It’s not easy being male or female in today’s world but it can be a little more difficult being a woman in some aspects.
There is so much pressure to look or act a certain way and female competition is at an all time high. It’s not just within the millennial group and their “selfie upload” social media status; it is a problem with all age groups!
Yes, even mine!
You would think that the older you get the less drama you have to deal with, but unfortunately this is not the case at all. It is how you handle it that will determine how much it actually effects you.
You have to get to a point in your life where you “trust who you are” and what choices you make in your short time here on this planet.
We are constantly worried about how people view us or how to deal with the gossip or negativity we hear about ourselves, that it actually causes more anxiety and depression than we are initially aware of.
It slowly creeps up like a bad pair of underwear.
Many women hide these feelings and eventually it erupts internally like a volcano. It can make you feel lonely, invalidated, squashed and ridiculed. Even with all the hype to stop bullying, it still happens on a regular basis.
What Are the Signs to Look Out for to Avoid Attracting These Women into Your Life?
- Negative feedback may not be really obvious to some people because the words are more like subtle digs or sarcasm. (I don’t like sarcasm in any form. It is just a mean person’s way of using humor at someone else’s expense.)
- There is lack of interest in you and what is going on in your life. They don’t ask because they don’t care or might be envious of any success you have.
- They offer very little support for you even though you are very supportive to them.
- They are critical about some of your achievements or ignore them altogether, even though you offer them praise towards theirs.
- You are complimentary to them but it is seldom reciprocated.
- They only call you when they need something but are not there for you when you have a problem.
- You have heard from others that they have spoken negatively about you or shared some private information.
- They play both sides of the fence and throw you under the bus in certain gossipy scenarios.
You have to know when enough is enough.
Friendships and business partnerships shouldn’t be torturous to be in. They should be harmonious, respectful and reciprocated. When people tell you that you are too sensitive because you tell them you feel hurt by something they said, it is them who are being INSENSITIVE.
A true friend wouldn’t say hurtful things and certainly wouldn’t tell you to squash your feelings. They would validate your feelings just as you would do so for them. If you end up in one-sided friendships you have to start looking in the mirror and ask yourself why you are letting these people into your life; because it’s not healthy.
When you learn to remove the people who are just there to use you or lean on you when they need you, eventually your life will start to feel less like a Real Housewives episode. There is no room for gossip, constant negativity or repetitive one-sided friendships!
Your feelings matter and it is not all about them. Don’t get caught in that trap where all you are doing is listening to their life dramatics and they could care less about your life.
You need balance and a healthy environment to feel at peace with yourself which means you need to surround yourself with like-minded people who understand the importance of this.
Be True to You and Never be Number Two. <3
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show