Dear Sybersue discusses one of the biggest relationship problems of all…Dealing with the In-laws!
Your own family isn’t always compatible but what happens when you don’t get along with your partners family? What is they key to keeping your relationship healthy when there is constant drama within the in-law dynamics?
Is there a jealousy or control issue? Why wouldn’t everyone want to get along?
Have you discussed this problem with your partner and do they hear your concerns? A relationship consists of many different compromises but you have to hear what is being said to keep it in a happy place.
Are you keeping things to yourself so you don’t rock the boat? Do you think that if you stay quiet about your true feelings about your in-laws or how you are being treated that this will save your relationship?
Don’t be afraid to open up and talk about things rather than pretending it’s OK in family land. It will eventually eat at your inner core and self worth which will start to show in other ways.
Ignoring or shrugging off family issues because you think this is a common occurrence and they need to just suck it up, is not the answer. Believe it or not, there are many couples who get along famously with their in-laws! It’s not all doom and gloom and they can be a wonderful addition to the family you already have, or may have lost along the way.
You and your partner fell in love for a reason and you need to be there for each other every step of the way. Don’t shut them out if they are sharing their emotional stress with you. They need to know you care and that you are hearing what they say.
You may not realize that your parents have a problem with your partner; as they may not behave negatively towards them in front of you. There are always two sides to a story so make sure you hear both of them before you pass judgment.
There may be a very simple misunderstanding that could be fixed.
Whatever the case, validate your partners concerns and get to the root of the issue. It’s worth it and may save your marriage. Repetitive family problems can break up even the strongest relationships over time. Don’t let that happen to you. <3
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show