In the video above Matthew Hussey talks about how to stop playing the waiting game after a date. Many women become very anxious when they are hoping to hear back from a guy they just dated.
I agree with what Matthew says and as a mature woman I would like to add that any guy you have to play the waiting game with, is not worth your time! This is a big red flag! I learned this lesson early in my life.
If there is a great connection between the two of you they “can’t wait” to see you again!
You should always have a purpose in your life and being busy won’t allow you to get caught up in over-thinking everything with any guy that you date. There is also the other side of the coin where they come in wayyyy too fast, which is also not good. (“In fast, out fast!” Why? Because they freak themselves out with how fast it’s going! Go figure.)
When a relationship has potential, it flows and there aren’t a lot of questions because you have a respectful reciprocated communication and chemistry with each other.
Men like it when women have a full life and don’t come across as needy or too available. They don’t want a yes girl for a long term commitment and if they do go for that type what does that say about them?
Well… you know how that will eventually turn out.
A relationship needs balance and there is no room for a controlling person who calls all of the shots. If you have to try to figure out whether a guy likes you, he’s seriously just not interested enough.
Believe me, you will know if he is!
Dating today doesn’t mean hanging around waiting for one guy to get back to you. You can open up your “dance card” and date others as well. If you’re NOT exclusive with them, you don’t owe them anything and can date whomever you want.
That is the beauty of dating in the millennium; you won’t have time wondering if they will call or text you back, because you will be too busy to notice!
Trust me when I say that when the right one comes along you will know it. ❤
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Advice Talk Show
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This video above by Matthew Hussey discusses what to do when a guy flakes out on your date at the last minute. His advice is spot on!
The only thing I would have added to his input is to tell the woman that she shouldn’t have texted the guy after he bailed on their date. She texted him a few days later asking him how he was.
If you really want to know if someone is interested in you, let them show you!
After someone disrespects you and blows you off with a terrible last minute excuse, why would you want to see them again? They showed their true colors and who they really are.
If you are kind enough to give them a second chance, it’s up to them to make it up to you. If you become the aggressor in this situation, you will never know if he is truly interested in you or just texting back because you make it easy for him.
If he had called or texted with an apology the next day and scheduled another date that is one thing, but texting him back first without having any etiquette expectations shows that you have very little respect for yourself. That is what dating is all about; seeing if there is not only a connection but also paying attention to the red flags that happen early on.
When a date flakes on you or ghosts you on the first few dates without a valid reason you need to remove yourself from having any further contact. First impressions make or break that second date and in this case you can do much better.
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
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Ladies you can find love at any age by getting out there and participating in things that you enjoy doing! Meeting both men and women can bring you into different circles which will ultimately improve your social life. The more people you interact with will offer more opportunities into your world. That’s a good thing! Don’t wait for things to happen, make them happen! ❤ Dear Sybersue
Another great video by Popular Dating Coach Matthew Hussey:
I can’t tell you how many women have asked me the same question: “Why do I only seem to EVER meet guys that are completely the wrong age for me?”
Or to put it more simply (as one client asked me): “Where are all the great, single, 40-year old men hiding??”
Like it or not, we all know that age is a factor in dating. But so many people waste years moaning about where they are in life (I’m too old, I’m too young…) instead of doing something about it.
Often it’s not about age at all. We use that as our crutch, when really, if we’re truly honest with ourselves, maybe we just aren’t being pro-active enough right now and investing in the CRUCIAL STRATEGIES that would bring us closer to finding love.
So in this week’s video above, I’m going to share some down-to-earth, PRACTICAL tips for finding a guy no matter what age you are
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Are you good enough? https://youtu.be/YgPK4lqMq0Y
2 ways to approach a guy: https://youtu.be/O8dZEZGBIEo
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I laughed out loud when I saw Matthew’s One Direction Parody video on YouTube! Not only did he do a great job lip syncing, he pointed out some valuable information about the lyrics of this popular song and what they really mean. The name of the song; “The Perfect Guy” is not what the video portrays that’s for sure!
The boy band One Direction, is a huge success and just won artist of the year on the AMA (American Music Awards) this week which is why it is important to point out what they are actually saying to millions of young female fans in this song. The message here girls is to REALLY listen to what a guy is saying to you because more often than not, they do tell you what they want and what they don’t want when they first meet you!
Here are the lyrics to The Perfect Guy:
If you hear comments like these listed below, listen to them because this is what a guy wants you to hear:
- I’m not looking for a relationship.
- I’m very busy and don’t have a lot of time to give you right now.
- I just got out of a relationship so I want to date others as well.
- I don’t want kids.
- I don’t ever want to get married.
- I’m a confirmed bachelor.
- I don’t trust women!
- I want to travel and I am not sure where I want to settle yet.
- I’ve got 4 more years of school and that is my priority.
- I’m just looking for a casual hook up.
Contrary to what many heartbroken women say about a guy who breaks up with them for one of these reasons; he did tell you what he wanted in the beginning but you chose to hear it the way you wanted to interpret it. So many women think they can “be the one” to change his mind!
This is a common scenario and a big frustration with men. Ladies; if a man says any of the above comments to you when you first meet him and you are looking for a commitment, walk the other way! Don’t spend time trying to lure him into your charming web if he has already told you he wants to date others, he’s not ready for a commitment or he can only see you sporadically. Move on to someone who is ready and has the same relationship goals that you do.
Timing is everything and so is self respect! Be true to yourself and always listen to what a person is really saying. Don’t twist their words to make it what you want to hear. Put your energy into someone who is ready for love and not into the guy who is still in the outfield playing ball. You will save yourself a Hell of a lot of heartache; I promise you that!
Thank you Matthew Hussey for another great video and reminder to the ladies out there in “Date Land” to pay attention!
Susan McCord at The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
Many people out there know I love Matthew Hussey and his viewpoint when it comes to all things relationships & dating. In this video he has a guest; Author Lewis Howes. Matthew seldom has people on his show but I enjoy it when he does!
In this video they discuss how to love being single and appreciating it when you are flying solo. I talk a lot about it in my own show and have done many blogs on this topic as well. You can never hear it enough as it can be a tough thing for people who are in a relationship transition or who have difficulty dating due to shyness or insecurities.
Learning how to enjoy being by yourself and be comfortable in your own skin will also bring you closer to finding love down the road. People enjoy being around others who are happy and confident. This type of energy is addictive and acts like a white light of encouragement. If you are doing the things that you love, you will exude a natural fearlessness and faith in yourself that you may not even realize you are presenting. This is a very attractive quality!
Learning what makes you happy and acting upon it regularly will always keep you in a great state of mind. Relying on a partner to make your life better is not the answer. Rely on yourself first and don’t expect someone to be the only source of your happiness.
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Today’s Guest Video is from “Matthew Hussey who is the world’s leading dating expert for women. He has coached millions of women around the world to help them get the love lives of their dreams. He’s a New York Times bestselling author, has his own national radio show, is a monthly relationship advice columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine and the resident love expert on The Today Show.”
This video is very true about how many single people react or I should say “don’t react” when they are out for the evening. As I said in my blog post Get off Your Bar Stool & Talk Talking to Each Other people have to start making an effort to simply say hello to each other!
We ALL have insecurities, fears and doubts and as Matthew Hussey said, we are all thinking the same things! Just knowing this, should help our confidence levels because every last one of has these similarities! No one is immune to feeling rejection or loneliness in their life at one time or another but to just sit back and not take chances is not going to change your love life! I cannot tell you how many times that saying hello has opened the doors to wonderful situations in my life over the years.
If you are really shy just take baby steps with people you might not necessarily be attracted to but find interesting in some way. Or just say hi to a stranger you pass in the gym or a coffee shop. After a while it just becomes second nature and a daily ritual. Why would we go out of our way to ignore someone in the same room as us? It doesn’t make sense! The big problem of course is all the gadgets we have attached ourselves to over the last 15 years and communication is becoming a lost art. But oh…we are comfortable saying whatever we feel behind our computer which is not always a good thing!
Don’t be angry and defensive because you are not meeting someone, change it up and make an effort. If you come across standoffish or unapproachable, people will not gravitate towards you. You will end up in a vicious circle and become even more jaded about dating, I agree so much with Matthew regarding this video but men should also use the same approach with women. Both sexes need to start talking to each other again and quit worrying about the “what ifs!” Why not?????
Susan McCord @ Dear Sybersue YouTube Talk Show