5 Important Things a Couple Needs to Know Before Getting Married
Whether you’re engaged, living together, or you are in a committed relationship and contemplating making things more official, this is a good post for you to read. Today we will discuss the important things that you need to know to help keep your partnership flourishing for many years to come.
It is really not that difficult to maintain a happy home life but many people don’t take the time to keep things fresh or understand how important it is to make their partner the first priority. For some crazy reason, things get taken for granted and the appreciation once shared for each other diminishes.
A relationship is a full-time job but that doesn’t mean it has to be tedious or dull. If every couple put in the same amount of effort as they do in their career or daily job activities, the divorce statistics would dramatically decrease!
Before you make any relationship commitment is very wise to ensure you are compatible in numerous areas. We all know that chemistry is very important but if you don’t have all the other elements that keep you close for the long haul, then your relationship will slowly start to fizzle out.
So what are these 5 things that we need to pay close attention to?
I can tell you that there are a lot more than 5 things you need to do in your partnership to keep it in a healthy place, but if you at least implement these priorities listed below, it will definitely help you to maintain your relationship goals.
- You Need to be on the Same Emotional Level as Your Partner
A couple needs to be able to feel safe enough to show their true emotions and it is important that this is reciprocated. If only one person is always sharing their feelings, the relationship will become unbalanced. This is not the time to be introverted and closed off.
When you decide to spend your life with someone you are not only lovers but you should be best friends as well. That friendship will stand the test of time and keep you close even on those off days you may feel during your years together.
No one is immune to always feeling strong in their relationship. We all have those days of self-doubt or feeling a little insecure here and there. It is so wonderful when you are in sync with your partner and you can be supportive of one another at those times.
Never shut your partner out! Always be aware of even small changes in your relationship and nip them in the bud before anything escalates and becomes a much bigger problem.
2. A Couple Should Have Similar Expectations
It is not selfish to have expectations and if you want to have a great relationship you should have morals and values that are important to you. If there are too many differences between you and your partner, this could cause a lot of friction.
Opposites may attract but they don’t always stay together.
Having similar goals gives you things to look forward to in your future as a couple. This makes it a two way street with each of you contributing to your partnership. It is not a continual power struggle because you want the same things. Relationships become problematic when there are control issues.
Make sure that any quirky behaviors that you or your partner have, is something you can both live with. These things may seem small in the beginning, but over a long period of time, they can become huge annoyances! Irreconcilable differences are exactly these types of scenarios and can be the catalyst in many marriage problems.
3. Trust and Honesty
We all have a few small secrets locked in the basement of our minds and that is OK unless you are blatantly hiding or lying about something that could truly hurt your relationship.
It is very important to confess anything crucial to your partner before you end up walking down that aisle. It is not fair for your partner to be blindsided at a later date by something that you were being dishonest about.
During your marriage, it is very important to always be honest with each other. Little white lies often grow into much bigger problems. Once the trust is tarnished it is really hard to come back from. It also causes big insecurities within the partnership.
4. Communication: Listening and Hearing What Each Other Has to Say
Lack of communication is one of the biggest relationship complaints with most of my clients. This becomes a problem because when someone doesn’t feel heard, they don’t feel validated or respected by their partner. They feel that their conversation is completely ignored and swept under the rug without a thought.
Selective hearing is not OK!
When you start to tune your partner out, your partner is on the way to checking out on you, permanently. There is nothing worse than feeling lonely in your marriage. Being able to communicate as a couple really helps you stay connected and also helps you feel secure in your partnership. Sharing your thoughts and opinions on a daily basis will always keep you close. <3
5. You are Both on the Same Sexual Page
Well, this one really goes without saying and is the #1 reason for longevity in most marriages. Couples that play together, stay together wink, wink! 😉 When you have a healthy sex life it can make all those other life issues less stressful.
Why is that?
Oxytocin is an amazing chemical that is released when we hug or make love. It is actually known as “the love hormone!” This is what makes intimacy and romance the glue to any long-term relationship. It keeps you wanting more and continually lures you back to this feel-good place of ecstasy! It literally does put a big swing in your step! Hello! What bad mood?
There are so many jokes about marriage and non-existent sex, but I can assure you it is not funny when it causes your marriage to crumble. If you do nothing else, keep that part of your relationship in a good place.
It is not OK to stop making love to your partner unless of course there is a medical reason. It may feel like a chore getting in the mood some days, but I can assure you that once you get into the hugging and kissing foreplay, the rest will naturally flow. Kissing your partner passionately every day will also help keep those fires lit!
Sybersue xo <3
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