This video above by Matthew Hussey discusses what to do when a guy flakes out on your date at the last minute. His advice is spot on!
The only thing I would have added to his input is to tell the woman that she shouldn’t have texted the guy after he bailed on their date. She texted him a few days later asking him how he was.
If you really want to know if someone is interested in you, let them show you!
After someone disrespects you and blows you off with a terrible last minute excuse, why would you want to see them again? They showed their true colors and who they really are.
If you are kind enough to give them a second chance, it’s up to them to make it up to you. If you become the aggressor in this situation, you will never know if he is truly interested in you or just texting back because you make it easy for him.
If he had called or texted with an apology the next day and scheduled another date that is one thing, but texting him back first without having any etiquette expectations shows that you have very little respect for yourself. That is what dating is all about; seeing if there is not only a connection but also paying attention to the red flags that happen early on.
When a date flakes on you or ghosts you on the first few dates without a valid reason you need to remove yourself from having any further contact. First impressions make or break that second date and in this case you can do much better.
Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show
I laughed out loud when I saw Matthew’s One Direction Parody video on YouTube! Not only did he do a great job lip syncing, he pointed out some valuable information about the lyrics of this popular song and what they really mean. The name of the song; “The Perfect Guy” is not what the video portrays that’s for sure!
The boy band One Direction, is a huge success and just won artist of the year on the AMA (American Music Awards) this week which is why it is important to point out what they are actually saying to millions of young female fans in this song. The message here girls is to REALLY listen to what a guy is saying to you because more often than not, they do tell you what they want and what they don’t want when they first meet you!
Here are the lyrics to The Perfect Guy:
If you hear comments like these listed below, listen to them because this is what a guy wants you to hear:
- I’m not looking for a relationship.
- I’m very busy and don’t have a lot of time to give you right now.
- I just got out of a relationship so I want to date others as well.
- I don’t want kids.
- I don’t ever want to get married.
- I’m a confirmed bachelor.
- I don’t trust women!
- I want to travel and I am not sure where I want to settle yet.
- I’ve got 4 more years of school and that is my priority.
- I’m just looking for a casual hook up.
Contrary to what many heartbroken women say about a guy who breaks up with them for one of these reasons; he did tell you what he wanted in the beginning but you chose to hear it the way you wanted to interpret it. So many women think they can “be the one” to change his mind!
This is a common scenario and a big frustration with men. Ladies; if a man says any of the above comments to you when you first meet him and you are looking for a commitment, walk the other way! Don’t spend time trying to lure him into your charming web if he has already told you he wants to date others, he’s not ready for a commitment or he can only see you sporadically. Move on to someone who is ready and has the same relationship goals that you do.
Timing is everything and so is self respect! Be true to yourself and always listen to what a person is really saying. Don’t twist their words to make it what you want to hear. Put your energy into someone who is ready for love and not into the guy who is still in the outfield playing ball. You will save yourself a Hell of a lot of heartache; I promise you that!
Thank you Matthew Hussey for another great video and reminder to the ladies out there in “Date Land” to pay attention!
Susan McCord at The Dear Sybersue Talk Show