It can be difficult to get yourself back together after a difficult relationship ends. Sometimes even in abusive relationships we allow them to go on too long and in the process affect us negatively.
It’s not always easy to see the pain that someone has inflicted on you. It might be even harder to see because you are complicit in the blame. Still, ruminating on what went wrong and what might have been, is not the best way to handle it.
Dealing with your internal strife and taking the steps to change and heal your pain can be the best allocation of your time right now. It might even rival working hard at your career in the form of overtime and burying yourself in duties, as it takes time for the body and mind to recuperate to its original state.
Healing after a painful relationship is not easy, but it can be done and maybe sooner than you think. The following tips should give you easily applicable advice to help you out of this difficulty.
Accepting that you’ll feel pretty devastated for a number of weeks or months is the most mature thinking you can start out with. It allows you to truly face the scope of the pain you might have to deal with to heal properly.
If you’re feeling sad and try to bury those feelings, then you’ll only suppress them temporarily. You can be sure that they’ll come flooding back at a later date. Accepting your feelings allows you clarity. Sometimes, simply feeling the emotions allows you to process them, because they become a reality rather than something you keep hidden away.
Treating yourself is important. Remember, there is only one you. Financial success, fame, competence and all other factors that you may have in your life, might mean little to you right now. They don’t have hold of your heart; but those are the things that make you you, so be sure to give yourself the time to indulge in them.
Treat yourself to something you have always wanted to do. Blasting yourself out of your comfort zone and into a place of adventure can help you feel less like a victim and more like someone able to take proactive authority over your life.
It might mean taking out guaranteed approval personal loans to fund a vacation for now, as you schedule the repayments for later. Make yourself the priority. You deserve to fall back in love with yourself, as you are the only person who can truly heal you.
Meet New People
There are seven billion people on this planet. That means that feeling hung up on one person is neglecting the majority of the human race. Who knows what stunning memories you could craft with someone across the world in five years from now?
The only way you’ll get to know is if you go out there and visit places you otherwise might not. Explore and try to connect with people from all walks of life. New friendships and (when you’re ready,) new relationships could be just around the corner!
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show