2 Big Relationship Problems You Shouldn’t Ignore!
Thank you for visiting Dear Sybersue. Today’s topic is a big one that affects many relationships!
These two problems can be the reason for the demise of a partnership if they are continually ignored.
#1 Selective Hearing!
We all want to tune out hearing things we don’t like but if you are constantly shutting out your partner you need to really think about your actions here. If you feel that some of the conversations are unnecessarily repetitive and you are becoming very frustrated, gently communicate this to them. They may not be aware of their behavior and this may help you fix things at home before they escalate into a bigger problem.
If you are just pretending you don’t hear what your partner is saying so you can get out of helping with household chores or running errands, this will eventually become a huge annoyance in your relationship. Reciprocated compromise and communication are the keywords here!
We all want to feel heard and also have our feelings validated. Being ignored on a regular basis is a disrespectful way to handle things. Most people don’t want to sound like a broken record and harp on about the same things every day. This is why it is so important to listen to each other in a relationship. No one wants to be labeled as a nag!
If you have a difficult time remembering things that your partner needs your help for each day, write them down on your calendar to remind yourself. It is so nice when your partner steps up and is there without having to be reminded about every little thing. It’s so refreshing when a couple actually hears what each other is saying!
#2 Forgetting to Nurture Your Partnership!
This is another big oversight that happens in numerous relationships today, especially after being in a long-term commitment. People get lazy and start to take their partners for granted. This is so aggravatingly true and one of the biggest reasons for the high divorce statistics today! Never become complacent in your relationship and never forget the reasons that made you fall in love!
- The feeling you felt when you first set eyes on each other?
- Those sweet gestures you did for one another?
- The loving words you spoke in the bedroom?
- Those lustful moments you shared often?
- How much you cared about your partner being attracted to you?
- The intimate date nights and how much effort you made to look nice for each other?
- How often you both said “I love You!”
- When they were your biggest priority!
- When you listened with admiration to every word they spoke.
- How romantic you both were towards each other.
This list could be a lot longer but you get the gist of where I am going with this. No one said a relationship is easy but you certainly don’t have to make it harder by refusing to maintain the nurturing aspect of why you fell in love in the first place. Do you stop loving and nurturing your children over the years? No! So why do so many people put in less energy with their partners? It doesn’t really make sense, does it?
One of my popular videos on youtube is titled: I’m Not Physically Attracted to My Partner Anymore I decided to discuss this topic due to all the emails I received from both sexes on the subject. Taking care of yourself and making the effort to look attractive for yourself and your partner, will help keep the intimate fires burning at home.
This doesn’t mean you have to be a certain clothing size or spend a ton of money to maintain a certain look. This means taking the time to “keep your sexy up” within your relationship! Much of this has to do with confidence and feeling attractive. When you put a little energy into maintaining your attractive qualities, you feel good about yourself and your partner stays attracted to you. It’s really that simple!
Date nights are very important to keep the romance intact. You both need to get out of the house, have some fun and play together. Talking over a glass of wine or a coffee in a restaurant is a nice way to open up with each other without the distractions and routines of home life.
Sex is important but it should include romance. It’s not just an act to get to the happy ending. It is supposed to be an intimate time that keeps a couple connected and in love. <3 (I’m certainly not saying that an occasional quickie is a bad thing; sometimes it’s just what the doctor ordered during a couple’s busy schedule!)
You should try to be on the same page with your partner when it comes to sexual intimacy. If you’re not feeling sexy on certain days talk to them about it. Ignoring this important part of your relationship is not only a mistake, it is dismissive towards your partner. It’s not a nice feeling when you are constantly being turned down.
To be blunt, being emotionally and sexually disconnected from your partner is the recipe for divorce. You both have the power to nurture and maintain your relationship just by paying attention to each other’s needs and desires.
*Please watch the video above to see what you can do to maintain a happy home as a couple for many years to come.
Sybersue xo <3
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