5 Attributes that Men Really Want in Their Partner

5 Attributes that Men Really Want in Their Partner

Canadian Talk Show Host Susan McCord (aka Dear Sybersue) gets many questions from her male viewers on her advice column and this topic “5 attributes that men want in their partner” is one of the biggest conversations of all.

Women think all men care about is sex but that isn’t true for most guys. They want a loving relationship just like women do.

They are tired of being categorized and want women to know what is really important to them. Dear Sybersue promised to do this video (above) on behalf of the numerous emails she received on the subject.

Many women have lost hope when it comes to finding a partnership and are incredibly frustrated with the whole dating scenario. Men feel the same way and this is now becoming a big negative environment with both sexes.

As Dr. Phil says “How’s that working for you?”

It’s not right? So what are you going to do; complain about what’s not working or change things up so that they do work?

How Do We Do That Ladies & Gentlemen?

  1. We stop repeating patterns that are causing us drama. Stop going for the unavailable hot bad boys or bad girls would be a great start. This situation is usually very short lived and while you may have one or two nights of wild sizzling sex, it can leave you feeling lonelier that before you dated them.
  2. Don’t give out TMI! Stop telling people every little thing about what makes you tick. Take your time divulging private things about yourself.
  3. Leave a little mystery so they want to find out more about you. I certainly don’t condone playing games with them but hold back some things until you know them better. You don’t even know if you like them yet so don’t give away all your fabulous secrets.
  4. Be authentic to who you are. No one likes to find out 3 months later that what they thought they had in common with you, was just a lie to keep them interested.
  5. No one is better than anyone else so if someone comes up to talk to you when you are out for the evening, acknowledge them. You may be shocked at how much you enjoy talking with them.
  6. Be aware of your body language and how you come across. I can’t believe how many men and women portray “resting bitch face” out there. Smile! 🙂
  7. If you have a bad date don’t become disillusioned with the whole process. Get back out there on a different horse.
  8. Stay positive! No one wants to hang out with Dick or Debbie Downer.
  9. Everyone has insecurities but don’t let them define you so that you sabotage a potential partnership.
  10. Be kind to everyone all the time. There is no room for arrogance, self entitlement, being high maintenance or too picky!
  11. Real love doesn’t come easy and is worth the wait. Be a little more patient and embrace all new opportunities that come your way. If it were too easy to find it wouldn’t be special would it?
  12. Lose the 12 page checklist. That person doesn’t exist!
  13. You have your own life so don’t lose sight of that by making someone your whole world. Don’t lose your identity to be with someone else.
  14. Be careful not to become a texting stalker. Too much too soon is a big turnoff.
  15. Learn from you dating mistakes, don’t repeat them, own your part in what didn’t work and always listen to your instincts.

While there are definitely some hurdles with dating in the millennium, they are things that are pretty cool as well. Social media tools can bring us together in a much bigger way if we use them correctly.

Life is not meant to be easy but it is how you handle “those annoying curveballs” that will bring you closer to being centered and present so that you can be the best YOU!

The quicker you move on from those obvious red flags will be when your new journey begins. When you meet that loving person to share your life with there are no deep dark questions. It just fits and flows beautifully. There is no drama and there are no BS games to deal with.

We all want love in our life and there is someone for everyone once we change our attitude and believe we deserve it.

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Thank you,

Sybersue

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My In-laws are Causing Problems in my Relationship!

My In-laws are Causing Problems in my Relationship!

Dear Sybersue discusses one of the biggest relationship problems of all…Dealing with the In-laws!

Your own family isn’t always compatible but what happens when you don’t get along with your partners family? What is they key to keeping your relationship healthy when there is constant drama within the in-law dynamics?

Is there a jealousy or control issue? Why wouldn’t everyone want to get along?

Have you discussed this problem with your  partner and do they hear your concerns? A relationship consists of many different compromises but you have to hear what is being said to keep it in a happy place.

Are you keeping things to yourself so you don’t rock the boat? Do you think that if you stay quiet about your true feelings about your in-laws or how you are being treated that this will save your relationship?

Don’t be afraid to open up and talk about things rather than pretending it’s OK in family land. It will eventually eat at your inner core and self worth which will start to show in other ways.

Ignoring or shrugging off family issues because you think this is a common occurrence and they need to just suck it up, is not the answer. Believe it or not, there are many couples who get along famously with their in-laws! It’s not all doom and gloom and they can be a wonderful addition to the family you already have, or may have lost along the way.

You and your partner fell in love for a reason and you need to be there for each other every step of the way. Don’t shut them out if they are sharing their emotional stress with you. They need to know you care and that you are hearing what they say.

You may not realize that your parents have a problem with your partner; as they may not behave negatively towards them in front of you. There are always two sides to a story so make sure you hear both of them before you pass judgment.

There may be a very simple misunderstanding that could be fixed.

Whatever the case, validate your partners concerns and get to the root of the issue. It’s worth it and may save your marriage. Repetitive family problems can break up even the strongest relationships over time. Don’t let that happen to you. ❤

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

 

Girl Power! Don’t Let Other Women Squash Your Achievements.

tGirl Power! Don't Let Other Women Squash Your Achievements.

It’s not easy being male or female in today’s world but it can be a little more difficult being a woman in some aspects.

There is so much pressure to look or act a certain way and female competition is at an all time high. It’s not just within the millennial group and their social media status; it is a problem with all age groups!

Yes, even mine!

You would think that the older you get the less drama you have to deal with but unfortunately this is not the case at all. It is how you handle it that will determine how much it actually effects you.

You have to get to a point in your life where you trust who you are and what choices you make in your short time here on this planet.

We are constantly worried about how people view us or how to deal with the gossip or negativity we hear about ourselves, that it actually causes more anxiety and depression than we are initially aware of.  It slowly creeps up like a bad pair of underwear.

Many women hide these feelings and eventually it erupts internally like a volcano. It can make you feel lonely, invalidated, squashed and ridiculed. Even with all the hype to stop bullying, it still happens on a regular basis.

  • It just might not be as obvious because the words are more like subtle digs.
  • There is lack of interest in your life.
  • There is very little support even though you are still supportive to them.
  • They are critical about some of your achievements or ignore them altogether even though you offer them praise towards theirs.
  • You are complimentary to them but it is seldom reciprocated.
  • They only call you when they need something but are not there for you when you have a problem.

You have to know when enough is enough.

Friendships and business partnerships shouldn’t be torturous to be in. They should be loving and reciprocated. When people tell you that you are too sensitive because you tell them you feel hurt by something they said, it is them who are being INSENSITIVE.

A true friend wouldn’t say hurtful things and certainly wouldn’t tell you to squash your feelings. If you end up in one-sided friendships you have to start looking in the mirror and ask yourself why you are letting these people into your life; because it’s not healthy.

When you learn to remove the people who are just there to use you or lean on you when they need you, eventually your life will start to feel less like a Real Housewives episode. There is no room for gossip, constant negativity or repetitive one-sided friendships!

Your feelings matter and it is not all about them. Don’t get caught in that trap where all you are doing is listening to their life dramatics and they could care less about your life.

You need balance and a healthy environment to feel at peace with yourself which means you need to surround yourself with like-minded people who understand the importance of this.

Be True to You and Never be Number Two. ❤

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show

 

Are You Secretly Pining for Your EX While You’re in Another Relationship?

Are You Secretly Pining for Your EX While You’re in Another Relationship?

In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses the subject that many of us have dealt with over the years; Trying to get over an EX but secretly still missing them while you are in another relationship.

Getting involved too soon after a breakup can be a big problem as your heart is still holding on to your past relationship. You may not have had proper closure with your EX and memories start popping up all over the place when things aren’t perfect in the new partnership.

It is very important not to take past baggage into your new relationship or it will cause trust issues down the road. When you are not emotionally available your partner will eventually feel the absence of not having  your undivided attention.

They can tell when you are removed from them, especially in the bedroom!

Always take time to deal with past relationship breakups or your love life will be a vicious circle of repetitive short lived scenarios.  It’s not fair to anyone including yourself. Don’t let pride get in the way of finding the answers to help you move on.

You broke up for a reason but you need to understand that reason before your heart can be repaired. ❤

What actions have you taken to get over your EX so that you can move on to find love with someone else? Please leave your comments below this post to help others move on faster from a breakup.

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Relationship Sabotage: Are you Hiding Your Feelings and Thoughts From Your Partner?

Relationship Sabotage: Are you Hiding Your Feelings and Thoughts From Your Partner?

Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating and relationship advice columnist for men & women of all Ages!

In today’s video Sybersue talks about people who are afraid to be themselves with their partners and who may be sabotaging their relationships without even being aware of the damage that is taking place on a daily basis.

When you hide your feelings and don’t divulge much of what you are thinking or feeling to your partner it can cause all sorts of problems that may never be resolved. Lack of communication between a couple is one of the biggest reasons for breakups today!

If you don’t talk openly with each other, what type of relationship do you have?

Pushing your partner away because of insecurities will not keep your relationship in a healthy place. How do you honestly think it will improve if you become more and more introverted about your true feelings?

They deserve more respect and your full attention. You are not in a part time situation that allows you to close down and shut your partner out. They have emotional and physical needs that shouldn’t be put on the back burner.

How long do you think they will want to stay in a one sided romance?

You fell in love for a reason; don’t let your relationship die due to fear, sabotage or laziness. Talk to your partner and tell them what’s going on inside your head. They will probably be more supportive than you think!

When you open up and share your feelings with them they know you trust them, which is a big part of a great relationship. Clamming up and pretending all is good, is not being true to yourself or to them.  You both deserve more.

Go on, you can fix this! ❤

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Are You Single but Your Friends are Pressuring you to be in a Relationship?

Are You Single but Your Friends are Pressuring you to be in a Relationship?

In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses; “Are you Constantly being pressured by your friends to be in a relationship?”

Do people think they know what is best for you? Are they always trying to set you up with someone but you just want to be left alone?

Does your family also put in their opinions about your relationship status?

It might to be time to tell everyone to butt out if you enjoy being single right now! It’s not their business to be telling you what they think you should or shouldn’t be doing in your life even if they they think they have your best interest at heart. ❤

We all need time to get over a relationship breakup and allow love back into our lives. Sometimes the scars of heartbreak run deep and we need more time to rediscover ourselves without any pressure from others.

It also could be the scenario of putting your career first and you don’t want to complicate your life having to deal with both. Sometimes you just can’t do it all and you know that about yourself. It’s better than juggling too much and giving your partner the dregs of what you have left! No one wants to be that low on the priority list.

This is a good thing because you are respecting and honoring your boundaries at this particular time in your life. 

But on the opposite side of the fence; make sure you aren’t sending out mixed signals to your friends about not wanting to get back out in the dating market again. You might not be aware that you are confiding to them that you are actually missing being in a relationship, how difficult it is being the 3rd wheel or that you feel so alone going solo to a wedding or other events.

It is a great thing that your friends and family care about you so don’t be mad at them for wanting you to find happiness. It is OK to gently communicate that you are very appreciative of their support but you would rather meet someone on your own when the time is right.

Have you had to deal with this scenario? How did you handle it?

Please leave your comments below. ♥

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Family Isn’t Always Everything and Can be Toxic to Your Love Relationships

Family Isn’t Always Everything and Can be Toxic to Your Love Relationships

Dear Sybersue discusses how difficult family dynamics can be sometimes and how much of a negative impact it can have on your personal life when there is continual drama.

You can keep trying to make things right but constantly having to deal with unhealthy family dysfunction, abandonment or alienation takes a big toll on your heart and self worth.

This causes a boomerang effect on many other decisions you make on a day to day basis which can become a big problem! It can also interfere with your love relationships and your confidence.

Family doesn’t always have to mean “blood related” and there are other loving people you can surround yourself with. ❤

Holidays or special occasions don’t have to be lonely if you have lost loved ones or have become estranged with family members.  You are not alone as there are many other people dealing with this same scenario.

Don’t get caught in a vicious circle of “living with the toxic drama” because you will never be able to get away from the toll this takes on your well being. So many people think they have to just accept this behavior because it’s family. I disagree if it is causing you to be unbalanced and very unhappy.

The more you put yourself into this unloving environment the more you will dwell on it. This will become the foundation of your soul. You will always feel lost and unaccepted.

You are not defined by who your family is or how they act!

Surround yourself with others who have an open heart and do not spend time with people who shut you out. I promise you will be happier!

I know this from personal experience.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show