Stop Being Mean on Social Media!

Stop Being Mean on Social Media! This repetitive behavior is really damaging to people’s self-esteem.

Today on Dear Sybersue I want to talk about this ongoing problem that is affecting so many people and their well-being. We are all spending much more time online today (especially while we are dealing with the pandemic) and not everyone is enjoying this new exposure.

Many men and women are working from home and they are now marketing themselves and their businesses online. We are also more visible on social media platforms due to the ongoing social distancing we have had to endure since March 2020! This isn’t a happy place for All people and can be a very uncomfortable atmosphere for some.

There is so much angry venting going on right now and most of it isn’t very constructive.

It is one thing to give out your strong opinion but it is another thing altogether when it is delivered with a vindictive nastiness. Being overly critical to someone you probably don’t even know, is not a kind, or productive way to get your message across.

Just look at the backlash Prince Harry and Meghan Markle are receiving and this was long before they were interviewed on Oprah.

I am blown away by the hatred that is spewed out over numerous social media platforms on a daily basis when it comes to these two. Ugh, I personally can’t even imagine what it would be like being a part of The Royal Family, and nor would I ever want to be! Who wants to follow strict formal rules or being told how to behave and present themselves in a certain way?

Harry is his own person and always has been a bit of a shit disturber so why do so many people think that he is whipped by his wife and everything is her fault? Harry beats to his own drum and he has verbalized his viewpoint in many interviews. No one really knows what they went through but the judgmental comments are over the top.


If you have something to say, say it in a positive way.

It is much more effective to give feedback that is healthy and actually helpful. The nicer you are to others, the more like-minded people will gravitate towards you. It is a boomerang effect; whatever you put out you will get back.

How would you feel if you were regularly being ridiculed online? We have all heard the line from our teachers or parents; “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything!” What reward does someone get out of hurting another person by being verbally abusive?

I know for myself whenever I have said anything questionable in the past, the guilt killed me until I apologized. Being mean doesn’t even make you feel good for 2 minutes but it sure feels great when you write something positive under someone’s social media post!

Try not to retaliate in negative verbal dialogue to a bully on your social media.

As a mature woman on YouTube and many other social media platforms, I have had my share of negative feedback over the years. I am not going to say that it doesn’t bother me at all, but I have learned to look at the source of some of those comments.

Most of them do not even have a profile photo and there is evident anger from something that they are dealing with! I usually retaliate with something that makes them think, rather than fuel the fire.

Just because someone is putting themself out there in a social sense, it doesn’t mean that they are fair game for people to throw their hurtful comments at.

Yes, I understand that there are some people looking for any type of reaction and “their few minutes of fame” but the majority of people are just sharing a part of their life or work-related posts. If you are receiving a lot of negative comments on your social media and it is causing you a lot of anxiety or sadness, take a break from it for a while or be careful with what you post on a personal note.

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Many people who lash out towards others are often not happy with something going on (or not going on) in their own world. Then there are those who just love controversy and stirring things up in other people’s lives. Whatever the case, it is not pleasant to be on the receiving end of their wrath.

For example in my business; if someone has been really hurt by a cheating partner they may start to paint everyone as a cheater and have huge trust issues. They may express their angry feelings on dating sites, blog comments, or other social media sites due to the pain they are feeling.

Unfortunately, all they are doing is hurting themself and repelling any potential partner away from them. Misery loves company and that is what you attract when you are miserable and unhappy. More of the same.

We all see the damage that political differences can cause! Just look at the unrest happening in so many countries today and the harsh criticism that is constantly portrayed on those political platforms. Regardless of whether it is out of anger, jealousy, or insecurities, it can be pretty brutal to be the brunt of someone’s hateful scorn!

When you are generally happy and you have a purpose in your life, you don’t spend time looking for things to pick apart in other people. You’re too busy putting your energy into positive scenarios and you just don’t have time for trivial drama.

Try posting only nice comments for a few weeks and see what happens. Don’t get caught up in having an opinion about a celebrity and how they may be living their life. You don’t know them! The media spins things to get a story so you can’t believe every little thing that is written.

Read articles that are meaningful to you and take the time to comment by writing something kind to the author. Even if you are having a stressful day or you’re going through a difficult time in your life, sharing positive feedback will not only make you feel better, but you will start to recieve possitivity in return.

Please watch the video above and leave your comments below this post. Thank you so much!

Sybersue xo <3

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