Is My Relationship Normal?

Every couple’s idea of normal can vary. Generally speaking, if you have to ask this question, something may have shifted within your partnership. This shift will make you feel uncomfortable.

Are you becoming nervous or fearful due to some of these changes transpiring at home?

1. Do you or your partner feel restless or bored?
2. Is your partner trying new things without you? Are they suggesting you join them to try things out of your comfort zone?
3. Are you walking on eggshells so as not to upset your partner?
4. Are you now behaving more like estranged or platonic friends?
5. Does your partner seem like a completely different person?
6. Is your partner acting out of sorts, and their behaviour is all over the map?
7. Are you keeping secrets from each other?

We don’t always evolve at the same time in our relationships. It is very important to talk about what is going on. Sharing everything with your partner that concerns your well-being as a couple is required to sustain longevity. Don’t just sweep things under the rug and hope it will all go away!

There is nothing wrong with changing things up in your partnership. You just need to work out the terms together and ensure you are both on the same page. Having to sit back and just accept these new scenarios isn’t fair to the person having to adapt.

One of the biggest changes that occurs in many relationships is how a couple’s sex life progresses throughout the years!

Has the intimacy and romance changed between you as a couple, and is it making you feel unbalanced? Does your partner want to alter the dynamics? Are they questioning what used to be “the norm” for you both in the bedroom? Are they challenging what you were accustomed to?

Sexual intimacy can change a lot when you spend many years together. It can become routine and lack the early excitement you once shared. It takes two to tango. Both people have to want to partake and be creative. This is key to keeping those fires burning.

This doesn’t mean you have to be OK with everything that your partner suggests. Role-playing or introducing a polyamorous lifestyle certainly isn’t for everyone! The most important thing is to openly discuss this with your partner! Do not pretend things are OK! Be proactive and share your feelings before it escalates and causes a problem that can’t be fixed.

Reciprocated communication is so important to keep things on track.

Unfortunately, lack of communication is the biggest culprit for major changes within a relationship. We assume our partner knows what we’re thinking, and they have actually listened to our concerns. We have all heard the term selective hearing, and this can be a common annoyance in a long-term relationship.

Many couples are guilty of tuning out what we don’t want to hear. Ultimately, you should acknowledge this and pay close attention to your partner. Women often end up with a nagging title because they have to repeat the same thing many times. Sorry to point fingers, guys, but you are awfully good at tuning out when you want to. 😉

If we took the time to make eye contact, it would drastically lower the divorce statistics. Really listening to our partner is important too.

The key to longevity in a relationship is being attentive and continually loving to your partner.

It is so easy to let things go and take each other for granted. However, this is the wrong approach. It will ultimately change the course of your relationship in the opposite direction from where you want it to go.

If you are starting to wonder whether your relationship is considered normal, you are not feeling connected to your partner right now. It’s time to sit down and have a heart-to-heart conversation about what is transpiring within your relationship.

You might end up very happy with some of the changes. This could shake up some new excitement between the two of you. For some people, the term normal can mean a routine or dull environment. Over time, this can make couples complacent and repetitive with their daily lives. Adding a little spice can be just what a couple needs to refresh their relationship.

Sybersue xo <3

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