Today’s modern woman has taken on a lot more responsibility than ever before & is now learning how to balance a career, motherhood, household upkeep & maintaining a loving relationship! How is it possible to evenly divide the attention to each one of these daily occurrences?
Do not forget about YOU ~ Your happiness is priority #1 to keeping everything flowing!
Being a Mom is not Just all About the Kids; You Count Too:
• Take time to exercise & follow a healthy eating plan. Looking and feeling good will keep your self-worth intact. Many women let themselves go as they do not schedule time for their health & end up feeling unattractive from neglecting their bodies & emotional well being. If you can’t get to the gym, buy an inexpensive second hand stationary bike & some weights that you can use at home. YouTube also has so many videos that can help you maintain a fitness regime without any membership fees.
• Nurture your friendships even if it means getting 10 women together at one time every month due to time restrictions.
• Don’t feel guilty if you have to work to provide a home for your children, they don’t need to see you every moment. It builds character for children to be around others & not always just family.
• Treat yourself to something you enjoy at least once a month & budget accordingly: Have a pedicure, go to a movie, go shopping at consignment stores or take a book & sit outside a coffee shop for some alone time. Literally get out and smell the flowers!
• Don’t allow your days to become too routine or mundane. Keep your life diverse by doing interesting things that may be a little of out of your comfort zone. Your children are learning new things every day and so should you. Take an online course, start up a blog, or try a new sport. When you have other passions in life it gives you a purpose and something to look forward to. When mom is a happy, the kids are happy.
How to Make Child Rearing A Little Easier:
• Give your children chores; do not take everything ALL on yourself. Even at a very young age, kids like to feel needed by helping mom. (Don’t be a martyr by taking it all on & then complaining you have no time, or allowing the kids to be too needy by doting on their every demand.)
• When you are feeling overwhelmed ASK for help from family or mother’s groups. (This is especially important for single mothers.)
• Babysitting doesn’t have to be expensive: Find someone who has children that you can exchange weekends or evenings with, so you can have time with your spouse/partner to go out on a date or attend a social event.
• Hire a high school student to assist with your child’s homework occasionally; it will be well worth the hourly wage every few weeks.
• Ask your partner for assistance; tell them how helpful it is for you, rather than constantly telling them what they “don’t do to help you.”
• Allow your children “one” sport/activity per season. Running yourself ragged trying to be everywhere does not actually give you quality time with them and it can be extremely hard on them too.
• Give your children 2 options with clothing choices, weekend activities, homework compromises, TV or gaming times etc. They like to think that they are making the decision once in awhile. (Even though the two choices are made by you.)
• Do not allow your children to ever talk back, swear at you, hit you or talk down to you. They learn how to manipulate their parents at a very early age which is a difficult behavior to reverse. Discipline is not something to ignore; kids need boundaries and guidance!
Making Time for Love & Your Relationship
Do not put your spouse last; always have a date night planned once a week. Keep a calendar that the whole family can see, so everyone is on the same page with what the weekly schedule holds. If you have to travel for work, try to leave enough space between days gone & days home so you can re-connect with your partner & children. (Two days feels like eternity to them!)
Always make an effort to look good for yourself & for your partner. Becoming complacent in your appearance can be a detriment to your marriage down the road. It doesn’t take more than 15 minutes to freshen up your sexiness. Don’t get lazy when it comes to spicing things up for your other half. You fell in love for a reason, don’t forget why.
Never put your partner last on the priority list. Remind yourself daily that you would not be blessed with a family if the two of you hadn’t met & fell in love.
Sex is an important part of a relationship and keeps the love alive for years to come. Don’t disregard this with excuses that you are too tired or too busy all the time. It doesn’t have to be a 2 hour ordeal every time you end up in the bedroom.
Acknowledging your partner and showing them you’re attracted to them will help get you through those really tough times. Never lose sight of how important it is to keep the fires burning between the two of you.
The biggest regret couples have as their children grow up, is forgetting how to love each other.
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