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In today’s video I discuss the topic: “Have you been cheated on in many of your relationships?” “Why does it keep happening?” This can be very hurtful and leave you feeling unworthy and very deflated.
Each scenario compounds a deep sadness into your soul.
There is something going on that makes you choose this same type of partnership which needs to addressed. We choose who we allow into our lives and if the pattern is disturbingly repetitive, you need to get some answers!
Your self esteem plays a big part in who you end up with in a relationship. When you’re not comfortable with who you are as a person it can become a big problem with many choices or decisions you make in any part of your life.
Learning how to build your self confidence is a big necessity when it comes to removing damaging patterns that you can’t seem to let go of.
If drama seems to continually follow you in your love-life; it is time to seek some outside coaching or counseling. It is not healthy to live this way because it is all you know and is familiar to you!
This is not a “good” familiar it is an “unhealthy” familiar. Just because you are used to feeling a certain way doesn’t make it the right way. Love isn’t painful and it certainly doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice who you are to be in a partnership.
A reciprocated love is the only way a partnership really works in a long term commitment. There is equal respect for each other and you are each other’s priority. You know in your heart whether someone is really there for you so don’t pretend or make excuses for someone just so you can be in a relationship.
Your morals and values are a big part of who you are, don’t put them on the back burner and ignore them. They are your guide to having all things positive in your life. ❤
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How many times have you heard this line on TV or in real life? Would you be able to get past your partner cheating on you & if you were able to forgive them could you ever really forget? Which sex has the harder time dealing with this scenario?
Why Do Some Women Cheat?
Why Do Some Men Cheat?
While you might be able to forgive someone for cheating, both men & women never really lose that deep feeling of hurt & or get back the trust 100% in their broken relationship. (Of course it depends on what transpired for someone to take the risk in cheating outside the partnership.) It is never easy to move on & forgive but a onetime situation is probably easier to get past than a full blown affair that lasted for several months or years. This wound may never heal because they invested their time with someone else while lying to you for an extended period of time! That premeditated relationship will never be forgotten for the person who was deceived & humiliated.
Being the last one to know your partner is having an intimate liaison outside your home is devastating!
Cheating or being cheated on at a young age can be life altering in a few ways. It can either help make you “clearly” see how you played a part in it, or mess you up for years after depending on how your ego deals with it. Cheating can actually be the catalyst to subconsciously getting out of a bad relationship; but you should be strong enough to end it without bringing someone else into the mix! Breakups are difficult enough without adding the hurt of infidelity.
Part of maturity & growth is learning how to evolve from life’s twists & turns. This includes every person you have allowed into your heart; what did you learn & why were they there? Everyone you meet has a purpose as to why entered your world. Understanding the message will help you continue onto the next exciting path. Holding onto anger or continually choosing abusive relationships will only hinder your future happiness. Toxic behavior needs to be removed for a person to become whole.
When a relationship is in need of a change, the signs are usually there right from the start but many couples choose to overlook them. This is the dangerous part of a relationship when nurturing needs to be addressed, not ignored. It is so easy to make a busy life the priority over a partnership because so many people take their relationship for granted. Never get too comfortable that you think you can relax & neglect cherishing your partner.
It is usually a two way street when infidelity enters a partnership. The importance of staying connected emotionally & physically is so important on a daily basis. Each person needs to feel loved & safe in their commitment. When this scenario becomes unbalanced & left undiscussed is when the bond is weakened as insecurities enter the relationship & trust becomes an issue. Talking regularly & sharing conversations about “everything” will help strengthen the partnership. Sexually activity keeps the love alive like nothing else & should not be ignored. Never be too preoccupied to show love to your partner. Complements & affection is the building blocks to relationship longevity. Never be too busy to throw another log of the fire to keep the passion lit ~ your partner should always be #1.
Susan McCord @ https://www.youtube.com/twobeavers