’t be torturous to be in. They should be loving and reciprocated. When people tell you that you are too sensitive because you tell them you feel hurt by something they said, it is them who are being INSENSITIVE.

A true friend wouldn’t say hurtful things and certainly wouldn’t tell you to squash your feelings. If you end up in one-sided friendships you have to start looking in the mirror and ask yourself why you are letting these people into your life; because it’s not healthy.

When you learn to remove the people who are just there to use you or lean on you when they need you, eventually your life will start to feel less like a Real Housewives episode. There is no room for gossip, constant negativity or repetitive one-sided friendships!

Your feelings matter and it is not all about them. Don’t get caught in that trap where all you are doing is listening to their life dramatics and they could care less about your life.

You need balance and a healthy environment to feel at peace with yourself which means you need to surround yourself with like-minded people who understand the importance of this.

Be True to You and Never be Number Two. ❤

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

 

Dear Sybersue ~ Are Women Becoming More Sexually Experienced Than Men Today?

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Hi Sybersue,

I really liked your video about the double standards about the sexes. I do think things have changed though about casual sex. Me personally, I am just your average guy, with not so much charm. I have never been a player and I know for a fact that my past girlfriends had a lot more sexual experience than me and it never bothered me. I actually find it kind of hot. Do you think it’s becoming more normal today for a woman to have more sexual experience than the guy she ends up in a relationship with?

Thanks, Zack

Hi Zack,

Thanks for your message. I think that women today are definitely more experienced sexually than ever before. Part of the reason is that women have evolved on many levels over the last 50 years. It wasn’t that long ago that they were not allowed to vote & in many places in the world women are very much second class citizens.

There are so many online resources to help guide people who need knowledge in certain areas so women can refer to these websites/platforms anonymously & get all the information they need. In the past they were probably too embarrassed or not permitted to ask some of the questions they were curious about. It’s all available at the tips of our fingers today!

Women are the more emotional of the sexes as well so it is not surprising you have met women who are “literally” sexually in touch with themselves. Good for you to appreciate it & not be intimidated by them. That shows a wonderful maturity & acceptance on your part!

Statistically speaking, I am not sure whether many women have “more” sexual experience then men or not, but I do know that they are experimenting more now & sometimes with each other too.  The world has changed & we can always learn new things. Teachers come in all forms, which in my books is one of life’s great gifts that we should all welcome into our world. Being open minded & accepting of change will keep you on an innovative path. Enjoy!

Thanks for taking the time to write.

Sybersue ❤