Relationship Question: Would You Choose Your Partner All Over Again?

Relationship Question: Would You Choose Your Partner All Over Again?

Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating and relationship advice columnist for men and women. In today’s video above, Sybersue discusses the question; “Would you choose your partner all over again?”

You will be surprised by the answers many couples give! What would you say when asked this question? What do you do if the answer is no? Can you fix things in your relationship? Do you want to?

Over the years many couples become complacent and just give up trying to keep the romance alive in their relationship because too many things get in the way!

Time with the kids, careers and financial stress take a toll on partnerships and if you don’t know how to balance this, your bedroom will end up being a boring platonic place just for you to sleep!

When the sex fizzles so do many relationships!

Why do people think it is easier to give up on their relationship than to try to keep it in the intimate place it was years ago when they first met? Yes it’s a lot of work but so is everything in life!

Is it really a better idea to just live in a loveless partnership or to have to start over again and go back out to the online dating scenario of the millennium?

Are either of those great options?

If there is anything salvageable within your long term commitment, it is worth making things right. If you have grown in different directions and really feel that things are over, it is time to move on so that you both can be happy.

Staying together out of fear or laziness is not being fair to anyone and you are shortchanging yourself and your partner.

With a little effort on both parts, a couple can stay in a healthy and loving partnership. There are many people who make it work! Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to answer “yes” to the question; “Would you choose your partner all over again?”

Wouldn’t it feel great to know that you didn’t ignore your relationship and made it a priority over the years and that you taught your kids what love really is?

Consistency, communication, romance, respect and putting each other first are relationship enhancers. If you keep all of those important factors of your partnership alive and it is also reciprocated by them, you will see how smoothly the years flow lovingly by.

Why wouldn’t you give it your all?

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Taylor-Rae – “Incredibly Single” Music Video

Taylor-Rae – “Incredibly Single” Music Video

I met this incredible singer Taylor -Rae recently at The Roxy in Vancouver, Canada.  Not only is a very talented solo vocalist,  she sings in a band called Taylor-Rae & The Back Seat Drivers.

They are such a fantastic group and each one of them sings beautifully! They are a versatile band specializing in performing a variety of different genres from Top 40 to Country and even classic Rock.

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Taylor-Rae and The Back Seat Drivers Band

The Backseat Drivers are a group comprised of Cody Fox, Ryan Brown, Blue Morris and Alex Caron. These talented musicians are extremely versatile performers who always amaze the audience with their vocal and instrumental prowess.

I am a huge music fan and adamantly watch The Voice and American Idol each season because I love to see new talent discovered! I would like to see Taylor_Rae try out for the Voice!! I also like to share other people’s content and give them a shout out. (Which I will be doing a lot more often on Sybersue!)

We need to be there for each other and appreciate the hard work so many men and women put in every day towards their passion! Tayor-Rae isn’t just all about country music either, listen to her sing Hello by Adele in the video below! ❤

Hello – Adele (Cover by Taylor-Rae)

Taylor-Rae Bio:

Taylor-Rae is a modern country artist from Edmonton, AB that has the ability to draw you into the story behind her music whether it is a lighthearted story of adventure, or a heartfelt ballad.

In Edmonton she performed at Canadian Finals Rodeo to over 1000 people, Big Valley Jamboree with 25, 000 people in attendance everyday, and was invited to sing a song of remembrance for an audience of 5000 for the Jace Harty Memorial Pro Bull Riding Event.

Since moving to Vancouver in 2012 for university, Taylor-Rae has only progressed musically learning guitar and piano to write her own songs and grow as an artist. Her dominant vocals has also landed her a notable position at Vancouver’s Talent Development Studio, Studio Cloud 30 teaching vocal lessons.

In addition to her solo music she is also apart of a unique choral group, The Top Line Vocal Collective. Top Line is an exclusive one of a kind choral group built on the foundation of harmony, rhythm and fun. This non-denominational, community-based vocal ensemble showcases 40 of the best voices in Vancouver through the sounds of traditional and contemporary R&B, Soul and Classic Gospel.

Through solo performances and performances with The Top Line Vocal Collective Taylor-Rae has played at a wide variety of venues and events including:

Honda Celebration of Lights, Pacific National Exhibition, Vancouver Celebrates Pride, Voices of Hope, Vancouver Christmas Market, Studio Cloud 30 Red Carpet Series, Kay Meek Mingle of the Jingles, Light the Night Vancouver, SFU Woodwards, The Roxy, Million Dollar  Round Table, Brilliant! 2016 and more.

This is just the beginning of a long road for Taylor-Rae, but she couldn’t be more excited for the ride and the people she will connect with along the way. 

I’m excited for you too Taylor-Rae!  You rock! Literally!

❤ hugs xo Sybersue

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How Do I Prevent Losing My Independence in Another Relationship?

How Do I Prevent Losing My Independence in Another Relationship?

Dear Sybersue, 

Why do I keep getting myself into relationships where I lose myself in the process? Why do I end up being there for everything that concerns my partner’s needs while I put myself on the back burner?

This isn’t the first time I have done this and eventually the relationship ends which I assume is due to me being a doormat.  Why can’t I seem to respect myself enough to push my own needs ahead of my partner once in awhile?

Thanks for any advice you have!

Carrie

Hi Carrie,

Thanks so much for your question. There are many other men and women that would like to know the answer to this as well.

Some people are givers and some people are takers and we all know what category you fall into. This is not a bad thing and it just needs to be “tweeked a little” so that your relationship isn’t one sided all the time.

A partner should be an extension of who you are not take away from the person you are.

A great relationship is one where you are both there for each other but you still have your own dreams, goals and separate interests. Of course you should always have each other’s back and support them, but never give up who you are as person for someone else.

Think about this; would you want your partner attached to your hip at every given moment?

After awhile that would get very old and you would start to feel smothered. It is wonderful to have their respect and know that they love you “that much,” but there still needs to be some breathing room in your relationship.

(This also could be a codependent issue where you may need to talk to a therapist about some past issues you may not be aware of or have pushed aside.)

Carrie, you need to get busy with your own life and stop focusing on him so much. Your partner will be much more attracted to you when you are enjoying yourself and adding some diversity to you as a couple.

You will have new things to talk about and to share with each other. It’s not all about just one person and if they are happy or not.

You need to be happy too!

Start making plans to get out a few times a week with friends or take a course that interests you. Mark dates on the calendar so that it forces you to commit to something outside your house that doesn’t involve your partner.

You will notice an improvement in your home life after a short time because it will “center you” and put a new spring in your step because you are doing something worthwhile for you!

Hallelujah!

Your partner will enjoy seeing this side of you and it will slowly start to change the dynamics of who you are as a couple. This is a good thing because you are now in a reciprocated relationship where you “both” have interesting things to talk about.

Please watch the video above and let me know how things go in the next while.

Sybersue ❤

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How Do I Change up My Relationship Drama Patterns?

How Do I Change up My Relationship Drama Patterns?

In today’s video Dear Sybersue discusses relationship patterns that aren’t working for many people.

  • Is there too much drama in all of your partnerships?
  • Are you attracting the same types over and over again and not understanding that there is a problem and that you just go onto the next person without too much thought?
  • Are you continually wondering why you are single once again?
  • Have your past relationships been one sided in many aspects of the partnership?
  • Is it a constant struggle to communicate or to be understood in most of your relationships?

If your partnerships are always ending in the same manner, you have a repetitive problem that isn’t being addressed.  Could it be that maybe you are a little stubborn and in denial about the part you play in your relationships?

The old cliche that it takes two people to be in a great relationship still holds true today, so once you take a good hard look at yourself and analyse your actions, you will start to see a destructive pattern.

We spend so much time going after what is on the “top” of our high maintenance checklist that we overlook the fundamentals of what makes the foundation of a strong and loving relationship! We get lost in the trivial and superficial traits that we think are important!

The good news is; it can be fixed! 

It’s time to investigate why you are choosing the wrong people. You need to revise your priorities and step away from that quick sand that you keep having to dig yourself out of.  Relationships shouldn’t have to be a constant struggle, nor should you have to give up “who you are” to be in one.

When a relationship is right, it flows and you work side by side to keep the communication lines open. It is not a drama filled scenario, it is a loving and safe place to be. ❤

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Have you Been Cheated on in Many of Your Relationships?

Have you Been Cheated on in Many of Your Relationships?

Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating and relationship advice columnist for men & women of all Ages!

In today’s video I discuss the topic: “Have you been cheated on in many of your relationships?” “Why does it keep happening?” This can be very hurtful and leave you feeling unworthy and very deflated.

Each scenario compounds a deep sadness into your soul.

There is something going on that makes you choose this same type of partnership which needs to addressed. We choose who we allow into our lives and if the pattern is disturbingly repetitive, you need to get some answers!

Your self esteem plays a big part in who you end up with in a relationship. When you’re not comfortable with who you are as a person it can become a big problem with many choices or decisions you make in any part of your life.

Learning how to build your self confidence is a big necessity when it comes to removing damaging patterns that you can’t seem to let go of.

If drama seems to continually follow you in your love-life; it is time to seek some outside coaching or counseling. It is not healthy to live this way because it is all you know and is familiar to you!

This is not a “good” familiar it is an “unhealthy” familiar. Just because you are used to feeling a certain way doesn’t make it the right way.  Love isn’t painful and it certainly doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice who you are to be in a partnership. 

A reciprocated love is the only way a partnership really works in a long term commitment. There is equal respect for each other and you are each other’s priority. You know in your heart whether someone is really there for you so don’t pretend or make excuses for someone just so you can be in a relationship.

Your morals and values are a big part of who you are, don’t put them on the back burner and ignore them. They are your guide to having all things positive in your life. ❤

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Would you Date “You?” Do You Know How You Come Across to Others?

Would you Date “You?” Do You Know How You Come Across to Others?

In today’s video above Dear Sybersue discusses your dating life and your attitude that goes along with it.

Are you happy with how you come across to others? Do you make a great first impression or are you too rigid, stuck up or way too picky about who you will date?

It might be time to take a good hard look in the mirror if your dating life sucks.

Ask a trusted friend or a family member how you come across to others.

  1. Are you friendly and open to others when you initially meet them or does it take you numerous meetings before you warm up to people?
  2. Are you shy? Many people claim they are shy but actually appear removed or uninterested.
  3. Do you have a happy persona or is your “resting bitch face” what people see first? (There is a reason that term is hanging around!)
  4. Are you more interested in your phone than the people in the room?
  5. When introduced to someone do you give them a smile and direct eye contact? That first hello is the most important part of any interaction with someone you just met.
  6. Do you like who you are and are you proud of your accomplishments?
  7. Do you regularly use sarcasm as a form of humor?
  8. Do you openly talk about your flaws or insecurities right away, as if getting this “over with” will show your honesty and endear them to you? (Isn’t it more of an optimistic approach to show them your best qualities first?)
  9. Is your checklist long and unreasonable? Would you be OK if someone you met had one just as long or would you think they were high maintenance?
  10. Do you cut yourself down in front of others because you don’t feel you have much to offer?
  11. Are you a good communicator and able to express yourself with your words and your body language?
  12. Are you sure you are ready to date and not holding onto to past relationship drama or scars? Some people sabotage their dating scenarios because of this reason and do not even realize it.

It’s never too late to make changes to be a better person but first you have to understand what needs changing. If things are constantly back-firing from what you are truly looking for, there is a reason.

It’s not because “there isn’t anyone out there to date,” it is because of something happening within “you” that is blocking a potential partner from entering your life.

It might be time to hire a dating coach or counselor to see what is really going on. Self esteem plays a big role in how you respond to everything in your life; especially when it comes to love and relationships. Don’t be the last to know.

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Are You Single but Your Friends are Pressuring you to be in a Relationship?

Are You Single but Your Friends are Pressuring you to be in a Relationship?

In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses; “Are you Constantly being pressured by your friends to be in a relationship?”

Do people think they know what is best for you? Are they always trying to set you up with someone but you just want to be left alone?

Does your family also put in their opinions about your relationship status?

It might to be time to tell everyone to butt out if you enjoy being single right now! It’s not their business to be telling you what they think you should or shouldn’t be doing in your life even if they they think they have your best interest at heart. ❤

We all need time to get over a relationship breakup and allow love back into our lives. Sometimes the scars of heartbreak run deep and we need more time to rediscover ourselves without any pressure from others.

It also could be the scenario of putting your career first and you don’t want to complicate your life having to deal with both. Sometimes you just can’t do it all and you know that about yourself. It’s better than juggling too much and giving your partner the dregs of what you have left! No one wants to be that low on the priority list.

This is a good thing because you are respecting and honoring your boundaries at this particular time in your life. 

But on the opposite side of the fence; make sure you aren’t sending out mixed signals to your friends about not wanting to get back out in the dating market again. You might not be aware that you are confiding to them that you are actually missing being in a relationship, how difficult it is being the 3rd wheel or that you feel so alone going solo to a wedding or other events.

It is a great thing that your friends and family care about you so don’t be mad at them for wanting you to find happiness. It is OK to gently communicate that you are very appreciative of their support but you would rather meet someone on your own when the time is right.

Have you had to deal with this scenario? How did you handle it?

Please leave your comments below. ♥

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