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As a Woman is it OK to Propose to My Boyfriend?

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Welcome to Dear Sybersue. Today’s topic is: As a Woman is it OK to Propose to My Boyfriend?

Men have had the starring role of this tradition for years, and it is time that women also have the option to propose without thinking it is an aggressive move. As women, we want equality, so we have to rid ourselves of some old belief systems that have been around for years. Why wait for someone to propose marriage if it is something you want?

If you are on the same page within your partnership, then go for it! If you have both openly expressed your love and what you want in your future, then you know where you stand with each other as a couple. Times are changing, and we are continually evolving as men and women, finally leaving some gender traditions behind. If you truly want something, make it happen. Don’t wait for others to make things transpire if it is really important to you.

The good thing about being the one who proposes is that you know you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, and you are in charge of how everything takes place. There is no more wondering if or when your partner will pop the question because you are the one who is making it happen. There is certainly nothing wrong with that. Take the reins in your own hands and do the asking.

Make sure that your Boyfriend would be open to your proposal, and be aware of the type of engagement that he would be comfortable with.

It is important to cater the proposal to his taste as well as your own. If he is a quiet type of guy, he may want a more low-key setting that suits his personality, rather than sharing this special moment with a large audience that includes a group of strangers or all your friends and family.

If your boyfriend has mentioned to you at any time that he is looking forward to the day he proposes, then of course that could cause him to feel slighted if you were to go ahead and be the one who does the honor. Some men really want to take the lead with this and already have a plan in place. Every couple should be aware of how their partner is feeling within the relationship. Listen closely to what they share with you.

There are many people who are frustrated in their relationships because their partner hasn’t proposed after being together for 2-3 years.

This type of scenario is often when ultimatums are introduced, which can cause a lot of friction, and change the dynamics in the partnership. If you are in a committed relationship, you should always know where you stand when it comes to your future with them. You shouldn’t have to guess and wait patiently for them to tell you if they are interested in getting married.

I understand that some women truly want the fairy tale story where their prince sweeps into their life and everything is perfect. They wouldn’t even think about proposing to their boyfriend because that’s just not the way things are supposed to happen for them. Unfortunately, this can turn out to be a disappointing situation that never takes place because there may be some unrealistic expectations within the partnership. Make sure you and your partner are on board with what you both want in a relationship.

The nice thing about living in the millennium is that many things have changed and are continuing to change when it comes to being single or when you are in a relationship. You now have the option to enhance your life in different ways than women had in the past. I personally think it is empowering when things are less stereotypical between the sexes. You can date, marry or propose to whomever you like without being judged.

Love is love and who you choose to share your life with is your prerogative. If you decide you want to be the one in your partnership who gets down one knee to propose marriage to your person, then you have to right to do so. It doesn’t matter what sex you are. All that matters is that you share a reciprocated love with one another and that your relationship goals are in a happy and healthy place.

Sybersue xo <3

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