How Can I Trust my Judgement in Men When I Was So Wrong in Choosing My Ex?

How Can I Trust my Judgement in Men When I Was So Wrong in Choosing My Ex?

In today’s video Dear Sybersue discusses Cindy’s relationship question:

Dear Sybersue,

“How do I get over a past relationship and learn to trust myself again. How could I have been so wrong with choosing a partner that turned out to be such a bad relationship for me?

How do I trust my own judgement again? This isn’t the first time I have had to deal with this. I don’t want to end up in another drama filled scenario, what can I do to change this?” 

Thank you, Cindy 

Dear Cindy,

Ahhhh if we only had 100% clarity on all things in life…Unfortunately this is not the case and sometimes we are left all alone trying to figure it out;  hopefully without repeating the same continual drama in our lives.

But guess what? You’re not alone!

We ALL go through hurtful stuff but it is how we deal with this steaming pile of crap, that will move us faster up the ladder to “getting where we need to be” in this world of ongoing lessons!

Cindy, you have the ultimate say on who you attract and more importantly with whom you allow into your life as a partner. Saying that; once you take responsibility with the  part you played in this past relationship, it will help you understand these questioning trust issues you have.

You are probably thinking;  “What’s she talking about??? “I didn’t play any games or act any weird way, I was just being myself!” 

I am sure you were just being yourself  but maybe there is something you aren’t really paying close attention to. You might not trust yourself because you are burying a past hurt or you have some long standing emotional issues you have ignored up until now.

If anything in your life is repetitive drama or consists of any toxic behavior you have to fix it! The trouble is, most of us are afraid to open Pandora’s box for fear of what we may find inside about ourselves!

You don’t have to figure this out alone; in fact I would strongly suggest that you don’t.

It may be time to talk to a professional who can help you get to the bottom of the why you have stopped trusting your own judgment and get you onto a healthier path.

The good news is you are acknowledging that there is a problem by writing me and understanding that something needs to change.

Go girl! You are half way there to changing your life. 

Susan McCord (aka Dear Sybersue)

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My Relationship: Should I Stay or Should I go?

My Relationship: Should I Stay or Should I go?

Dear Sybersue discusses a common relationship question. Should you stay in a partnership that is constantly having problems? Are you breaking up and getting back together all the time? Can it work or is it time to move on to a healthier place?

How often have you heard the story about the couple who were constantly and off again, finally get married and then end up divorced a few years later? When things are good in a relationship it is not that much drama. There will always be little arguments over the years but to get to the point where you take numerous breaks or actually break up, is a sign, or should I say HUGE RED FLAG that things are not meant to be with you as a couple.

You shouldn’t have to talk yourself into being there or decide that your relationship was better than nothing after diving back out into the nightmare dating pool for a few months. Compatibility is everything and if there are just too many obstacles or opposite view points, it becomes a repetitive daily struggle being together. Love shouldn’t be forced or constantly compromised for someone else. It needs to be reciprocated and respected!

Don’t waste too much time fighting your life away with someone; move on to a healthier place where you can be best friends as well as romantic partners in a stress free and loving environment. Know when the relationship has fizzled beyond repair, take away the good things your learned from it and be thankful for your time together. Leave the anger behind as it takes two to mess up a relationship. Own your stuff and move along to being an even better you.

Susan McCord  The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
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