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Why is My New Girlfriend Always Late for Our Dates?

Why is My New Girlfriend Always Late for Our Dates?

Today we discuss Dane’s question. This scenario seems to be happening a lot with dating today. It is not OK to keep someone waiting when you have a set time to meet up with them!

First impressions are so important

Even though you may have a lot of great things in common with someone new that you’re attracted to, being compulsively late can end up being a huge deal-breaker.

Not only is it rude for your girlfriend to make you sit around waiting for her to show up, but she also expects you to. Her life is just so much busier than yours righhhht?

Some people actually think that it is fashionable to make a late entrance but all it really does is annoy the ones who sit around looking at their watches every 10 minutes.

Great human etiquette will make you stand out

We all want to be treated well so being kind, considerate, and communicative from the first minute you meet someone, will leave a warmth that makes them want to see you again. There is no BS and no game playing.

In this me/me world of today, those men and women who show class and good manners will always be held in high esteem and fare much better in the dating world. Word gets around and so does ones’ reputation!

It is imperative for you to respect other people’s time but also for you to have respect for your own time so that you’re not constantly sitting around waiting for someone who is always late. You don’t want to be taken for granted due to your easy-going nature.

Dane, her time is NOT more valuable than yours! It is not a reciprocated partnership when you allow yourself to end up at the bottom of the priority list.

In the early stages of a new relationship, it is important to have basic expectations and some boundaries

Many people show their true character early on in the first few dates but we don’t always pay close attention due to overwhelming sexual chemistry that takes over our common sense. You know what I’m talking about, we’ve all been there! Those damn pheromones!

When it comes time to think about sharing your life with a potential partner you need to go in with both eyes open. If there are repetitive annoyances that keep happening every time you get together, it will slowly start to kill any attraction that you had in the beginning.

Making you wait for her on every date is a passive-aggressive way of her controlling your time together. She is making up her own rules and she continues to practice this because you are allowing this important thing to be overlooked.

Tell her how you feel (don’t just hope she will grow out of it)

OK, let’s give her the benefit of the doubt for one minute and assume that she doesn’t realize how her lateness is becoming a big red flag for you. Be honest and tell her you do not appreciate being kept waiting every time you have a date arranged with her. If she apologizes and quickly changes her ways then maybe you can salvage a connection with her.

She could just really need some time management counseling?!

You also have the option to just get up and leave the next time she is more than 10 minutes late. She will get a taste of what it is like to be left sitting alone wondering why she isn’t a priority to you. It’s definitely not a nice feeling when someone that you are seeing doesn’t even have the courtesy to let you know they are running late before you are already waiting at the specified rendezvous.

If she becomes defensive and continues this self-absorbed behavior then things will probably always end up being on her terms and her time frame. Some people just don’t seem to get it.

This is the time to decide if this is something you are willing to accept in your partnership. Letting it go on for months when it is truly bothering you is not being fair to yourself. You get reminded of her disrespect every time you get together and it definitely won’t set the mood for a romantic evening.

You know what works for you Dane, don’t sell yourself short, and don’t settle for less than you deserve.

Sybersue xo <3

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